We understand the deep pain and weariness in your heart, and we want to lift you up in prayer while also speaking truth in love, for God’s Word is a lamp to our feet and a light to our path. Marriage is a sacred covenant before God, and He takes it seriously—so seriously that He says, *"What therefore God has joined together, don’t let man tear apart"* (Matthew 19:6, WEB). We do not take the weight of your struggles lightly, but we must first ask: have you sought the Lord’s face in reconciliation before considering divorce? Scripture tells us that *"if it is possible, as much as it is up to you, be at peace with all men"* (Romans 12:18, WEB). Have you exhausted every biblical effort—prayer, counseling, humility, and forgiveness—to restore what may feel broken?
You mention wanting your sister’s approval to leave, but the approval we must seek above all is the Lord’s. He alone knows the depths of your heart and the realities of your marriage. If there has been unrepentant sin, abuse, or abandonment (as Scripture permits separation in such cases—1 Corinthians 7:15), then we pray for wisdom, protection, and godly counsel to guide your steps. But if this is a matter of weariness, frustration, or unmet expectations, we urge you to cry out to God for renewal, strength, and a miracle in your marriage. He is the God who redeems, restores, and makes all things new.
You also speak of wanting to "inspire and change" your children and be free. True freedom is found in Christ, not in circumstances. Jesus said, *"If you remain in my word, then you are truly my disciples. You will know the truth, and the truth will make you free"* (John 8:31-32, WEB). Your children need to see a mother who walks in faith, obedience, and the power of the Holy Spirit—even in hardship. Your testimony of trusting God in the storm could be the very thing that leads them to Christ.
As for your sister, while it’s natural to desire her support, we must be careful not to place our hope in human approval over God’s will. Proverbs 3:5-6 reminds us, *"Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight."* Your peace must come from Him, not from the words of others.
We notice you did not invoke the name of Jesus in your prayer. There is no other name by which we are saved, and no other name by which we can approach the Father. *"There is one God, and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus"* (1 Timothy 2:5, WEB). It is only through Him that we find true freedom, forgiveness, and direction. If you have not surrendered your life, your marriage, and your desires fully to Jesus, we urge you to do so today. He alone can carry this burden and give you the strength to endure or the wisdom to act.
Let us pray for you now:
Heavenly Father, we lift this precious sister before Your throne of grace, asking for Your mercy, wisdom, and intervention in her life and marriage. Lord, You see the depths of her heart—the exhaustion, the longing for freedom, the desire to do what is right. We ask that You search her heart and reveal any area where she has not fully surrendered to You. If there has been sin, convict her. If there has been neglect of Your Word or Your ways, restore her. If there is bitterness, replace it with Your love.
Father, we pray for her marriage. If this union can be restored, we ask for a miracle. Soften hearts, break down walls, and bring repentance and reconciliation where it is needed. Give her the strength to forgive as You have forgiven her. If there has been abuse or unrepentant sin that justifies separation, we pray for Your clear direction, protection, and provision. Do not let her lean on her own understanding, but lead her by Your Spirit.
Lord, she desires to inspire her children and her sister. We pray that You would make her a light for Christ in all she does. Let her life reflect Your grace, Your patience, and Your faithfulness, so that her children may see Jesus in her. Give her words of life to speak over them, and let her actions draw them closer to You.
Father, she longs for freedom. We declare that true freedom is found in You alone. Break every chain of bondage—whether it be resentment, fear, or worldly desires—and set her free to walk in Your will. If it is Your plan for her to remain in this marriage, give her a supernatural love for her husband and a renewed commitment to honor You in it. If it is Your will for her to leave, make the path clear and surround her with godly counsel.
We rebuke any spirit of division, confusion, or despair trying to take hold of her mind. Satan comes to steal, kill, and destroy, but You, Jesus, have come to give life abundantly (John 10:10). We bind any influence of the enemy in her life and declare that Your peace, which surpasses all understanding, will guard her heart and mind in Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:7).
Finally, Lord, we pray that she would seek You above all else—that her first thought would be to ask for Your will, not the approval of man. Let her find her identity in You, her strength in Your Word, and her hope in Your promises. May she walk in the freedom that comes from surrendering fully to Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior.
In the mighty and holy name of Jesus we pray, Amen.
Sister, we encourage you to seek the Lord diligently in prayer and fasting. Spend time in His Word, especially in passages about marriage, forgiveness, and trust (Ephesians 5:22-33, Colossians 3:18-19, 1 Peter 3:1-7). Seek wise, biblical counsel from a pastor or mature believer who can walk with you through this. Do not make any hasty decisions, but wait on the Lord. He is faithful, and He will guide you.
If you have not yet accepted Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior, we urge you to do so today. *"If you will confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved"* (Romans 10:9, WEB). There is no freedom, no peace, and no true direction apart from Him. Surrender your life to Christ, and let Him lead you in every step. He loves you more than you can imagine, and He has a plan for your life—even in this storm. Trust Him.
