We hear your deep cry for restoration in your marriage, and we stand with you in fervent prayer, lifting this matter before the throne of grace. The pain of broken vows and unfulfilled commitments is heavy, and we grieve with you over the fracture in your union. Yet we also recognize the hope that remains in Christ, for He is the God who heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds (Psalm 147:3).
First, we must address the foundation of all prayer—access to the Father is only through the name of Jesus Christ. There is no other name under heaven by which we must be saved (Acts 4:12). It is by His blood alone that we are reconciled to God, and it is in His authority that we pray. If your spouse does not yet know Christ as Savior, we pray first for her salvation, that the eyes of her heart may be opened to the truth of the Gospel. For unless one is born again, they cannot see the kingdom of God (John 3:3). We declare that the Holy Spirit would convict her of sin, righteousness, and judgment (John 16:8), leading her to godly sorrow that produces repentance unto life without regret (2 Corinthians 7:10).
Your reference to the vows made before God is critical. Marriage is a covenant, not merely a contract, and God takes covenant-keeping seriously. The Lord hates divorce (Malachi 2:16), and He calls us to honor our word, even when it is costly (Psalm 15:4). We rebuke any spirit of deception, hardness of heart, or rebellion that would cause your spouse to delay or neglect the commitments she has made. The Word warns that it is better not to vow than to vow and not fulfill it (Ecclesiastes 5:5). We pray that the Holy Spirit would bring deep conviction, not merely for temporary remorse, but for a lasting transformation of heart and mind.
We also lift up the agreements you made together regarding Bible study, church attendance, and biblical marriage counseling. These are not optional extras but essential disciplines for a marriage built on Christ. We pray that your spouse would submit to the authority of Scripture and the accountability of the local church. Let her not be like those who shrink back from the truth but press on toward maturity in Christ (Hebrews 10:38-39). We declare that she would honor her "yes" as "yes" (Matthew 5:37) and walk in integrity before the Lord.
Yet we must also examine our own hearts in this matter. Have we, as husbands, loved our wives as Christ loved the church, laying down our lives for them (Ephesians 5:25)? Have we been quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to anger (James 1:19)? Have we extended grace and forgiveness, even when deeply wounded? We pray that you would be a man of prayer, patience, and perseverance, trusting God to work all things together for good (Romans 8:28). Do not grow weary in doing good, for in due season you will reap if you do not faint (Galatians 6:9).
We rebuke every spirit of division, unforgiveness, and bitterness that seeks to destroy your marriage. We command every assignment of the enemy against your union to be broken in the name of Jesus. We pray that the angels of the Lord would encamp around your spouse, protecting her from temptation, deception, and the schemes of the evil one (Psalm 91:11). Let no weapon formed against your marriage prosper (Isaiah 54:17), and let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts (Colossians 3:15).
Heavenly Father, we come before You with hearts burdened for this marriage. We ask that You would pour out Your Spirit upon this husband and wife, bringing deep conviction of sin and a hunger for righteousness. Soften hearts that have grown hard, and replace pride with humility. We pray for a supernatural work of repentance in this wife’s life, that she would turn from any path that dishonors You and return to the vows she made before You. Give her a godly sorrow that leads to life, not death, and a heart that seeks after You above all else.
Lord, we ask that You would restore the years the locusts have eaten (Joel 2:25) in this marriage. Rebuild what has been broken, heal what has been wounded, and renew the love that has grown cold. Let this couple be a testimony to Your faithfulness, that others may see Your glory in their restored union. We pray that they would walk together in unity, submitting to one another out of reverence for Christ (Ephesians 5:21).
Father, we also pray for wisdom and discernment for this husband. Give him the strength to stand firm in faith, even when the road is difficult. Let him be a man of prayer, interceding for his wife and trusting You to move in her heart. May he love her with the same selfless love that Christ has shown the church, and may he lead with gentleness and humility.
We declare that this marriage is under the blood of Jesus, and no power of hell can prevail against it. We speak life, restoration, and reconciliation over this union. May Your will be done in their lives, and may Your name be glorified through their marriage. In the mighty name of Jesus, we pray. Amen.
Holy Spirit Conviction Jn 16:18, Repents 2 Pet 3:9 
Matrimonial spouse given godly sorrow producing repentance leading to life 2 Cor 7:10... 
Father, for the sake of Your Word, Eph 5:32, Our vows, and our offspring -- Give godly sorrow producing a LASTING CHANGE OF HEART AND MIND to my matrimonial spouse, 2 Cor 7:10… I ask she honor her commitments to attend Bible Study, Church and Biblical Marriage Counseling WE AGREED to BEFORE I left My Home Country 
to COMMIT to REBUILDING the relationship here in Asia — “A righteous person keeps their promises even when it hurts,” Ps 15:4; and "Do not delay your vows to God -- He takes no pleasure in fools. Better to not vow than make God angry and destroy the work of Your hands, Ecc 5:4-5, 6. "Let your 'yes' be 'yes,' (anything beyond that is evil, says Jesus), Matt 5:37. Conviction of righteousness, sin and judgement to come, John 16:18. Give Your angels charge over them and keep them from sin, temptation, evil, evil people and the evil one -- keep deception and lies far from them, in Jesus' Name.
