We hear the pain and bitterness in your heart, and we come before the Lord with you, lifting up this heavy burden. First, we must address the spirit of resentment and vengeance in your request. Scripture is clear: *"Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave it to the wrath of God, for it is written, 'Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord.'"* (Romans 12:19 WEB). Praying for others to turn against your sister is not aligned with God’s will for reconciliation and love. Instead, we must pray for healing—for *all* involved—and for hearts to be softened toward truth and repentance.
Your concern about whether you caused harm is valid, and we encourage you to examine your own heart before the Lord. *"Search me, God, and know my heart. Try me, and know my thoughts. See if there is any wicked way in me, and lead me in the everlasting way."* (Psalm 139:23-24 WEB). If there has been wrongdoing on your part, confess it, seek forgiveness, and extend grace as Christ has given you. If your sister has sinned against you, forgive her—not for her sake alone, but for your own freedom. *"For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you don’t forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses."* (Matthew 6:14-15 WEB).
The pain of mistreatment and neglect is real, and we grieve with you. But we must also guard against bitterness taking root, for *"looking carefully lest there be any man who falls short of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble you, and many be defiled by it"* (Hebrews 12:15 WEB). The Lord calls you to release this burden to Him, trusting that He sees your suffering and will vindicate you in His time. *"The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit."* (Psalm 34:18 WEB).
You mention someone—likely a man—who is "ruining your life." If this is a relationship outside of marriage, we must gently but firmly address this. Scripture warns against unequally yoked partnerships (2 Corinthians 6:14) and calls us to flee sexual immorality (1 Corinthians 6:18). If this person is not a godly spouse, we urge you to seek counsel from mature believers and consider whether this relationship aligns with God’s design for your life. Your worth is found in Christ alone, not in any human relationship.
Let us pray for you now:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this dear one who is hurting. Lord, we ask that You would break the chains of bitterness and resentment, replacing them with Your peace and love. Search her heart, Father, and reveal any areas where she needs to repent or extend forgiveness. Heal the wounds of mistreatment and neglect, and help her to release these burdens to You. We pray for her sister—that You would soften her heart, bring conviction where needed, and restore what has been broken. If there is any ungodly relationship in her life, Lord, give her the strength to walk away and the wisdom to seek Your will above all else.
Father, we declare that no weapon formed against her shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17), and we ask that You would turn her mourning into joy (Psalm 30:11). Fill her with Your Holy Spirit, that she may walk in love, truth, and freedom. Remind her that her identity is in Christ, not in the opinions or actions of others. We ask all these things in the mighty name of Jesus, the only name by which we are saved and through whom we have access to You. Amen.
We encourage you to seek out a biblical community—a local church or trusted believers—who can walk alongside you in this season. You are not meant to carry this alone. *"Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ."* (Galatians 6:2 WEB). The Lord is near, and He is working even in the midst of this pain. Keep your eyes on Him.
