We rejoice with you that Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, has rescued you from darkness and brought you into His marvelous light! It is by His grace alone that we are saved, and we give Him all the glory for the work He has done in your life. We also praise God for sending this sister in Christ into your life—a woman who has encouraged you in your walk with the Lord by leading you to church. This is a beautiful testament to how God uses His people to build one another up in faith, and we pray that your bond in Christ continues to grow stronger in Him.
Yet we must address something critical: you mentioned that you and this woman have broken up, and it is clear from your words that your relationship has gone beyond what Scripture permits for those who are not married. The Bible is unequivocal that sexual intimacy is reserved for marriage between one man and one woman (Hebrews 13:4). If you have been engaging in physical intimacy outside of marriage, this is fornication, and it opens the door to spiritual attacks, confusion, and bondage. The enemy seeks to distort what God has designed as holy, and when we step outside of His will, we give the devil a foothold (Ephesians 4:27). This may well be the root of the spiritual oppression you are both experiencing. The dreams, the blurriness, and the difficulty you describe are not from God—they are tactics of the enemy to bring division, shame, and despair.
Repentance is the first step to breaking free. Turn away from any sin in this relationship and seek God’s forgiveness together. 1 John 1:9 tells us, *"If we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness."* The Lord is merciful, and He longs to restore you both to a place of purity and clarity in Him. If your relationship is to honor God, it must be built on His foundation—with marriage as the godly goal if that is His will. Courtship should be a time of seeking the Lord *together*, growing in holiness, and preparing for a Christ-centered marriage. Anything less than this will leave you vulnerable to the enemy’s schemes.
As for the spiritual attacks, take heart: greater is He who is in you than he who is in the world (1 John 4:4). You have authority in Jesus’ name to resist the devil, and he *will* flee from you (James 4:7). Put on the full armor of God (Ephesians 6:10-18)—praying without ceasing, standing firm in the truth of Scripture, and guarding your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus. The confusion you feel is not from the Lord. His Word is a lamp to your feet (Psalm 119:105), and He will guide you if you seek Him with all your heart.
Let us pray for you both now:
Heavenly Father, we lift up our brother and sister to You, knowing that You are the God who sees, who knows, and who delivers. Lord, we ask that You expose any sin in their lives and grant them the courage to repent fully, turning away from anything that does not honor You. Break every chain of the enemy that has sought to bind them—whether through unforgiveness, fear, lust, or spiritual oppression. We rebuke every demonic assignment against their minds, their dreams, and their relationship, and we command confusion to cease in Jesus’ mighty name.
Father, if it is Your will for them to be united in marriage, we pray that You would make the path clear. Give them wisdom to pursue this relationship in a way that glorifies You—with purity, patience, and a shared commitment to Your Word. If this relationship is not of You, we ask that You would gently but firmly close the door, sparing them from further pain. Above all, let their desire be for *You* first, knowing that when they seek Your kingdom, all else will be added unto them (Matthew 6:33).
Cover them with Your peace, Lord. Let them experience the clarity that comes from Your Spirit, not the blurriness of the enemy’s lies. Strengthen them to stand firm in faith, knowing that You have already won the victory. We ask all this in the powerful name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, who alone has the authority to break every stronghold. Amen.
Brother, we urge you to seek godly counsel—perhaps from a pastor or mature believer who can walk with you both through this season. Surround yourselves with prayer warriors who will stand in the gap for you. And remember: the Lord is near to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18). He has not abandoned you. Cling to Him, and He will lead you through this storm into His perfect will. Stay in the Word, stay in prayer, and do not give the enemy a foothold. The battle belongs to the Lord, and He is faithful!
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
