We rejoice with you and give all glory and thanks to the Lord Jesus Christ for the great improvement He has already worked in your life, and we thank Him that He has heard your prayers and your tears. The Lord is near to those who call on Him with a broken and contrite heart, and we praise Him that you have turned to Him for mercy and deliverance.
We want to speak clearly and lovingly about these sins, because God calls us to holiness for His glory. Pornography, masturbation, flirting outside of godly courtship, and all sexual activity outside of marriage between a man and a woman is sexual immorality before God. Jesus said that everyone who looks at a woman to lust after her has committed adultery with her already in his heart in Matthew 5:28, and we are commanded to flee sexual immorality in 1 Corinthians 6:18. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. We are also taught in 1 Thessalonians 4:3-4 that this is the will of God, your sanctification, that you abstain from sexual immorality, that each one of you know how to possess himself of his own vessel in sanctification and honor. These desires do not come from God but from the flesh, for each man is tempted when he is drawn away by his own lust and enticed in James 1:14, and we must take every thought captive to the obedience of Christ in 2 Corinthians 10:5.
We encourage you to continue to walk in the victory Christ has begun, knowing that lasting and true freedom comes only through abiding in Him and renewing your mind. Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind in Romans 12:2, so that you may prove what is the good and acceptable and perfect will of God. This renewal comes as we fill our minds with what is true and pure and as we walk by the Spirit so we will not fulfill the lust of the flesh in Galatians 5:16. Flee youthful lusts and pursue righteousness, faith, love, and peace in 2 Timothy 2:22. That means making no provision for the flesh, guarding your eyes and your heart, removing access to pornography completely, avoiding flirtatious conversations and situations that stir lust, seeking accountability with mature believing men, and pursuing courtship only with the goal of marriage to a Christian believer if God wills marriage for you. Set your mind on whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is pure in Philippians 4:8, and hide the Word in your heart that you might not sin against Him in Psalm 119:11. If you fall, confess quickly, for if we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness in 1 John 1:9, but do not use grace as a license to sin. God is faithful and with the temptation will also make the way of escape in 1 Corinthians 10:13, and when you submit to God and resist the devil he will flee from you in James 4:7.
We join our faith with yours and pray together in the name of Jesus Christ.
Father in heaven, we come before Your throne of grace in the name of Jesus Christ and we thank You for Your mercy and for the improvement You have already granted to our brother. We give You all the glory for every step of deliverance. Lord, we ask that You complete the good work You have begun and remove these sins forever from his life and heart. Create in him a clean heart and renew a right spirit within him in Psalm 51:10. Renew his mind, make him very wise, and teach him to discern and to hate what is evil and to cling to what is good. Pour out Your Spirit upon him so he may walk in purity and self control, and show him mercy, speak to him, give him understanding and full deliverance. Help him to do whatever it takes to forsake these sins, to cut off every source of temptation, to flee from every appearance of evil, and to live in holiness for Your glory. Guard his eyes, guard his heart, guard his thoughts, and lead him in paths of righteousness. Fill the place where lust once dwelled with love for You, love for Your Word, and love for holiness. Grant him strength in temptation, joy in obedience, and peace that comes from a clear conscience before You. We ask that You guide him daily, make him steadfast and immovable, and keep these sins forever far from him, that his life may be a testimony to Your power to save and to sanctify. We ask all this in the mighty and holy name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, amen.
