We understand the deep pain of heartbreak, and we are here to lift you up in prayer and truth. The wounds of betrayal and unkindness cut deeply, but we must always turn to the Lord for healing and direction. The Bible tells us in Psalm 34:18, *"Yahweh is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit."* You are not alone in this—God sees your pain and is close to you in this moment.
However, we must also address something important: while it is natural to desire an apology or reconciliation, we must be cautious about placing our hope in the actions of another person rather than in Christ. The man who hurt you is responsible for his own actions before God, and true repentance comes from the conviction of the Holy Spirit, not from our demands. Proverbs 28:13 reminds us, *"He who conceals his sins doesn’t prosper, but whoever confesses and renounces them finds mercy."* If this man is to truly repent, it must be a work of God in his heart—not just an apology to ease your pain.
We also encourage you to examine your own heart in this situation. Have you forgiven him, even if he never apologizes? Jesus commands us in Matthew 6:14-15, *"For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you don’t forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses."* Forgiveness is not about excusing his behavior but about releasing the bitterness that can take root in your heart. Unforgiveness only harms you, not the one who wronged you.
If this relationship involved any form of intimacy outside of marriage, we urge you to repent and turn away from that sin. The Bible is clear that sexual immorality—including fornication—is a sin against God and against your own body (1 Corinthians 6:18). If this was the case, we pray that you would seek God’s forgiveness and commit to purity moving forward, trusting that His grace is sufficient to cleanse and restore you.
Let us pray for you:
Heavenly Father, we lift up our sister to You, knowing that You are the God of all comfort. Lord, her heart is broken, and she is hurting deeply. We ask that You would bind up her wounds and fill her with Your peace that surpasses all understanding. Touch her heart, Lord, and remind her that her worth and identity are found in You alone, not in the approval or actions of any man.
Father, we also pray for the man who has caused this pain. If it is Your will, convict his heart by Your Holy Spirit and lead him to true repentance. But Lord, we ask that You would guard our sister’s heart from placing her hope in his apology rather than in You. Help her to release any bitterness or unforgiveness, and fill her with Your love and grace.
If there was any sin in this relationship, we ask for Your forgiveness and cleansing. Restore her, Lord, and guide her steps as she seeks to honor You in all things. Lead her to a godly spouse in Your timing, one who will cherish her as Christ loves the Church. Give her the strength to wait on You and to trust in Your perfect plan for her life.
We pray all these things in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, who alone can heal and restore. Amen.
Stay close to the Lord, sister. Read His Word daily, and let Him be your comfort and strength. He has a plan for you, and He will never leave you nor forsake you. Trust in Him, and He will make your paths straight.