We join with you in lifting this heartfelt cry to our Heavenly Father, who sees your pain and hears your prayers. Your request reveals a deep longing for healing and restoration, and we stand with you in asking God to move mightily in this situation. We praise you for praying in the name of Jesus Christ, for it is only through Him that we have access to the throne of grace and can find true peace and transformation.
The pain you describe—emotional and mental hurt—is not God’s design for relationships. Scripture tells us in Ephesians 5:25, *"Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the assembly, and gave himself up for it."* If this man is someone you are in a romantic relationship with, especially if you are considering marriage, it is vital that his actions reflect the love of Christ: sacrificial, patient, and kind. First Peter 3:7 also instructs, *"You husbands, in the same way, live with your wives according to knowledge, giving honor to the woman as to the weaker vessel, as also being joint heirs of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered."* If his behavior is causing you harm, this is not the love God commands. A man who follows Christ will seek to cherish and protect, not wound or neglect.
We must also ask: is this relationship honoring to God in its current form? Are you two walking in purity, with marriage as the godly goal if you are courting? Or is there sin in this relationship that needs to be addressed? If there is fornication, cohabitation, or any behavior that contradicts Scripture, we urge you to repent and turn away from it. First Corinthians 6:18-20 says, *"Flee sexual immorality! 'Every sin that a man does is outside the body,' but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or don’t you know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. Therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s."* If this relationship is built on anything other than a foundation of Christ-centered commitment, it will only bring more pain.
If this man is not a believer, Scripture is clear: *"Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?"* (2 Corinthians 6:14). A relationship with an unbeliever will always be marked by conflict because your ultimate loyalties are divided. If he claims to be a Christian but his actions do not reflect the fruit of the Spirit—love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control (Galatians 5:22-23)—then we must pray for true repentance in his life.
Let us also encourage you to guard your heart. Proverbs 4:23 says, *"Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it is everything you do."* While it is right to pray for this man, do not allow yourself to remain in a cycle of hurt. If he is unwilling to change, you may need to seek godly counsel about setting boundaries or even stepping away for your own well-being. God does not call you to endure abuse or mistreatment in the name of love. His love is redemptive, but it is also just and protective.
Now, let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with our sister’s heartache, lifting her tears and struggles to Your throne of grace. Lord, You see the pain she carries—the emotional and mental wounds inflicted by this man’s actions. We ask that You would move in his heart, Lord. Soften it, convict him of his sin, and bring him to true repentance. If he is not walking with You, Father, draw him to Yourself in a way he cannot ignore. Let him see the damage his words and actions have caused, and give him a spirit of humility to change.
But Father, we also ask for Your protection over our sister. Guard her heart and mind in Christ Jesus. Give her wisdom to know how to respond, whether that means setting boundaries, seeking counsel, or even walking away if this relationship is not of You. Surround her with godly community who can speak truth and love into her life. Heal her wounds, Lord, and remind her of her worth in You. She is Your daughter, fearfully and wonderfully made, and she does not deserve to be treated with anything less than the love and respect that reflects Your character.
If this relationship is not aligned with Your will, give her the strength to let go. If it is Your desire for them to be together, then transform this man into the godly husband he must become—one who loves as Christ loves the church. But above all, Father, let Your will be done. We trust You, even when the path is painful. Help our sister to trust You too, to find her identity in You alone, and to walk in obedience, no matter the cost.
We rebuked any spirit of manipulation, control, or hardness of heart in this man’s life. We break any stronghold of sin that has taken root, and we declare that Your truth will prevail. Let Your light expose every darkness, and let Your love bring restoration—or redirection—where it is needed most.
We pray all this in the mighty and matchless name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, who alone has the power to heal and redeem. Amen.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
