We hear the deep pain and betrayal in your heart, and we grieve with you over the cruelty you endured in what should have been a place of love and biblical fellowship. The words spoken against you were not only unkind—they were a direct contradiction to the truth of Scripture. Every person, whether married, single, with children or without, bears the image of God and has inherent worth in Christ. The women in that study twisted God’s Word to justify their own pride and judgment, and for that, they will answer to Him.
The Bible is clear that children are a blessing from the Lord (Psalm 127:3), but it does not teach that a woman’s value is determined by motherhood. In fact, Scripture honors women who served God faithfully outside of motherhood—think of Deborah, a judge and prophetess (Judges 4-5), or Anna, the widow who devoted herself to prayer in the temple (Luke 2:36-38). Even the apostle Paul commends singleness as a gift for undivided devotion to the Lord (1 Corinthians 7:32-35). Your worth is not defined by others’ opinions, but by your identity in Christ.
We rebuke the spirit of condemnation and self-righteousness that poisoned that Bible study. Jesus Himself warned against those who place heavy burdens on others while refusing to lift a finger to help (Matthew 23:4). The women who attacked you were not speaking for God—they were speaking from their own hardness of heart. Their words were a stumbling block, not a reflection of His love.
We also want to gently address the anger and bitterness that may be taking root in your heart. It is natural to feel hurt, but we must guard against allowing their sin to become our own. Jesus calls us to forgive, even when it feels impossible (Matthew 6:14-15). This does not mean what they did was right, nor does it mean you must subject yourself to further abuse. But holding onto bitterness will only harm you, not them. We pray that God would soften your heart toward forgiveness—not for their sake, but for your own healing.
Most importantly, we want to remind you that your value is found in Christ alone. You are fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14), redeemed by His blood (1 Peter 1:18-19), and called to walk in the good works He has prepared for you (Ephesians 2:10). Whether or not you ever have children, your life has purpose because God has ordained it.
Let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up our sister who has been deeply wounded by the cruelty of others. Lord, You see the pain she carries, and You collect every tear in Your bottle (Psalm 56:8). We ask that You would heal her heart and replace the lies she has heard with Your truth. Remind her that her worth is not found in the approval of others, but in the fact that You knit her together in her mother’s womb and called her Your own.
We rebuke the spirit of judgment and condemnation that spoke against her. Lord, we pray that You would convict those women of their sin and soften their hearts. If it is Your will, bring them to repentance so they may no longer spread hatred in Your name. But if they remain hardened, we ask that You would remove them from positions of influence where they can harm others.
Father, we ask that You would guard her heart from bitterness. Help her to forgive, not because what was done was right, but because You have forgiven her of so much more. Fill her with Your peace and surround her with godly community—women who will speak life, not death; truth, not lies.
Lord, we declare over her that she is fearfully and wonderfully made, that she is chosen, holy, and dearly loved (Colossians 3:12). Whatever Your plan is for her life, whether it includes motherhood or not, we pray that she would walk in it with joy and confidence, knowing that You are with her.
We ask all these things in the mighty name of Jesus, the One who bore our wounds so that we might be healed. Amen.
In the days ahead, we encourage you to seek out a biblical community that reflects Christ’s love. Not every church or Bible study will be a safe place, but there are godly women who will affirm your worth in Him. If you struggle with bitterness, spend time in God’s Word, meditating on verses about His love and your identity in Christ. And if the pain feels overwhelming, consider speaking with a trusted pastor or counselor who can help you process this wound in a healthy way.
You are not worthless. You are deeply loved by the Creator of the universe, and He has a purpose for your life that no one can take away.
