We hear your heart’s cry and the deep longing you feel for this woman. Your words reveal a love that seeks to cherish and honor, not merely possess or indulge. Yet we must first address the foundation of your plea, for it is only through Jesus Christ that we have access to the Father. There is no other name by which we may be saved or through which our prayers are heard (Acts 4:12). If you have not yet surrendered your heart to Him, we urge you to confess your sins, believe in His death and resurrection, and receive Him as Lord and Savior. Without this, our prayers lack the authority and power that come from being in Christ.
Now, regarding your request, we must examine the nature of your relationship with this woman. The Bible teaches that love between a man and a woman is most fully realized within the covenant of marriage—a lifelong commitment between one man and one woman, established by God (Genesis 2:24, Matthew 19:4-6). If you are not married to her, we must ask: Are you pursuing her with the intention of marriage, or are you clinging to a relationship that exists outside of God’s design? If you are not yet married, we encourage you to seek the Lord’s will for whether this is a relationship He is calling you to formalize before Him. If it is not leading toward marriage, we must rebuke any emotional or physical attachment that does not align with His Word, for even the deepest feelings can lead us astray if they are not submitted to Christ.
The Bible warns us that our hearts are deceitful (Jeremiah 17:9), and what feels like love can sometimes be a counterfeit of God’s true design. If this woman is not a believer in Christ, we must also rebuke any union that would yoke you unequally with an unbeliever (2 Corinthians 6:14). Marriage is a sacred bond, and it must be built on a shared foundation of faith in Jesus. If she is a believer, then we pray that the Lord would guide both of your steps toward His will, whether that is marriage or a season of separation to seek Him individually.
We also must address the language of your prayer. You say, *"She’s a part of me I can’t lose,"* and *"I am a ship lost at sea without her."* While these words express deep emotion, they also reveal a dependency that is unhealthy. No human being can complete you—only Christ can fill the void in your heart (Colossians 2:10). If you are placing her above God in your affections, we must rebuke that idolatry in Jesus’ name. Your identity, peace, and purpose must be found in Him alone, not in another person (Galatians 2:20).
Let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, the only name by which we may be saved and through which our prayers are heard. Lord, we lift up this brother to You, asking that You would first draw him closer to Yourself. If he does not yet know You as Lord and Savior, we pray that You would open his eyes to the truth of the Gospel and soften his heart to receive You. If he does know You, we ask that You would deepen his relationship with You, that he may find his identity, peace, and purpose in Christ alone.
Father, we pray for this woman as well. If she is a believer, we ask that You would guide her steps and speak to her heart. If she is not, we pray that You would draw her to salvation in Jesus Christ. Lord, we ask that You would reveal Your will for their relationship. If it is Your design for them to be married, we pray that You would prepare their hearts, align their paths, and bring them together in a way that honors You. If it is not Your will, we ask that You would grant them the strength to surrender their desires to You and trust in Your perfect plan.
Father, we rebuke any spirit of idolatry, dependency, or emotional entanglement that does not align with Your Word. We ask that You would break any unhealthy attachments and replace them with a holy love that seeks Your glory above all else. Lord, we pray that You would heal any brokenness in their hearts and fill them with Your peace, which surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7).
We also pray for wisdom and discernment for this brother. Help him to see this situation through Your eyes, not just his own emotions. Give him the courage to pursue righteousness, even if it means letting go of what he desires. Remind him that You are his anchor, his refuge, and his strength (Psalm 46:1). May he find his completeness in You alone.
Father, we ask all of this in the precious and powerful name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.
We encourage you to seek the Lord earnestly in this season. Spend time in His Word, particularly in the Psalms, where you will find comfort and guidance. Surround yourself with godly counsel—men who will speak truth into your life and hold you accountable. If this woman is meant to be your wife, God will make a way. If not, trust that He has something better in store. Remember, *"Delight yourself in the Lord, and He will give you the desires of your heart"* (Psalm 37:4). This does not mean He will give you what you want, but that He will shape your desires to align with His will.
Finally, we urge you to examine your heart for any sin that may be hindering your prayers. Confess any lust, idolatry, or selfishness, and repent before the Lord. *"If I regard iniquity in my heart, the Lord will not hear me"* (Psalm 66:18). But if you confess your sins, He is faithful and just to forgive you and cleanse you from all unrighteousness (1 John 1:9). Walk in obedience, and trust that God hears the prayers of the righteous (James 5:16).
