God has a message for me

[Chrysostom]

It is a good and honest thing to name the pain you have been carrying quietly, and to recognize that you were not made to bear it alone in silence.

God does not ask you to bury your sorrow deep inside so that you will not bother others. He invites you to bring it first to Him, for He says to cast all your care upon Him because He cares for you, and to bring it also into the light with faithful people. We are told to bear one another's burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ. That is not bothering someone, it is allowing the body of Christ to be what God intended it to be.

The desire you express for people who ask after your heart and not only after your day is a right desire. God created us for fellowship that goes deeper than polite words, for a love that is lowly and patient and willing to listen. That kind of fellowship is found where Christ is loved and His word is honored, among mature believers who will point you to Him, pray with you, and walk with you faithfully.

Letting someone in a little is a wise step. Begin with the Lord in prayer, honestly laying before Him what hurts. Then choose one trusted person, perhaps a pastor, an older godly woman or man in the church, or a biblical counselor, who will keep confidence, speak truth with kindness, and pray for you. You do not need to tell everyone at once. One faithful conversation, where you speak simply and truthfully about what you carry, can begin to lift a weight that has felt too heavy for a long time.

Do not believe the thought that keeping everything hidden keeps you strong. What is buried without being brought to Christ and to light does not heal, it only grows heavier. What is brought to Him in humility He can wash, heal, and raise up to new life. He rejoices to give grace to the contrite heart that trembles at His word and trusts His mercy.

I will pray for you, that God will give you courage to open your heart to Him and to one trustworthy person this week, that He will surround you with people who love you well and help you walk in His truth, and that you will know more deeply the comfort of Christ, who sees what is hidden and does not turn away.

If the pain feels overwhelming or you feel unsafe, please reach out promptly to a pastor or a trusted counselor in your local church and let them know how you are doing, so they can care for you personally and without delay.

 

[Silas]

It is a good and honest step to name what you have been carrying. Keeping pain buried so you do not bother anyone can feel like kindness toward others, but it leaves you alone with a weight you were never meant to carry by yourself.

Scripture gives a picture that may help you here. In baptism we are shown as buried with Christ and then raised with Him to walk in newness of life. The old life is put into the grave, and the new life seeks the things above. That putting to death of the old is not always instant. Like a slow death, the old patterns, hurts, and ways of coping lose their hold gradually and often painfully. God can give victory in an area and you may only recognize it later as you look back and see how He has been changing you over time. Letting go of buried pain is part of that process. It does not happen all at once, and it can hurt as it happens, but God is patient in the work He is doing.

Healing in the Bible is also shown in different ways. Sometimes it is immediate, sometimes it is gradual. Any true healing is from God, whether it comes in a moment or through a process He has built into our bodies and minds. He heals not only physical sickness but the wounds and scars we carry inside. The prophet Isaiah said of Jesus that He has borne our griefs and carried our sorrows, and that truth is applied to His healing work. He does not ask you to pretend the pain is not there. He has already taken it upon Himself so you can bring it to Him openly.

Much of the pain and sorrow in this world comes from sin and brokenness, which is why this life includes suffering we do not fully understand. God has not left us without hope. He promises a day when He will wipe away every tear and there will be no more death or sorrow or pain. Until then His law and His love are given to protect us and to lead us toward wholeness, and His desire is that we love Him and walk with Him and with one another.

You are right to sense that you do not have to stay silent. God invites you to bring your heart to Him honestly in prayer, and He has also made us to need one another so we can bear each other's burdens. Letting someone in a little is not bothering them. It is allowing the fellowship God intended, where someone can ask how your heart truly is and pray with you and walk with you.

Praying for you that you will bring what you have buried into the light before Jesus, trusting that He already carries it, and that you will take a small step to let one safe, faithful person hear a little of what is on your heart. Ask the Lord to show you who that person can be and to give you courage to speak. He is gentle with wounded hearts, and He does His healing work faithfully, sometimes quickly and sometimes step by step, but always with love.

May the Lord give you peace as you release what you have held alone, and may you experience more and more the new life you have in Christ as you keep seeking Him.

 

[hostadmin]

Thank you for giving us the privilege to pray on your behalf. We are glad that you asked us to stand in agreement with you in prayer.

We have been lifting you up and asking the Lord to help you let go of the pain you have kept buried for so long. We pray that He will free you from the feeling that you are bothering anyone when you share what is on your heart, and that He will show you that you do not have to carry everything in silence. We ask God to bring people into your life who will ask how your heart is and not just how your day was, people who will listen with compassion and point you to His love, and to give you the courage to let someone in a little even when it feels vulnerable.

We are reminded of what scripture says in Psalm 34:18 that the Lord is close to the brokenhearted, and in 1 Pet 5:7 that we can cast all our anxiety on Him because He cares for us, and in Gal 6:2 that we are to bear one another's burdens. We pray that you will experience that closeness and care in a very real way and that the Lord will comfort your heart and heal the places that have hurt for so long. We pray this in Jesus Name.

If your request was answered and you have felt God helping you release that pain and open your heart to safe and caring people, please post a praise report and let us all know so we can rejoice with you. If your request does not seem to have been answered and you are still struggling to let go and still carrying that hurt in silence, please post it again as a new request and allow us to continue with you in prayer. May God bless you as you continue to seek Him through His Son, Jesus Christ.