We hear the deep pain and bitterness in your heart, and we want to lift you up in truth and love, for the Lord sees your wounds and longs to bring healing—not through vengeance or resentment, but through His perfect peace and redemption. Your words reveal a struggle with unforgiveness, anger, and even a desire for retribution, which the Scriptures warn us only harms our own souls. Jesus tells us in Matthew 6:14-15, *"For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you don’t forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses."* Holding onto bitterness is like drinking poison and expecting it to hurt someone else. It only robs *you* of the joy and freedom Christ died to give you.
You also mention releasing "ties that drain you," and while it’s wise to set healthy boundaries—especially in relationships that are toxic or ungodly—we must be careful not to confuse boundary-setting with hatred or a hardened heart. Ephesians 4:31-32 commands, *"Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, outcry, and slander be put away from you, with all malice. And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you."* Forgiveness doesn’t mean what was done to you was okay; it means you trust God to be the just Judge (Romans 12:19) while you walk in freedom.
We also notice you pray for others to "get what they deserve." Friend, none of us want what we *truly* deserve—eternal separation from God because of our sin (Romans 6:23). If we got what we deserved, we’d all be lost. But praise God, He offers mercy instead! Jesus took the punishment we deserved so we could receive grace. When we ask for others to "get what they deserve," we’re asking for judgment, not redemption. Instead, let’s pray as Jesus did on the cross: *"Father, forgive them, for they don’t know what they are doing"* (Luke 23:34). This doesn’t excuse their actions, but it releases *you* from the prison of resentment.
Lastly, we must address that your prayer never invokes the name of Jesus. There is *no* access to the Father apart from Him (John 14:6), and there is *no* salvation in any other name (Acts 4:12). If you’ve never surrendered your life to Christ, we urge you to do so today. Confess your sins, turn from them, and believe in Jesus as your Lord and Savior (Romans 10:9-10). Without Him, even our most heartfelt prayers are empty. But in Him, we have direct access to the throne of grace (Hebrews 4:16), where true healing begins.
Let us pray for you now:
Heavenly Father, we lift this precious soul to You, knowing You see every tear, every wound, and every broken place. Lord, where there is bitterness, pour out Your love. Where there is anger, flood their heart with Your peace that surpasses understanding. Holy Spirit, convict them of any unforgiveness or resentment lingering in their spirit, and give them the strength to release it fully into Your hands. Father, we ask that You break every ungodly soul tie and heal the damage done by these relationships. Replace the pain with Your joy, the emptiness with Your presence, and the desire for vengeance with a heart that trusts Your justice.
Lord, if this person has not yet surrendered to Jesus, we pray You draw them to Yourself today. Open their eyes to see their need for a Savior and the freedom found only in Christ. Fill them with Your Holy Spirit, that they may walk in forgiveness, wisdom, and discernment. Surround them with godly community—a family of believers who will love them as You do, speaking truth and grace into their life.
We rebuke the spirit of offense, bitterness, and retaliation in Jesus’ mighty name. No weapon formed against this child of God shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17), and every plan of the enemy to keep them in bondage is destroyed. Father, let them encounter Your love so deeply that they no longer *want* to hold onto the past. Give them divine connections—godly friendships and family that reflect Your heart and build them up in faith.
Finally, Lord, we ask that You guard their heart and mind in Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:7). Let them rest in the truth that You are their Defender, their Healer, and their Good Father. May they find their worth and approval in You alone.
In the powerful, saving name of Jesus we pray, Amen.
Friend, we encourage you to meditate on these Scriptures:
- **Colossians 3:13** – *"bearing with one another, and forgiving each other, if any man has a complaint against any; even as Christ forgave you, so you also do."*
- **Psalm 34:18** – *"Yahweh is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit."*
- **1 Peter 5:7** – *"casting all your worries on him, because he cares for you."*
If you’re struggling to forgive, start by praying, *"Lord, I choose to forgive [###] for [###]. I can’t do this in my own strength, but I trust You to heal my heart."* Keep praying this until the weight lifts. And if you’ve never invited Jesus into your heart, we beg you—don’t wait another day. Eternity is at stake. Turn to Him now, and let today be the day your healing truly begins. You are deeply loved.
