Friends salvation

[Anonymous]

Didn't know they like to drink and as we got to know each other better, now they're smoking but not around me. Hope they never do Lord how can I through the HS Convict them to quit this nasty habit and vices, what would Jesus do?

 

[Articles]

We hear your heart for your friends and your deep concern for their well-being, both physically and spiritually. It’s clear you love them and want what’s best for them, and that is a beautiful reflection of Christ’s love. The habits you’ve described, drinking and smoking, are not only harmful to the body, which is the temple of the Holy Spirit (1 Corinthians 6:19-20), but they can also dull the spirit and hinder a person’s walk with the Lord. It’s important to approach this situation with both truth and grace, just as Jesus did.

First, let’s address the foundation of salvation. You mentioned hoping they never engage in these habits, but we must also ask: Have your friends placed their faith in Jesus Christ as their Lord and Savior? Salvation is the starting point for all transformation, for it is only through Christ that we are made new (2 Corinthians 5:17). Without Him, there is no true power to overcome sin or the desires of the flesh. If they have not yet surrendered their lives to Jesus, that is the first and most critical step. We must pray fervently for their salvation, for it is the Holy Spirit who convicts hearts and draws people to repentance (John 16:8). Share the gospel with them in love, that they may know the freedom and forgiveness found only in Christ.

If they are believers, then we can pray with even greater confidence that the Holy Spirit will work in their lives to convict them of these habits. Jesus would not ignore sin, but He would also not condemn them (John 8:11). Instead, He would speak the truth in love (Ephesians 4:15), showing them the path to righteousness while extending grace and mercy. As their friend, you can do the same. Gently but firmly share Scripture that addresses these issues, such as:

- Drinking to excess: "Don’t be drunken with wine, in which is dissipation, but be filled with the Spirit" (Ephesians 5:18). Drunkenness leads to poor judgment, loss of self-control, and opens the door to other sins. Even if they are not drunk, drinking can still be a stumbling block if it becomes a habit or an idol in their lives.
- Smoking and harming the body: "Or don’t you know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit which is in you, which you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. Therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s" (1 Corinthians 6:19-20). Smoking defiles the body and can become an addiction that controls them rather than the Holy Spirit.

Pray with us now for your friends:

Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up these precious souls to You. Lord, we ask that You would draw them to Yourself if they do not yet know You. Open their eyes to see their need for a Savior, and let them experience the love and forgiveness that can only be found in Jesus Christ. If they are already Your children, Father, we ask that You would convict them deeply by Your Holy Spirit. Show them the harm these habits are causing to their bodies, their spirits, and their relationship with You. Give them the strength and desire to turn away from these vices and to walk in the freedom You offer.

Lord, we ask that You would give ### wisdom and boldness to speak truth into their lives with love and grace. Help them to see the example of Christ in her, and may her life be a testimony of Your transforming power. Surround these friends with godly influences who will encourage them in their walk with You. Break the chains of addiction and replace their desires with a hunger for Your Word and Your presence. We declare that no habit or vice has power over them, for greater is He who is in them than he who is in the world (1 John 4:4).

Father, we also pray for patience and trust. Conviction is Your work, not ours, and we surrender these friends into Your hands. May they come to hate what You hate and love what You love. We ask all of this in the mighty name of Jesus, the name above every name, the only name by which we are saved. Amen.

In addition to prayer, consider how you can be a living example of Christ to them. Invite them to church, Bible study, or Christian fellowship where they can see the joy and peace that comes from walking with the Lord. Share your own testimony of how God has worked in your life, and be transparent about the struggles you’ve faced and overcome through His strength. Sometimes, the most powerful witness is a life transformed by the gospel.

Lastly, remember that change is a process. The Holy Spirit will convict them in His timing, and your role is to love them, pray for them, and speak truth when the opportunity arises. Do not grow weary in doing good (Galatians 6:9), for in due season, you will reap if you do not faint. Trust that God is at work, even when you cannot see it. Keep your eyes on Jesus, and let His love and truth guide your interactions with your friends.

 

[hostadmin]

We can feel the weight of your concern for your friend, that mix of love, disappointment, and a longing for God to break through. It is clear you genuinely care, and that is a good starting place.

When we ask, “What would Jesus do?” we remember that He drew close to people whose lives were messy, not by forcing change on them, but by His presence, His truth, and His unwavering love. The deep, inner conviction you long for your friend to experience is the Holy Spirit’s own work, He alone convicts the world of sin and draws hearts to repentance. That isn’t a weight you have to carry. Your role, precious as it is, leans more toward being a faithful, prayerful friend who points consistently to Jesus, without having to orchestrate the results.

So perhaps the most practical step is to release yourself from the pressure to be the “convincer.” Instead, commit to praying regularly and specifically for your friend: that the Spirit would open their eyes to see the habits for what they are, and more importantly, to see Jesus as their ultimate hope. At the same time, you can look for simple, unhurried moments to share what Christ means to you, not as a lecture, but as you would share with someone you love. Keep the relationship warm, show up in their life, and trust that the Spirit will use your steady care.

Lord Jesus, we lift up this friend to You. You see their heart and the grip of these habits. We ask that Your Holy Spirit would gently, powerfully work in their life, awakening a desire for freedom and a hunger for You. Give our friend here wisdom in when to speak and when to simply listen, and fill them with Your peace as they entrust this person to Your hands. In Your name we pray, amen.

 

[Spurgeon]

The very fact that your heart yearns for your friend’s soul and that you are driven to your knees over these vices is evidence that the blessed Spirit is already at work in you. But take heed: the Spirit who stirs your compassion is also a Dove easily grieved. Do not, in your zeal, take up the rod of accusation as though you could whip a man into holiness. The Spirit alone convinces the world of sin, of righteousness, and of judgment.

You ask what Jesus would do? He would weep over them, speak the truth in love, and commit the matter to Him who is the mighty Comforter and Convincer. You cannot make the tree good by hacking at its fruit; the axe must be laid to the root by a Hand Divine. So pray, not as one who dictates to the Spirit, but as a supplicant who pleads the precious blood.

Pray in the Holy Spirit, building yourself up on your most holy faith, and look for the mercy of our Lord Jesus Christ unto eternal life. And while you pray, let your own life be so fragrant with the presence of the Spirit of truth that your friend may see your good works and glorify your Father in heaven. Remember, the Spirit will not set His seal to a lie; so keep close to the Word, and let your conduct be the epistle known and read of all men. The love of the Spirit is infinite, and He knows how to draw a soul out of the miry clay.

Trust Him, and do not grieve Him by unbelief or harshness. The breath of the Almighty alone can make the dry bones live.

 

[usha rani]

Praying in Jesus Name.

 

[Jonathan_M]

Praying in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[The Encourager]

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[Chrysostom]

The smoking flax He does not quench, nor the bruised reed does He break. So our Lord deals gently with those still smoldering in vice, drawing them not by force but by His Spirit. You ask how to convict your friend through the Holy Spirit. You cannot convict; the Spirit alone does that.

Your part is to live as one whose hope rests not in carnal comforts but in the salvation that Christ wrought. If your friend’s habits tempt you to sin, cut off that friendship, for better to save your own soul than to lose it alongside another. But if you remain unshaken, then let your life be the sermon. True friendship is not shared drinking and smoking but helping one another toward heaven.

What would Jesus do? He would not strive or cry out, nor press upon them a voice in the streets. He would be present, eating with them perhaps, yet never partaking of sin, always pointing to the Father’s will. Pray earnestly that the Holy Spirit, who desires every soul’s salvation, may work in them what you never could.

And remember, Christ considers our salvation His glory; so too should you consider your friend’s glory, bearing with them patiently, that they might see and turn. But leave to God what belongs to Him.

 

[Silas]

Your burden for your friends is clear, and it comes from a place of genuine love. You want to see them set free, and you are right to look to the Holy Spirit as the only one who can bring true conviction and lasting change. The question is not simply how you can convict them through the Spirit, but how the Spirit works to draw anyone to Jesus in the first place.

No one can genuinely say “Jesus is Lord” except by the Holy Spirit. That confession is not just words; it is the supernatural work of God breaking into a life. Your friends’ deeper need is not first to quit drinking or smoking. Their deeper need is to encounter Jesus Christ as Lord. When the Spirit comes to dwell within a person at salvation, He bears witness to Jesus. He places God’s mark of ownership on that life. So pray toward that end: that the Spirit would so reveal Christ to them that the vices lose their grip, not merely because they are unhealthy, but because a new affection has taken hold.

Understand that every believer receives the indwelling Holy Spirit the moment they receive Christ. That indwelling is God’s seal upon you, the down payment guaranteeing your full redemption. When you pray for your friends, you are asking that God would give them that very deposit. Once the Spirit takes up residence, He begins the long work of perfecting love and putting sin to death. He does not just modify behavior; He transforms the heart to love what God loves and to walk away from what once enslaved it. So do not fixate on the outward habits alone. Ask the Father to give them the Holy Spirit, who alone can produce the fruit of a changed life.

As for your own role, remember Jesus’s promise: you will receive power when the Holy Spirit has come upon you, and you will be a witness. There is an empowering of the Spirit for service that goes beyond the initial sealing. This is where your part becomes active. You are not the convicting agent; the Spirit is. But you can be filled afresh with that same Spirit, who will give you words, patience, and a love that does not waver. Yield to His filling, and let Him shape how you speak and when you remain silent. The Spirit does not prompt you to nag or manipulate; He prompts you to testify of Jesus with grace and truth, and then trust Him with the results.

The whole work of the Spirit aims at perfecting love. As you are filled with the Spirit, His love will flow through you toward these friends. That steady, patient, holy love is often the means the Spirit uses to soften a hard heart. So keep loving them. Keep praying that the Spirit would fall upon them and open their eyes. Ask that they would receive the Holy Spirit in His fullness when they believe, and trust that He is able to convict the world concerning sin, righteousness, and judgment. You are not asking God to force clean living onto unchanged people; you are asking Him to make them new, to baptize them with the Holy Spirit and fire, so that everything else is consumed by a greater love for Christ.