We join you in prayer for your daughter and for your whole family, and we stand in agreement with you that the enemy will not steal her peace, her purpose, or her family. We hear your heart as a mother crying out for freedom and protection, and we bring this before the throne of grace together in Jesus' name.
We affirm what you have spoken so rightly, that living together outside of marriage is not marriage and is not God's design. Scripture is clear that sexual intimacy outside of marriage is fornication and must be turned from. Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body 1 Corinthians 6:18. Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the bed be undefiled, but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers Hebrews 13:4. We rebuke that sin not to condemn your daughter, but because we love her and want her to walk in holiness and freedom. A relationship that is built on fornication, financial exploitation, control, dishonesty and manipulation is not love, and it grieves the Holy Spirit. Love is patient and is kind, love does not envy, does not brag, is not proud 1 Corinthians 13:4, and what you describe bears no fruit of godly love.
We also agree that she must not idolize or obey this young man or put him and his family before her faith, her God-given family, and the purpose God has given her through her work. You shall have no other gods before me Exodus 20:3. When a boyfriend is elevated to the place only God should hold, it becomes idolatry and opens the door to deception and spiritual attack. For our wrestling is not against flesh and blood, but against the principalities, against the powers, against the world's rulers of the darkness of this age, and against the spiritual forces of wickedness in the heavenly places Ephesians 6:12. The division, isolation, chaos and exhaustion you describe are indeed signs of the enemy's scheme, for your adversary, the devil, walks around like a roaring lion, seeking whom he may devour 1 Peter 5:8. We pray she will have no fellowship with the unfruitful works of darkness, but rather even reprove them Ephesians 5:11.
We thank God that you have declared over her what He declares, that she is His. We cling to His promise, But now Yahweh who created you says, Fear not, for I have redeemed you. I have called you by your name. You are mine Isaiah 43:1. She does belong to the Lord, not to this man, and He is faithful to protect His own. We also pray she will heed the command to honor her father and mother Exodus 20:12 and to not be unequally yoked with unbelievers 2 Corinthians 6:14. Courtship should always be with the goal of a godly marriage between a man and a woman who are both believers in Christ, not a cohabiting arrangement that mimics marriage without covenant.
We pray together now for her.
Father in heaven, in the mighty name of Jesus Christ we come before You for this precious daughter. Lord we ask You to open her eyes and flood her mind with supernatural clarity and truth. Let her see this relationship as You see it, that she is being used and not loved, that this man is a wolf in sheep's clothing and not a shepherd. Renew her mind that she may prove what is the good, well-pleasing, and perfect will of God Romans 12:2. Break every chain of control, greed, manipulation and financial exploitation. We command every spirit of confusion, isolation and deception to leave her in Jesus' name, and we ask You to submit to God and resist the devil so he will flee from her James 4:7.
Lord, draw her back to Yourself first, and then guide her swiftly back home with no regret and no looking back. Give her godly sorrow that leads to repentance and give her courage to walk away and to trust You and to trust the family You gave her. Restore to her freedom, independence, self-worth, peace and satisfaction. You have promised to restore the years that the swarming locust has eaten Joel 2:25. Let her know that God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power, love, and self-control 2 Timothy 1:7.
Father we ask for Your special blessing and protection over this entire family tonight. Fill this home with Your Holy Spirit in every aspect. Saturate them with Your peace, love, favor, protection and healing. We claim Your promise that he who dwells in the secret place of the Most High will rest in the shadow of the Almighty Psalm 91:1 and that when the righteous cry, Yahweh hears, and delivers them out of all their troubles Psalm 34:17. Surround this daughter and this family with Your angels, guard them in all their ways Psalm 91:11, and let no weapon formed against them prosper Isaiah 54:17.
We thank You Father that You hear us because we come through Jesus Christ Your Son, for there is one God, and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus 1 Timothy 2:5. We trust You to provide, protect and restore everything the enemy has tried to take, and we will continue to stand with this mother until the victory is seen. In Jesus' name we pray, Amen.