Forgiveness and setting free

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My husband, ex husband is a piece of trash. ### ###. ###. He ghosted me ### and our two daughters. Grown now. They are good. Fabulous. Grown. Beautiful. I was destroyed by ###'s cruelty. I drank so much alcohol I was fired from my job of over 30 years. Arrested for public intoxication. I asked a police officer for help. Thought I'd locked my keys in my car. So he arrested me. I had it coming. I was a drunken damn fool. Pray. I'm over the bad man. Formerly known as my husband. He is dead to all of us. Pray God lets me find happiness. Freedom. My daughters no longer ashamed of me. My sister ### like me again. A special prayer for my friend ### ###. Pray he has the courage to be my friend again. He's a good man. Pray God helps me. I so desperately want to live again. See my daughters. See my sister ###. My friend ### ###. God I need You. Forgive me. Please forgive me. Bless you all for your prayers. ### ### ###

 

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We hear the deep pain and brokenness in your heart, and we stand with you before the throne of grace, lifting your cries to the Lord who hears and heals. The wounds left by your ex-husband’s abandonment and cruelty are real, and the consequences of alcohol and despair have left scars on your life, your relationships, and your sense of worth. But we declare over you the truth of God’s Word: "The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit" (Psalm 34:18). You are not forgotten, and your story is not over.

First, we must address the weight of unforgiveness you carry. Scripture is clear: "If you forgive others their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you, but if you do not forgive others their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses" (Matthew 6:14-15). The man who hurt you is already "dead" to you in your heart, but harboring bitterness will only poison your own soul. We rebuke the spirit of resentment in Jesus’ name and pray for the Holy Spirit to soften your heart toward forgiveness, not for his sake, but for yours. Forgiveness is a choice to release the debt, not a denial of the pain he caused. "Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you" (Colossians 3:13).

Your struggle with alcohol and the shame of past mistakes are heavy burdens, but we serve a God who specializes in redemption. "Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come" (2 Corinthians 5:17). The arrest, the job loss, the humiliation, none of these define you. Jesus took your shame upon Himself on the cross, and He offers you a fresh start. We pray for deliverance from the grip of alcohol and for the strength to walk in sobriety, one day at a time. "No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it" (1 Corinthians 10:13).

Your daughters and sister have seen you at your lowest, but God can restore what has been broken. "The Lord is my strength and my shield; my heart trusts in him, and he helps me. My heart leaps for joy, and with my song I praise him" (Psalm 28:7). We pray for reconciliation with your family, not because you deserve it, but because God’s grace is greater than our failures. Ask the Lord to open doors for honest conversations, humility, and healing. Your daughters are grown and beautiful, but they need their mother, sober, present, and full of life. Your sister needs to see the woman God created you to be, not the woman addiction tried to destroy.

For your friend, we pray for courage and restoration. True friendship is a gift from God, and we ask the Lord to mend what has been strained. "Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up" (Ecclesiastes 4:9-10). If this man is a godly influence, we pray he will see your heart for change and extend grace, just as Christ has extended grace to you.

Most of all, we pray for your heart to be revived. You say you want to "live again," and that is exactly what Jesus came to give you: "I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full" (John 10:10). But this new life begins with surrender to Him. Have you placed your faith in Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior? If not, we urge you to do so today. "If you declare with your mouth, 'Jesus is Lord,' and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved" (Romans 10:9). Salvation is not earned by good works or sobriety, it is a free gift received by faith. Only in Christ can you find true freedom, forgiveness, and the power to overcome.

Let us pray for you now:

Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts for our sister who has poured out her pain before You. Lord, we ask for Your healing touch to mend her broken places. We rebuke the spirit of addiction in Jesus’ name and ask for Your strength to break its power over her life. Father, we pray for forgiveness, both for her to receive it from You and to extend it to those who have wronged her. Soften her heart, Lord, and help her to release the bitterness that binds her.

We pray for restoration in her relationships, with her daughters, her sister, and her friend. May Your love bridge the gaps that sin and pain have created. Give her the courage to seek reconciliation with humility and grace. Lord, we ask for Your provision in every area of her life, emotionally, spiritually, and physically. Surround her with godly people who will encourage her and hold her accountable.

Most of all, Father, we pray for her salvation if she does not yet know You. Draw her to Jesus, the only One who can give her the new life she longs for. Fill her with Your Holy Spirit and let her walk in the freedom that comes from knowing You. We declare over her that she is a new creation in Christ, and we speak life, hope, and joy into her spirit.

In the mighty name of Jesus, we pray. Amen.

You are not alone in this journey. The road to healing is not easy, but it is worth it. Take one step at a time, seek Christian counseling, join a recovery group, and surround yourself with believers who will walk with you. God sees your tears, and He is already at work in your life. Keep pressing into Him, and you will find the happiness, freedom, and restoration you seek. "The Lord your God is with you, the Mighty Warrior who saves. He will take great delight in you; in his love he will no longer rebuke you, but will rejoice over you with singing" (Zephaniah 3:17).

 

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We hear the raw ache beneath your words, and the fierce longing to truly live again. The shame and wreckage feel overwhelming, but you’re not shouting into the void, God sees you, and we’re honored to stand with you in this. Your honesty about the drinking and the desperation is not a final chapter; it’s the ground where God does some of His deepest work.

You asked for forgiveness. Please let this sink in: when you confess and turn to Him, His forgiveness is immediate and complete, not something you have to earn by feeling “clean enough.” You can stop carrying the verdict against yourself. Your daughters and sister may need time to trust again, but you don’t have to wait for a feeling of peace to accept that you are already forgiven.

One small, brave step could be reaching out to your daughters with simple humility. Not to explain or justify, but just to say, “I love you and I regret the years my drinking stole. When you’re ready, I’d be grateful for a chance to build something new, even if it’s slow.” The same open door could be offered to your sister and to your friend, no pressure, just an honest invitation. Their response isn’t on your shoulders; your part is to show up changed, one day at a time.

As you do that, you might consider finding a Christ-centered recovery community like Celebrate Recovery or a similar local group. Being surrounded by people who understand shame and addiction, and who are walking toward healing together, can help you rebuild a life your daughters can see, and give you the steady support you need to stay free. It’s a tangible way to let those who love you watch you fight for the life you’re asking God to restore.

A prayer for you, Father, thank You that this woman is not beyond Your reach. Shatter the chains of shame and regret that still hold her heart captive. Give her daily courage to walk out the freedom You’ve already purchased. Soften the hearts of her daughters, her sister, and her friend . Open a door for honest, healing conversations in Your perfect timing. Pour out Your kindness on her, and let her taste the joy of life again. We ask all of this in the merciful name of Jesus. Amen.

 

[Spurgeon]

The drink and the shame and the wreckage left behind, you have told it plainly, and I do not think you need me to make the list longer. You have already made it long enough in your own heart, and the accuser has been whispering it to you in the dark hours when sleep will not come. But I want you to hear something else now, something that does not come from the accuser. I want you to hear what God says to a soul that has made a ruin of things, and that comes back to Him with nothing in its hands but the ruins.

Here is the wonder of it. When you come to the end of yourself, when you look at the spent years and the squandered gifts and the people you have wounded, and when you say from the bottom of your heart, "God, I need You, forgive me, I have nothing to bring," that is the very moment when heaven bends low. The Lord does not stand at a distance, waiting for you to clean yourself up. He comes near to the broken. The crushed spirit is His chosen dwelling-place. You have been crushed, and that is a hard mercy, but it is mercy all the same, for now there is room for Him to enter where before there was only the noise of your own will.

You spoke of asking a police officer for help and receiving the handcuffs instead. That is a bitter memory. But let me tell you of another Officer, the Captain of our salvation, and when you cry to Him for help He does not arrest you, He sets you free. The Law could only hand you over to judgment, but Christ was handed over for you. That is the great exchange. He took the handcuffs. He wore the shame. He stood in the place of the drunken fool, and I say that tenderly, for I have been a fool myself in ways I dare not recount, and He bore it all away. There is forgiveness with Him, not a stingy forgiveness that keeps a ledger, but such a full and free forgiveness that the Book of Remembrance is wiped clean. "I will not remember your sins." That is His own word. He does not say, "I will try to overlook them." He says He will not remember them. They are gone from the record, sunk in the depths of the sea, and He has posted a notice there: No Fishing.

What you are feeling now is not the anger of God. It is the pain of healing. A limb that has been broken and set aches as it mends. Your heart is mending. The very sorrow you feel is the stirring of life where there was only numbness before. You said you so desperately want to live again. That desire did not come from yourself. It is the breath of the Holy Spirit, quickening you, waking you from the long sleep of despair. The prodigal in the far country, when he came to himself, did not first clean the pig-slop from his clothes. He did not compose a fine speech. He simply turned his face toward home, and while he was still a long way off, the father ran. Do you see it? The father ran. That is the heart of God toward you at this moment. You have not out-sinned His grace. You have not wandered beyond the reach of His arm. The Shepherd leaves the ninety-nine for the one, and you are that one, bleating in the thicket, tangled in the thorns you yourself planted, and He is coming for you.

Now, about your daughters and your sister and your friend. I hear the ache in your words when you speak of them. You want them to see you differently. You want your friend to have the courage to draw near again. That is a natural longing, and I will pray with you about it. But let me whisper this to you: your standing with them does not determine your standing with God. Get right with Him first, and the rest will fall into place in His time. The Lord can restore the years the locust has eaten. I have seen Him do it. A woman I knew, her life had been a shipwreck, and she thought she would never again see the faces of those she loved without their eyes filling with reproach, but God made her latter days a testimony. He can do that for you. Be patient. Trust His timing. The love that has grown cold in others is not beyond His warming. But even if their hearts are slow to turn, His heart is swift and sure. You have His friendship, and that is the root from which all other friendships grow.

And do not think that your prayer for forgiveness is too small or too late. The Lord never wearies of hearing a penitent soul say, "Forgive me." It is music to Him. The angels rejoice over one sinner who repents. Did you know that? All heaven is listening, and when you whisper in the dark, "God, forgive me," there is joy in the presence of the angels. You are not a nuisance to the Almighty. You are His child, and He has been watching for you.

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Lord Jesus, You who forgave the thief on the cross and the woman who wept at Your feet, look upon this dear soul now. She has made a tangle of things, but You are the Untangler. She has carried her shame like a stone, but You are the Stone-roller. Lift it from her. Let her feel the light of Your face shining upon her. Breathe peace into her heart. Restore what the enemy has stolen, her joy, her dignity, her relationships. Give her daughters eyes to see the new thing You are doing in their mother. Soften her sister's heart. Give her friend the courage to be a friend again, and let that friendship be a means of grace. But above all, Lord, let her know that she is Yours, forgiven and free, washed in Your blood and clothed in Your righteousness. Lead her into the land of the living, and let her latter days be full of gladness. In Your precious name, Amen.

 

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May God in Jesus' name answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. God is so in love with you. Be Encouraged!

Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.

Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding. Bless me with knowledge, wisdom, and understanding in all You have called me to do.

God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God solution focused heart, mind, spirit, and attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net

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Praying for this request in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

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Praying for this request in Jesus Name.

 

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We are so grateful you shared your heart with us and allowed us to stand with you in prayer during this deeply painful season. Your raw honesty about the hurt, shame, and struggle touched our spirits, and we have lifted you, your daughters, your sister, and your friend before the Lord daily, asking Him to bring healing and restoration to every broken place.

We have prayed specifically for the chains of bitterness to be broken, for God’s forgiveness to wash over you like a cleansing flood, and for the heavy weight of the past to be lifted from your shoulders. We asked the Holy Spirit to replace your sorrow with joy, your shame with dignity, and your loneliness with the assurance that you are deeply loved by your Heavenly Father. We prayed for your daughters—that their hearts would soften toward you, that they would see the woman of strength and grace God created you to be, and that any walls between you would crumble in His presence. For your sister, we asked God to restore the bond you once shared, and for your friend, we prayed for courage to step forward in friendship once more.

Most of all, we have asked God to remind you that you are not defined by your mistakes or the cruelty of others. You are His beloved daughter, and He longs to redeem every part of your story. If He has already begun to answer these prayers—if you’ve sensed even the smallest shift toward freedom, forgiveness, or reconciliation—we would be overjoyed to hear your praise report. Let us celebrate His faithfulness with you!

If the answers haven’t come yet, or if the journey still feels overwhelming, please don’t hesitate to post again. We are here to walk with you, to pray without ceasing, and to remind you that God is at work even when you can’t see it. He is close to the brokenhearted, and He has not abandoned you.

May the Lord continue to draw near to you, filling you with His peace and hope as you press into Him. May you feel His arms around you, His grace covering you, and His strength sustaining you. We stand with you in faith, believing that He who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion. In Jesus’ precious and powerful name, we pray. Amen.