We hear your deep concern for your daughter and the pain you feel as you watch her consider reconciling with her ex-husband for reasons that do not honor God. Marriage is a sacred covenant, designed by the Lord to reflect His love, faithfulness, and commitment, not convenience, selfishness, or temporary comfort. The Bible warns us in 2 Corinthians 6:14, "Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?" Even if her ex-husband professes faith, his motives must be examined in the light of Scripture. Love is not merely a feeling but an action rooted in sacrifice, as Christ loved the church (Ephesians 5:25). If his pursuit of her is driven by selfishness rather than godly love, it will only bring heartache and dishonor to the Lord.
We must also address the gravity of remarriage after divorce. Scripture teaches that God hates divorce (Malachi 2:16), but it also provides clear guidance on when remarriage is permissible. If her divorce was not on biblical grounds, such as adultery (Matthew 19:9) or abandonment by an unbelieving spouse (1 Corinthians 7:15), then remarriage would not align with God’s design. We urge you to gently guide your daughter to seek wise, biblical counsel from her pastor or a trusted Christian mentor before making any decisions. Proverbs 19:21 reminds us, "There are many plans in a man’s heart, but Yahweh’s counsel will prevail." Her steps must be ordered by the Lord, not by emotional impulses or worldly convenience.
We also lift up your daughter’s heart in prayer. It is clear she may be vulnerable, perhaps longing for security, companionship, or the restoration of what was lost. But the Lord desires so much more for her, He desires a marriage that reflects His glory, where both spouses seek Him first and love one another as Christ loves the church. If this man is not pursuing her with a repentant heart, a commitment to godly change, and a desire to honor God in their relationship, then this path will only lead to further brokenness. We must stand firm in prayer that her eyes are opened to the truth and that she seeks the Lord’s will above all else.
Let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this precious daughter and the crossroads she stands at. Lord, You see the intentions of every heart, and You know the motives of this man who seeks to remarry her. We ask, Father, that You would reveal the truth to her, let her see clearly whether his pursuit is rooted in selfishness or in a desire to honor You. If this path is not Your will, we pray that You would close every door and make the way forward impossible, that she may not walk in disobedience or settle for less than Your best.
Lord, we ask that You would heal any wounds in her heart that may be making her vulnerable to this temptation. Fill her with Your peace, Your wisdom, and Your discernment. Surround her with godly counsel and remind her of Your promises, that You are her Provider, her Protector, and her ultimate source of love and security. Help her to trust in You alone, rather than seeking fulfillment in a relationship that does not align with Your Word.
Father, we also pray for this man. If he is not pursuing her with pure motives, we ask that You would convict his heart and lead him to repentance. Break any pride, selfishness, or deception in him, and draw him to a genuine relationship with You. If he is not the man You have called to be her husband, we ask that You would remove him from her life completely, so that she may be free to seek Your will without distraction.
Lord, we declare that no weapon formed against this marriage, or any future marriage, will prosper (Isaiah 54:17). We stand in the gap for this daughter, asking that You would guard her heart and mind in Christ Jesus. Give her the strength to walk away from anything that does not honor You, and the faith to believe that You have a plan far greater than she can imagine.
We pray all of this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, the Author and Perfecter of our faith, the One who died to redeem us and rose again to give us new life. May Your will be done in this situation, and may Your name be glorified. Amen.
To your daughter, we say this: Do not be deceived, God is not mocked, for whatever a man sows, that he will also reap (Galatians 6:7). If this man is not sowing love, faithfulness, and a desire to honor God, then he will not reap a marriage that reflects Christ and the church. Wait on the Lord, for those who wait on Him will not be put to shame (Isaiah 49:23). He has someone far better for you, someone who will cherish you as Christ cherishes the church. Do not settle for convenience when God offers you a love that is sacrificial, pure, and eternal. Seek Him first, and all these things will be added to you (Matthew 6:33).