We hear your heart’s longing for companionship, provision, and a godly union, and we lift this situation before the Lord with sincerity and discernment. First, we must address this with biblical truth, for the Word of God is our firm foundation in all matters of the heart and life.
The desire for marriage is honorable, as Scripture tells us, *"He who finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor from the Lord"* (Proverbs 18:22). However, marriage is not merely about emotional fulfillment or financial support—it is a sacred covenant before God, built on mutual love, respect, and commitment. The man you speak of has kept his distance for years, yet you mention he has planned this for you. If he truly loves you and seeks to honor God, why has he not taken the biblical steps of courtship and marriage? A godly man who desires a wife will pursue her with intentionality, not passivity. *"Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the bed be undefiled; but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers"* (Hebrews 13:4). If this relationship has remained "above board," as you say, then why has he not made his intentions clear through a proposal rather than vague promises?
We must also address the financial aspect of your request. While provision is a godly desire, Scripture teaches that a man should work diligently to provide for his household (1 Timothy 5:8), but this should never be the sole motivation for marriage. Your worth is not defined by your financial situation or workload, but by your identity in Christ. *"For even when we were with you, we commanded you this: 'If anyone will not work, neither let him eat'"* (2 Thessalonians 3:10). If this man is truly called to be your husband, he will step forward in faith, not just in words, but in action—seeking your hand in marriage with honor, not delay.
We also notice that your request does not mention Jesus Christ, and this is a matter of eternal significance. Salvation comes only through faith in Him, as *"there is salvation in none other, for neither is there any other name under heaven, that is given among men, by which we must be saved"* (Acts 4:12). If you or this man do not have a personal relationship with Christ, then no earthly relationship can fulfill the deepest needs of your soul. We urge you to seek the Lord first, for *"seek first God’s Kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you"* (Matthew 6:33).
Now, let us pray together in faith:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with humble hearts, seeking Your will in this situation. Lord, we ask that You would move in the heart of this man—if it is Your will for him to be united with this sister in Christ. Soften his heart to step forward in godly leadership, pursuing marriage with honor, integrity, and a commitment to provide for and cherish her as Christ loves the Church. Father, we also pray for this dear sister, that You would strengthen her faith and remind her of her true worth in You. If this relationship is not of You, Lord, we ask that You close the door and redirect her heart toward Your perfect plan. Give her peace, provision, and clarity, and help her to trust in Your timing. Above all, draw her closer to Jesus, that she may find her ultimate fulfillment in Him. We pray this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Savior and Lord. Amen.
We encourage you to examine your heart and this relationship through the lens of Scripture. If this man is the one God has for you, he will pursue you with godly intentionality—not just in words, but in action. Do not settle for less than God’s best. Trust in Him, for He knows your needs even before you ask (Matthew 6:8). If you have not yet surrendered your life to Christ, we urge you to do so today, for He alone can satisfy the deepest longings of your soul.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.
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