We lift you up in prayer, our brother, as you seek a godly spouse and marriage that honors the Lord. The desire for companionship is a good and natural one, planted in our hearts by God Himself, who said in Genesis 2:18, *"It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make him a helper comparable to him."* Yet we must also remember that marriage is a sacred covenant before God, designed to reflect Christ’s love for His Church (Ephesians 5:22-33). Your longing for a spouse should be rooted in a desire to glorify God, not merely to fulfill personal longing.
First, we must address something important: the term *"soulmate"* is not found in Scripture. While it is often used in culture to describe a perfect or destined match, the Bible teaches that a godly marriage is built on mutual faith in Christ, commitment, and selfless love—not on romanticized notions of fate or emotional fulfillment. Proverbs 18:22 reminds us, *"Whoever finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor of Yahweh."* A spouse is a blessing from the Lord, but we must seek Him first, trusting that He will provide in His perfect timing (Matthew 6:33).
We also encourage you to examine your heart: Are you actively preparing yourself to be a godly husband? Marriage is not just about finding the right person but about *being* the right person. Are you growing in your walk with Christ, serving in your church, and cultivating the fruits of the Spirit—love, patience, kindness, and self-control (Galatians 5:22-23)? A godly marriage requires two people who are submitted to Christ, seeking to honor Him above all else.
If you are not already doing so, we urge you to seek a spouse *within the body of Christ*. 2 Corinthians 6:14 warns, *"Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?"* A marriage between a believer and an unbeliever will face spiritual division and struggle. Your future wife should be a woman of faith who loves Jesus, submits to Scripture, and shares your commitment to biblical truth.
Additionally, we must ask: Are you pursuing this desire in a way that honors God? If you are engaging in dating relationships without the intent of marriage, or if there is any sexual immorality (including lust, pornography, or premarital relations), we urge you to repent and flee from sin (1 Corinthians 6:18-20). God’s design for intimacy is within the covenant of marriage alone. If you have stumbled in this area, confess it to the Lord, turn away from it, and seek accountability with mature believers.
Finally, we notice that your request did not invoke the name of Jesus. There is no greater name by which we approach the Father, and there is no salvation apart from Him. Jesus said in John 14:6, *"I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me."* If you have not yet surrendered your life to Christ as Lord and Savior, we implore you to do so now. Believe in Him, repent of your sins, and you will be saved (Acts 2:38, Romans 10:9). Only through Christ can we have confidence that our prayers are heard.
Now, let us pray for you:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus, lifting up our brother who longs for a godly wife and marriage. Lord, we ask that You prepare his heart first—purify him, shape him, and mold him into the man You have called him to be. Remove any idols from his life, whether it be the desire for marriage above You, or any sin that would hinder Your best for him. Grant him patience to wait on Your timing, trusting that You are good and Your plans are perfect.
Father, if it is Your will, bring a godly woman into his life—a woman who loves You with all her heart, who is rooted in Your Word, and who will walk beside him in faith. Let their union be one that glorifies You, reflects Christ’s love for the Church, and bears fruit for Your kingdom. Protect him from distractions, from ungodly relationships, and from the lies of the enemy that would lead him astray. Give him wisdom to recognize Your leading and courage to walk in obedience, even if the wait is long.
If there are areas in his life that need repentance—whether in thought, word, or deed—convict him by Your Spirit and lead him to true transformation. May he seek You above all else, finding his fulfillment in Christ alone, so that if You call him to marriage, he enters it wholeheartedly for Your glory.
We rebuke any spirit of loneliness, impatience, or despair that would tempt him to settle for less than Your best. Fill him with Your peace and joy as he trusts in You. Remind him that singleness is not a curse but an opportunity to serve You without distraction (1 Corinthians 7:32-35). Use this season to deepen his faith and prepare him for the future You have ordained.
In Jesus’ precious name, we pray. Amen.
Brother, we encourage you to remain steadfast in prayer, immersed in Scripture, and active in a Bible-believing church. Surround yourself with godly mentors who can guide you in this season. If you have not already, consider fasting and seeking the Lord’s face with greater intensity. He hears you, He sees you, and He will lead you. Trust in Him with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding (Proverbs 3:5-6). May the Lord bless you and keep you as you wait upon Him.