We stand with you in this painful and exhausting season, lifting your marriage before the Lord with heavy hearts. Thirty years is indeed a long time, and the weight of this trial is not lost on us. The rejection, the words of contempt, and the spiritual opposition you are facing are grievous, but we serve a God who is near to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit (Psalm 34:18). You are not defeated, though the enemy would love for you to believe that. The fact that you are still standing, still speaking the Word over your husband, and still refusing to give up is a testament to the Holy Spirit’s work in you.
First, we must address the spiritual warfare at play here. Your husband’s hardness of heart, his rejection of God’s Word, and his outright defiance are not merely human stubbornness—they are strongholds that must be broken in Jesus’ name. The enemy has been allowed to sow seeds of division, pride, and rebellion, and it is time for us to take authority over these forces. We rebuke the spirit of rebellion, pride, and hardness of heart that has taken root in your husband. We command it to leave in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, for it is written, “For though we walk in the flesh, we don’t wage war according to the flesh; for the weapons of our warfare are not of the flesh, but mighty before God to the throwing down of strongholds” (2 Corinthians 10:3-4). The Lord is able to soften even the hardest of hearts, for He has said, “Is my hand shortened at all, that it can’t redeem? Or have I no power to deliver?” (Isaiah 50:2).
We also want to gently but firmly address your husband’s rejection of God. It is deeply concerning that he not only resists the Lord but also silences your voice when you speak truth. This is not just a marital issue—it is a spiritual battle. The Bible warns us, “Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship do righteousness and iniquity have? Or what fellowship does light have with darkness?” (2 Corinthians 6:14). While this verse is often applied to marriage before it begins, the principle remains: a marriage cannot thrive when one spouse is actively resisting God. We must pray for your husband’s salvation with urgency, for the Lord desires that none should perish but that all should come to repentance (2 Peter 3:9). We declare that your husband’s heart will be turned to the Lord, that his eyes will be opened to the truth, and that he will be saved by the power of the Holy Spirit.
Now, to your question about what to do next: we believe the Lord is calling you to stand firm in faith while also exercising wisdom. You have been faithful in speaking the Word over your husband, and we encourage you to continue, but we also sense the Lord leading you to pray differently—perhaps with more fasting, more intercession, and even more strategic warfare prayers. The Lord may be calling you to a season of deeper consecration, where you fast and pray not just for your husband’s change of heart but also for your own strength and endurance. Remember, “Those who wait for Yahweh will renew their strength. They will mount up with wings like eagles. They will run, and not be weary. They will walk, and not faint” (Isaiah 40:31).
We also want to speak to the issue of your husband’s demand for you to leave. This is not just a marital dispute—it is an attempt to break covenant, and we must resist it with everything in us. Marriage is a sacred covenant before God, and the enemy wants to destroy it. We declare that your husband’s words will not stand. We declare that the Lord will intervene in this situation, that He will bring conviction to your husband’s heart, and that he will repent of his words and actions. We pray that the Lord will give you wisdom in how to respond—whether to stand your ground in love or to temporarily separate for the sake of safety and peace. But we do not believe the Lord is leading you to accept divorce. Malachi 2:16 says, “For I hate divorce,” says Yahweh, the God of Israel, “and him who covers his garment with violence!” says Yahweh of Armies. “Therefore take heed to your spirit, that you don’t deal treacherously.” We stand on this truth and declare that your marriage will not end in divorce.
We also want to address your exhaustion. It is understandable that you feel worn down, but the Lord sees your weariness and promises to sustain you. Psalm 55:22 says, “Cast your burden on Yahweh, and he will sustain you. He will never allow the righteous to be moved.” We encourage you to lean on the Lord in this season, to pour out your heart to Him, and to allow Him to carry you. You do not have to fight this battle alone. The Lord is your strength, your shield, and your refuge. We also encourage you to seek godly counsel—whether from a pastor, a trusted Christian counselor, or a mature believer who can support you and pray with you. You need people around you who can uphold you in prayer and speak life into your situation.
Now, let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this precious sister and her marriage. Lord, we thank You for her faithfulness, for her refusal to give up, and for her trust in You even when the situation seems hopeless. We declare that You are the God who makes the impossible possible, and we ask You to move mightily in this marriage. Father, we rebuke every spirit of rebellion, pride, and hardness of heart that has taken hold of her husband. We command these spirits to leave in the name of Jesus Christ. We pray that You would soften his heart, that You would open his eyes to the truth, and that You would draw him to salvation. Lord, we know that nothing is too hard for You, and we ask You to intervene in this situation in a way that only You can.
We also pray for our sister, Lord. We ask You to strengthen her, to renew her hope, and to fill her with Your peace. Father, she is weary, but we know that those who wait on You will renew their strength. We ask You to sustain her, to give her wisdom, and to guide her steps. Lord, we declare that her husband’s words will not stand. We declare that the enemy’s plans to destroy this marriage will fail. We declare that You will restore what has been broken and that this marriage will be a testimony of Your power and Your love.
Father, we also ask You to protect her heart. Guard her against bitterness, against despair, and against the lies of the enemy. Fill her with Your love, Your joy, and Your peace. Give her the strength to stand firm in faith, even when the battle is fierce. And Lord, we ask You to surround her with godly people who can support her, pray with her, and encourage her.
We pray all of this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, the name above all names, the name by which we have access to You. We thank You, Lord, that You are faithful, that You hear our prayers, and that You are working even when we cannot see it. We trust You, Lord, and we declare that victory is ours in Christ Jesus. Amen.
We want to leave you with this encouragement: the Lord has not forgotten you. He sees your tears, He hears your prayers, and He is working behind the scenes in ways you cannot yet see. Do not lose heart. Galatians 6:9 says, “Let us not be weary in doing good, for we will reap in due season, if we don’t give up.” Your season of reaping is coming. Keep standing, keep praying, and keep trusting in the Lord. He is faithful, and He will not abandon you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
