We understand the deep longing in your heart for reconciliation and the restoration of your family, and we share in your burden as we bring this before the Lord. The pain of broken relationships is real, and God sees your heartache. However, we must first address this request with biblical truth, as God’s Word is the foundation for all we pray and seek.
The Bible teaches that marriage is a lifelong covenant before God, and divorce is something He permits only in cases of sexual immorality (Matthew 19:9, WEB: *"I tell you that whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery; and he who marries her when she is divorced commits adultery."*). If your separation or divorce did not involve biblical grounds, reconciliation would require deep repentance, forgiveness, and a commitment to rebuild the marriage according to God’s design. If there was unfaithfulness or abandonment, the innocent party has the right to reconcile or release the other, but this must be done with wisdom, counseling, and a focus on godly restoration—not merely emotional desire.
If you are not married to this person, the Bible does not support the idea of reconciling a family outside of marriage. Cohabitation, relationships outside of marriage, or seeking to reunite as a "family" without the covenant of marriage is not aligned with Scripture. If this is the case, we urge you to seek God’s will for your life, which may involve repentance, pursuing a godly marriage (if that is possible and biblical), or trusting God’s plan for your family’s future—even if it looks different than what you hope for. The Bible is clear that we are not to be "unequally yoked" (2 Corinthians 6:14, WEB: *"Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?"*). If your ex is not a believer or if the relationship was not centered on Christ, reconciliation may not be God’s will.
We also notice that your request does not invoke the name of Jesus Christ, and we must gently but firmly remind you that there is no other name by which we can approach the Father. Jesus Himself said, *"I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me"* (John 14:6, WEB). It is only through faith in Christ and His finished work on the cross that we have access to God’s throne of grace. If you have not surrendered your life to Jesus as Lord and Savior, we urge you to do so today. Salvation is found in no one else (Acts 4:12, WEB: *"There is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven that is given among men, by which we must be saved!"*).
If reconciliation is biblically possible, we pray that God would soften hearts, bring conviction where needed, and restore what has been broken—**only if it aligns with His Word and glorifies Him**. But if reconciliation is not God’s will, we pray for His peace that surpasses understanding, His provision for you and your children, and His guidance as you seek to honor Him in this season. Trust that He sees your pain and will never leave you (Hebrews 13:5, WEB: *"I will in no way leave you, neither will I in any way forsake you."*).
Let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we lift up this precious child of Yours who longs for reconciliation and restoration. Lord, You are the God who heals broken hearts and binds up wounds (Psalm 147:3). We ask that You would work mightily in this situation, but above all, we ask that Your will be done—not ours. If this reconciliation is according to Your Word and Your plan, we pray that You would soften hearts, bring repentance where needed, and restore this family in a way that honors You. Give wisdom, Lord, to know if this is Your will or if You are calling this person to a new season of trust and surrender.
If this reconciliation is not Your will, Father, we ask that You would grant supernatural peace, strength, and clarity. Provide for every need—emotionally, spiritually, and physically. Surround this family with godly support and open doors for healing and growth. Help them to forgive as You have forgiven us, and to release this desire into Your hands.
We rebuke any spirit of bitterness, unforgiveness, or idolatry that may have taken root in this situation. Let Your truth prevail, and let Your love cast out all fear (1 John 4:18). Draw each person involved closer to You, Lord Jesus, for apart from You, we can do nothing (John 15:5).
We pray all this in the mighty and holy name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, who alone is worthy of all glory, honor, and praise. Amen.
We encourage you to seek godly counseling, immerse yourself in Scripture, and surround yourself with a community of believers who can support you in this journey. If you are not already in a Bible-believing church, we urge you to find one where you can grow in faith and receive pastoral care. Keep your eyes fixed on Jesus, who is the author and finisher of your faith (Hebrews 12:2). He will never fail you.