Silas
Humble Servant of All
The weight you are carrying comes through so clearly, and you are right to bring it all before the Lord. You have placed your family under the blood of Jesus and claimed the promise that no weapon formed against you will prosper. That is not arrogance; that is faith anchored to the truth that greater is He who is in us than he who is in the world. Hold fast to that.
What you describe reminds me of the spiritual dynamics we see throughout Scripture, where a son or daughter becomes entangled in a household that does not honor God. Think of David at Saul’s court. At first it seemed a place of honor, but soon it became a web of jealousy, control, and outbursts of rage. Saul’s own son Jonathan formed a pure covenant of love with David, yet even that could not shield David from the poison that had taken hold of that household. Saul’s clinging to David, refusing to let him go home for family celebrations, was not love but manipulation. When David finally fled, he ran in fear straight to the camp of the Philistines, to an enemy city. Fear can drive us deeper into the wrong places. Your daughter is not so different: what once may have looked like companionship has become a system of bondage, and the mother’s interference mirrors Saul’s grasping, trying to claim authority over someone who belongs to God alone.
And so, like David, your daughter needs to flee, not to another human refuge, but home to the family God has given her and to the God who says, “Return to the land of your fathers and to your family, and I will be with you.” That was God’s word to Jacob, and it is His word to her. She does not have to stay in this Sodom. Lot was righteous, but he lingered so long in that corrupt city that even when angels pulled him out, the moral filth clung to his family. The progression you fear, from listening to ungodly counsel to standing with sinners to sitting in their seat, is real and dangerous. Your younger daughter and your son are watching, and your son especially needs the blessing of a united family where his dignity is honored, never mocked.
The spiritual battle you sense is equally real. Satan complained that God had put a hedge around Job; sometimes the Lord removes a part of that hedge to let us see what is truly in the heart. When a person walks away from that protective boundary, doors open to forces of darkness. You have rightly rebuked spirits of rebellion, control, and deception, but remember that rebuke is most powerful when the person also turns. Pray that your older daughter will be delivered from all her fears, as David was, and that she will rediscover the intimacy of love with Jesus Christ Himself. The Song of Songs, rightly understood, pictures that living, joyful union between the believer and her Bridegroom. No counterfeit union, however persuasive, can satisfy the soul’s deep thirst. Jesus alone gives the living water that keeps springing up within.
Therefore, continue to plead the blood over your household and to declare God’s protection. But let your prayers press in this direction: that the Holy Spirit will awaken in your daughter a holy homesickness, a longing for the Father’s house where she belongs. Ask that every false obligation, every lie that says she is responsible for that young man’s future, be shattered. She is no one’s savior; only Jesus is. The enemy wants to isolate her from the family that raised her, but God’s promise is to restore the years the locusts have eaten and to mend the torn places. Your son’s bond with his sister can flourish again; your younger daughter can be kept from following a destructive path.
Stand on the word that God is for you. The same Spirit who raised Christ from the dead dwells in you, and He will fight for you. Frustrate every scheme by speaking truth and by modeling the peace that surpasses understanding. When worry tries to wear you down, remember that your soul can still boast in the Lord, and the humble hear it and are glad. I join you in asking for that complete restoration, for godly spouses in due time, and for a day when your whole family rejoices together in the presence of the Lord.
What you describe reminds me of the spiritual dynamics we see throughout Scripture, where a son or daughter becomes entangled in a household that does not honor God. Think of David at Saul’s court. At first it seemed a place of honor, but soon it became a web of jealousy, control, and outbursts of rage. Saul’s own son Jonathan formed a pure covenant of love with David, yet even that could not shield David from the poison that had taken hold of that household. Saul’s clinging to David, refusing to let him go home for family celebrations, was not love but manipulation. When David finally fled, he ran in fear straight to the camp of the Philistines, to an enemy city. Fear can drive us deeper into the wrong places. Your daughter is not so different: what once may have looked like companionship has become a system of bondage, and the mother’s interference mirrors Saul’s grasping, trying to claim authority over someone who belongs to God alone.
And so, like David, your daughter needs to flee, not to another human refuge, but home to the family God has given her and to the God who says, “Return to the land of your fathers and to your family, and I will be with you.” That was God’s word to Jacob, and it is His word to her. She does not have to stay in this Sodom. Lot was righteous, but he lingered so long in that corrupt city that even when angels pulled him out, the moral filth clung to his family. The progression you fear, from listening to ungodly counsel to standing with sinners to sitting in their seat, is real and dangerous. Your younger daughter and your son are watching, and your son especially needs the blessing of a united family where his dignity is honored, never mocked.
The spiritual battle you sense is equally real. Satan complained that God had put a hedge around Job; sometimes the Lord removes a part of that hedge to let us see what is truly in the heart. When a person walks away from that protective boundary, doors open to forces of darkness. You have rightly rebuked spirits of rebellion, control, and deception, but remember that rebuke is most powerful when the person also turns. Pray that your older daughter will be delivered from all her fears, as David was, and that she will rediscover the intimacy of love with Jesus Christ Himself. The Song of Songs, rightly understood, pictures that living, joyful union between the believer and her Bridegroom. No counterfeit union, however persuasive, can satisfy the soul’s deep thirst. Jesus alone gives the living water that keeps springing up within.
Therefore, continue to plead the blood over your household and to declare God’s protection. But let your prayers press in this direction: that the Holy Spirit will awaken in your daughter a holy homesickness, a longing for the Father’s house where she belongs. Ask that every false obligation, every lie that says she is responsible for that young man’s future, be shattered. She is no one’s savior; only Jesus is. The enemy wants to isolate her from the family that raised her, but God’s promise is to restore the years the locusts have eaten and to mend the torn places. Your son’s bond with his sister can flourish again; your younger daughter can be kept from following a destructive path.
Stand on the word that God is for you. The same Spirit who raised Christ from the dead dwells in you, and He will fight for you. Frustrate every scheme by speaking truth and by modeling the peace that surpasses understanding. When worry tries to wear you down, remember that your soul can still boast in the Lord, and the humble hear it and are glad. I join you in asking for that complete restoration, for godly spouses in due time, and for a day when your whole family rejoices together in the presence of the Lord.
