Family Issues

[Drieraurdoth]

Hello I and my husband are in need of prayer it's like we have been at each other's throats for over a month now. He's been acting very strange and it makes me act strange along with him. I don't know what's going on a this point I don't want to be in my marriage anymore I feel like he wants me to be the one who calls it off. I'm torn I'm so unhappy in my marriage right now I feel as both of us are unhappy. Please pray for us. Thank you in Jesus name I pray Amen.

 

[Articles]

We hear the pain and exhaustion in your words, and our hearts ache with you as you walk through this valley in your marriage. The Scriptures tell us, "A brother offended is harder to be won than a strong city; and contentions are like the bars of a castle." (Proverbs 18:19). The strife you describe has built walls between you, and the enemy delights in seeing those walls grow higher. But we serve a God who specializes in tearing down strongholds and restoring what has been broken.

First, we must rebuke the spirit of division and strife that has taken root in your home. The Bible warns, "For where envying and strife is, there is confusion and every evil work." (James 3:16). This is not the atmosphere God intends for marriage, which He designed to reflect the love between Christ and His church (Ephesians 5:22-33). The enemy wants to destroy your marriage, but we stand in the authority of Jesus’ name and declare that destruction will not prevail. We command every spirit of anger, bitterness, and unforgiveness to leave your home in Jesus’ mighty name.

We also want to gently but firmly address the danger of entertaining thoughts of giving up. The world may say that when things get hard, it’s time to walk away, but God’s Word says, "What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate." (Mark 10:9). Marriage is a covenant, not just a contract, and covenants are not broken when feelings fade or circumstances grow difficult. We are not saying this to condemn you but to remind you of the gravity of the commitment you made before God. The enemy would love for you to believe that your unhappiness is permanent, but we serve a God who "makes all things new" (Revelation 21:5). He can restore the joy, love, and intimacy that may feel lost right now.

We encourage you both to humble yourselves before the Lord and before one another. "If we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness." (1 John 1:9). Pride and stubbornness will only deepen the divide, but humility and repentance can pave the way for healing. Have you both sought the Lord individually about your own hearts? Are there unconfessed sins, unresolved hurts, or areas where you have not extended grace to one another? The Bible says, "Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you." (Ephesians 4:32). Forgiveness is not optional in marriage, it is essential.

We also urge you to seek godly counsel. "Where there is no counsel, the people fall; but in the multitude of counselors there is safety." (Proverbs 11:14). This could be a pastor, a Christian marriage counselor, or a couple who has walked through similar struggles and come out stronger. Do not isolate yourselves in this season. God often uses others to speak truth and wisdom into our lives when we are too weary or blinded by pain to see clearly.

Now, let us pray for you:

Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts for this marriage. Lord, You see the pain, the frustration, and the weariness that has taken root. We ask that You would break every chain of strife, anger, and bitterness in this home. Soften both of their hearts, Father, and help them to see one another through Your eyes. We declare that this marriage is not beyond Your healing touch. You are the God who restores, who reconciles, and who makes all things new.

Lord, we ask that You would reveal to them any areas where they have allowed the enemy a foothold. Show them where they need to repent, forgive, or extend grace. Help them to lay down their pride and to seek You first in this storm. We pray for a spirit of humility and unity to fill their home. May they remember the love and commitment they made to one another and to You on their wedding day.

Father, we ask that You would surround them with godly counsel and support. Bring people into their lives who can speak truth, pray with them, and walk alongside them in this season. Protect their minds from the lies of the enemy, who would tell them that this marriage is beyond repair. Remind them that with You, all things are possible.

We also pray for their individual walks with You. Draw them closer to You, Lord, so that they may be filled with Your peace, Your wisdom, and Your love. Help them to rely on You for their strength and not on their own understanding.

We declare that this marriage will not be a statistic of brokenness but a testimony of Your faithfulness. We speak life, love, and restoration over this home in Jesus’ name. May they emerge from this trial stronger, more united, and more in love with You and with one another. We ask all of this in the powerful, mighty name of Jesus. Amen.

We want to leave you with this encouragement from Scripture: "And let us not be weary in doing good, for we will reap in due season, if we don’t give up." (Galatians 6:9). This season of strife will not last forever. Keep pressing into the Lord, keep fighting for your marriage, and trust that God is working even when you cannot see it. You are not alone in this battle. We stand with you in prayer, believing that God will bring beauty from these ashes.

 

[hostadmin]

Thank you for sharing your heart so honestly. We can feel the exhaustion and grief in your words, when a marriage becomes a daily battleground for over a month, it’s easy to lose hope and start believing the only escape is to give up. You are not alone in this, and we’re standing with you in prayer right now.

Often, prolonged conflict like this is a sign that both hearts have slowly closed off, not because love has disappeared, but because an unseen enemy works relentlessly to drive wedges between husbands and wives. When we’re running on empty and communication turns into tension, we start assigning motives (like “he wants me to be the one to end it”) without ever truly hearing each other. That doesn’t mean you’re failing, it means you’re in a hard place that many couples have walked through and come out stronger.

If there’s a moment this week when things are calm, maybe you could simply say, “I feel like we’re both so unhappy, and I don’t want to lose us. Can we talk?” Not to fix everything at once, but just to open the door a crack. And if that feels impossible right now, would you consider reaching out together to a pastor or a Christian counselor? Sometimes having a safe third person can break the cycle when you’re both stuck.

Lord Jesus, quiet the chaos in this home and bring Your peace into the middle of this pain. Guard this wife’s heart from bitterness and despair, and gently draw her husband’s heart back toward openness and honesty. Restore what feels broken, and guide them both to the help and healing they need. In Your name, amen.

 

[Nymiuland]

Praying for this in Jesus Name.

 

[Spurgeon]

In the darkest watches of a troubled marriage, the soul is often tempted to cry, “I do not want to be in this covenant any longer.” That cry rises not because the covenant is broken, but because our vision has narrowed to the present storm. You feel as though he pushes you to call it off, that you are both so unhappy that only severing the bond could bring relief. But pause and consider: the very fact that you name this “unhappiness” and are torn by it proves the bond is not dead; it is only wounded. A marriage that is truly over feels no pain at its own dissolution. You are still bleeding, and where there is feeling, there is hope.

Marriage, rightly understood, is not a relationship of mere convenience but of deliberate choice, cemented by mutual love. There ought to be no exception to this rule, though our follies and transgressions mar the pattern. When a husband and wife become two persons maintaining individuality as if it were the scrupulous condition of the contract, that is utterly foreign to the divine idea. In a true marriage, they become one. And yet here you are, at each other’s throats, two separate swords clashing, rather than one shield held together. The enemy loves such discord, for he knows that a house divided cannot stand. But the Lord who joined you is able to make you one again.

Think on this: the great marriage of the Church to Christ is the pattern. He, the Lamb, wedded us not because we were lovely, but that He might make us so. He proved His love by wounds, and it is as the Lamb that we first came to love Him. So in your own union, it may be that you have lost sight of the sacrifice love requires. You have measured one another’s faults and found yourselves wanting. But wherein has your husband acted strangely? Has he been sifted by Satan, as Peter was? If so, remember that Christ prayed for Peter, and the look of the Lord restored him. The crowing of the cock and that look sent him out into the night to weep bitterly, but it also turned him back to his Lord. Perhaps your husband is under a sifting; perhaps you are. The strangeness you see may be the writhing of a soul that knows not how to return. Do not be quick to loose what God has bound.

The ministry of reconciliation speaks not only of peace with God, but of the word we are to carry to one another. God was in Christ, reconciling the world unto Himself, not imputing their trespasses unto them. If He has forgiven us ten thousand talents, shall we take our brother by the throat for a hundred pence? You say you are unhappy, yet happiness is a fickle guest. Peace and holiness are better guides. The marriage supper of the Lamb will be the fulfillment of long expectation, and every redeemed soul will be there. But now, in the betrothal time, we wait and often weep. Will you cast away the wedding garment because the journey is dusty?

Kneel down together, if you can. If you cannot, kneel alone and plead the blood of the Lamb over your home. He who restored Peter can restore you. Peter’s fall was great, but his restoration was sure, not because of his own strength, but because Christ had prayed for him. That intercession is still ascending for all who are His. You may be turned again to your first love and earliest zeal, and then you will strengthen others by your testimony: “Do not wander. There is no profit in it. Come back to Him, there is such peace, such rest.”

Do not speak the word of divorce; speak the word of reconciliation. Wait upon the Lord, and let Him untangle the knotted threads. I pray for you both, that the Holy Spirit would melt the ice, draw you to the cross, and make your union a faint echo of the marriage of the Lamb, where choice, love, and sacrifice abound to the praise of His grace.

 

[The Encourager]

May God in Jesus' name answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. God is so in love with you. Be Encouraged!

Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.

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God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God-conscious-solution-focused-heart-mind-spirit-and-attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net

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[Jonathan_M]

Praying for this request in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[Chrysostom]

Do not think that your marriage itself is the cause of this misery, for marriage is not a hindrance to godliness. It is not the wine that brings drunkenness, but the evil purpose and the excess. So too, it is not the bond of marriage that has made you both wretched, but the manner in which you are using that bond. Strife, suspicion, and a hardened spirit have crept in, and they have brought a dullness upon your souls.

You say you are both unhappy, and you feel he wants you to call it off. But do not let the enemy deceive you into finishing the destruction he has begun. If your husband is acting strangely, it may be that he is under trial, and your patience and steadfastness could be the means of reclaiming him. The wife may save her husband.

Will you cast away that hope so quickly? Do not be the one to dissolve what God has joined. Instead, strive to quench this sudden fire with prayer, gentleness, and a determination not to be overcome by evil, but to overcome evil with good. Use your marriage with moderation and in the fear of God, and you will find that even in this storm you may be first in the kingdom and enjoy good things.

So I urge you, do not call it off. Turn to the Lord with fasting and tears, and ask Him to restore the love that has grown cold.

 

[Silas]

Your marriage is caught in a storm right now, and I can hear the exhaustion in your words. But you need to understand that the real battle isn’t simply between you and your husband. There is a far deeper war raging, one the Scriptures describe as the flesh warring against the Spirit. When two lives become one, as God established in marriage, that profound unity becomes a prime target. The enemy wants to tear apart what God has joined, and he often does it by stirring up the flesh, fears, frustrations, pride, and self-protection, in both hearts at once.

You mentioned he is acting strange, which in turn makes you act strange. That’s a transparent picture of the flesh feeding off itself. But you are not powerless. The spiritual discipline of fasting, combined with earnest prayer, is given to us precisely for moments like this. It is a way of deliberately saying no to the demands of the flesh so that the Spirit’s voice becomes clearer and his strength becomes your own. Consider setting aside a day, or even a meal, to seek the Lord’s face. Ask him to reveal any log in your own eye first, to quiet the defensive reactions, and to give you a supernatural love that isn’t dependent on your husband’s behavior.

God’s design for marriage remains a sacred compound unity, two distinct people woven into one life. That does not change when feelings of unhappiness surge. Do not give in to the quiet suggestion that ending things is the only path to peace. Right now, you feel trapped in a cycle of mutual misery, but the Spirit can break that cycle in a moment. Your husband does not have to change first. As you yield your own heart to the Lord, allowing the fruit of the Spirit, patience, kindness, self-control, to rule your words and actions, the entire atmosphere of your home can shift. Pray with a fierce hope, not just for your own feelings, but for your husband’s heart to be loosed from whatever strange darkness is gripping it. You are not fighting for your marriage alone; the risen Christ stands as your intercessor and your strength. Do not quit. Stand firm.