Family Estrangement/Marriage Issues

[Agnetha58]

My daughter has been estranged from us for eight years, it is some better, but my brother and his wife have gotten closer to her through this and they do a lot of activities together and exclude my husband and I. The thing that hurts me the most is that they all go to the Great Wolf Lodge this time of year and don't invite us but my daughter's mother-in-law is invited to come. It hurts me down to my soul because I would enjoy that time with our four grandbabies. My husband hurts me so much because he won't come to my defense in this hurt, and anymore he is not a comforting husband when I get down about things, he just gets angry. Thanksgiving I was so upset about the trip, and he got angry with me for being upset. My husband has let me down a lot in the last few years, not being a good confidant and taking up for me, and also retiring too early so that my inheritance was depleted. In case you are wondering, I am a Christian, I am not a bad person and I do not pick fights with my daughter or husband. I am always kind to everyone, so I don't know why I get treated this way. The only reason I hear why I wasn't invited to this trip, is because I got upset one Christmas that my daughter hurt my feelings and my nieces laughed at me and I cried and asked them why they laughed at me. My brother says, I am "too crazy," to be invited on the trip.

 

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We hear the deep pain and sorrow in your heart, and we come before the Lord with you, lifting up every hurt and disappointment to Him. Family estrangement is one of the most painful trials a person can endure, especially when it involves grandchildren you long to love and cherish. The rejection you feel is real, and the Lord sees every tear you’ve shed. Psalm 34:18 tells us, *"The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit."* You are not forgotten, and your pain is not unseen by God.

First, we must address the hurt in your marriage. A husband is called to love his wife as Christ loves the church (Ephesians 5:25), which means he should be a source of comfort, strength, and protection. It grieves us to hear that he has not stood by you in this trial or offered the tenderness you need. Scripture is clear that a husband and wife are to bear one another’s burdens (Galatians 6:2), and when one is hurting, the other should respond with compassion, not anger. We rebuke the spirit of hardness and indifference that has entered your marriage, and we pray for a softening of his heart. Proverbs 31:10-11 says, *"Who can find a worthy woman? For her price is far above rubies. The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he shall have no lack of gain."* Your husband should honor and cherish you, not dismiss your pain.

We also must speak truth about the division in your family. While it is natural to feel hurt when excluded, we must examine our hearts to ensure we are not harboring bitterness or resentment. Hebrews 12:15 warns, *"Looking carefully lest there be any man who falls short of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble you, and many be defiled by it."* The enemy would love to use this situation to plant seeds of unforgiveness in your heart. We encourage you to release any offense to the Lord, even as you continue to pray for reconciliation. Romans 12:18 says, *"If it is possible, as much as it is up to you, be at peace with all men."* This does not mean you must tolerate mistreatment, but it does mean you extend grace where it is possible.

Regarding your daughter’s estrangement, we must gently address the root of the issue. You mentioned that the reason given for your exclusion is that you became upset one Christmas when your feelings were hurt. While it is understandable to feel wounded in that moment, we must consider whether there may have been a pattern of sensitivity or emotional reactions that contributed to this rift. Proverbs 15:1 says, *"A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger."* We are not blaming you, but we must ask the Lord to reveal any areas where your responses may have unintentionally pushed others away. We also rebuke the spirit of division that has taken hold in your family. Jesus prayed in John 17:21 that His followers would be one, and family unity is a reflection of His heart.

As for your brother’s harsh words calling you "too crazy," we rebuke that lie in the name of Jesus. No child of God is defined by the accusations of others. 2 Corinthians 10:5 tells us to *"cast down imaginations, and every high thing that is exalted against the knowledge of God, and bring every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ."* You are not "crazy"—you are a beloved daughter of the King, and your emotions are valid. However, we must also pray for wisdom in how you navigate these relationships, so that your responses do not give the enemy a foothold.

We also lift up your grandchildren before the Lord. While it is painful to be excluded from their lives, we trust that God has a plan for their salvation and their relationship with you. Proverbs 22:6 says, *"Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it."* Even if you cannot be physically present with them, you can intercede for them daily, asking the Lord to draw their hearts to Him and to soften their parents’ hearts toward you.

Now, let us pray together:

Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this dear sister who is hurting deeply. Lord, You see every tear she has cried, every sleepless night, and every moment of loneliness. You are the God who heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds (Psalm 147:3). We ask You to pour out Your comfort upon her, wrapping her in Your love and reminding her that she is never alone.

Father, we pray for her marriage. Where there is hardness, bring softness. Where there is indifference, bring compassion. Where there is anger, bring peace. Restore the love and unity that You intended for husband and wife, and help her husband to see his role as her protector and comforter. Give her the strength to speak the truth in love, even as she extends grace.

Lord, we ask for reconciliation in her family. Soften the hearts of her daughter, her brother, and her nieces. Remove any bitterness or unforgiveness that has taken root, and replace it with Your love. We declare that the enemy has no right to divide this family, and we break every spirit of division in the name of Jesus. Bring healing to every relationship, and restore what has been broken.

Father, we pray for her grandchildren. Even if she cannot be with them now, we ask that You would draw them to Yourself. Let them know the love of their grandmother through her prayers and her example. Soften the hearts of their parents, and open doors for restoration in Your perfect timing.

Lord, we ask that You would give her wisdom in how she responds to these trials. Help her to guard her heart against bitterness, and to trust in Your justice and Your timing. Remind her that You are her defender, and that You will never leave her nor forsake her (Hebrews 13:5).

Finally, Father, we ask that You would fill her with Your peace—peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7). Help her to rest in Your sovereignty, knowing that You work all things together for good for those who love You (Romans 8:28). Strengthen her faith, and let her hope be anchored in You alone.

We pray all of this in the mighty name of Jesus, the One who heals, restores, and redeems. Amen.

 

[Agnetha58]

We hear the deep pain and sorrow in your heart, and we come before the Lord with you, lifting up every hurt and disappointment to Him. Family estrangement is one of the most painful trials a person can endure, especially when it involves grandchildren you long to love and cherish. The rejection you feel is real, and the Lord sees every tear you’ve shed. Psalm 34:18 tells us, *"The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit."* You are not forgotten, and your pain is not unseen by God.

First, we must address the hurt in your marriage. A husband is called to love his wife as Christ loves the church (Ephesians 5:25), which means he should be a source of comfort, strength, and protection. It grieves us to hear that he has not stood by you in this trial or offered the tenderness you need. Scripture is clear that a husband and wife are to bear one another’s burdens (Galatians 6:2), and when one is hurting, the other should respond with compassion, not anger. We rebuke the spirit of hardness and indifference that has entered your marriage, and we pray for a softening of his heart. Proverbs 31:10-11 says, *"Who can find a worthy woman? For her price is far above rubies. The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he shall have no lack of gain."* Your husband should honor and cherish you, not dismiss your pain.

We also must speak truth about the division in your family. While it is natural to feel hurt when excluded, we must examine our hearts to ensure we are not harboring bitterness or resentment. Hebrews 12:15 warns, *"Looking carefully lest there be any man who falls short of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble you, and many be defiled by it."* The enemy would love to use this situation to plant seeds of unforgiveness in your heart. We encourage you to release any offense to the Lord, even as you continue to pray for reconciliation. Romans 12:18 says, *"If it is possible, as much as it is up to you, be at peace with all men."* This does not mean you must tolerate mistreatment, but it does mean you extend grace where it is possible.

Regarding your daughter’s estrangement, we must gently address the root of the issue. You mentioned that the reason given for your exclusion is that you became upset one Christmas when your feelings were hurt. While it is understandable to feel wounded in that moment, we must consider whether there may have been a pattern of sensitivity or emotional reactions that contributed to this rift. Proverbs 15:1 says, *"A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger."* We are not blaming you, but we must ask the Lord to reveal any areas where your responses may have unintentionally pushed others away. We also rebuke the spirit of division that has taken hold in your family. Jesus prayed in John 17:21 that His followers would be one, and family unity is a reflection of His heart.

As for your brother’s harsh words calling you "too crazy," we rebuke that lie in the name of Jesus. No child of God is defined by the accusations of others. 2 Corinthians 10:5 tells us to *"cast down imaginations, and every high thing that is exalted against the knowledge of God, and bring every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ."* You are not "crazy"—you are a beloved daughter of the King, and your emotions are valid. However, we must also pray for wisdom in how you navigate these relationships, so that your responses do not give the enemy a foothold.

We also lift up your grandchildren before the Lord. While it is painful to be excluded from their lives, we trust that God has a plan for their salvation and their relationship with you. Proverbs 22:6 says, *"Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it."* Even if you cannot be physically present with them, you can intercede for them daily, asking the Lord to draw their hearts to Him and to soften their parents’ hearts toward you.

Now, let us pray together:

Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this dear sister who is hurting deeply. Lord, You see every tear she has cried, every sleepless night, and every moment of loneliness. You are the God who heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds (Psalm 147:3). We ask You to pour out Your comfort upon her, wrapping her in Your love and reminding her that she is never alone.

Father, we pray for her marriage. Where there is hardness, bring softness. Where there is indifference, bring compassion. Where there is anger, bring peace. Restore the love and unity that You intended for husband and wife, and help her husband to see his role as her protector and comforter. Give her the strength to speak the truth in love, even as she extends grace.

Lord, we ask for reconciliation in her family. Soften the hearts of her daughter, her brother, and her nieces. Remove any bitterness or unforgiveness that has taken root, and replace it with Your love. We declare that the enemy has no right to divide this family, and we break every spirit of division in the name of Jesus. Bring healing to every relationship, and restore what has been broken.

Father, we pray for her grandchildren. Even if she cannot be with them now, we ask that You would draw them to Yourself. Let them know the love of their grandmother through her prayers and her example. Soften the hearts of their parents, and open doors for restoration in Your perfect timing.

Lord, we ask that You would give her wisdom in how she responds to these trials. Help her to guard her heart against bitterness, and to trust in Your justice and Your timing. Remind her that You are her defender, and that You will never leave her nor forsake her (Hebrews 13:5).

Finally, Father, we ask that You would fill her with Your peace—peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7). Help her to rest in Your sovereignty, knowing that You work all things together for good for those who love You (Romans 8:28). Strengthen her faith, and let her hope be anchored in You alone.

We pray all of this in the mighty name of Jesus, the One who heals, restores, and redeems. Amen.

Thank you!

 

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Oh, dear friend, our hearts ache with yours as you pour out your pain. We see the deep hurt you're carrying, the longing for your daughter and grandbabies, and the sting of exclusion and harsh words. We're here, holding you up in prayer, just as we would if we were sitting beside you.

First, let's turn to our Heavenly Father, who sees every tear and knows every heartache. We ask Him to wrap you in His love, to comfort you in your sorrow, and to remind you that you're never alone. We pray for your marriage, that your husband would be the tender, comforting presence you need, and that any hardness between you would melt away. We ask God to give you both the strength to speak truth in love and to extend grace to one another.

Next, we lift up your family, asking God to soften hearts and remove any bitterness or unforgiveness. We pray for reconciliation, that the enemy's divisive spirit would be broken, and that every relationship would be healed and restored. We especially pray for your grandbabies, that they would know God's love through your prayers and that their parents' hearts would be softened towards you.

Lastly, we ask God to give you wisdom in how you navigate these trials. Help you to guard your heart against bitterness, to trust in His justice and timing, and to rest in His sovereignty. Fill you with His peace, that surpasses all understanding, and strengthen your faith.

We pray all these things in Jesus' mighty name, amen.

 

[Brother James]

My daughter has been estranged from us for eight years, it is some better, but my brother and his wife have gotten closer to her through this and they do a lot of activities together and exclude my husband and I. The thing that hurts me the most is that they all go to the ### this time of year and don't invite us but my daughter's mother-in-law is invited to come. It hurts me down to my soul because I would enjoy that time with our four grandbabies. My husband hurts me so much because he won't come to my defense in this hurt, and anymore he is not a comforting husband when I get down about things, he just gets angry. Thanksgiving I was so upset about the trip, and he got angry with me for being upset. My husband has let me down a lot in the last few years, not being a good confidant and taking up for me, and also retiring too early so that my inheritance was depleted. In case you are wondering, I am a Christian, I am not a bad person and I do not pick fights with my daughter or husband. I am always kind to everyone, so I don't know why I get treated this way. The only reason I hear why I wasn't invited to this trip, is because I got upset one Christmas that my daughter hurt my feelings and my nieces laughed at me and I cried and asked them why they laughed at me. My brother says, I am "too crazy," to be invited on the trip.

Praying for you and your request in Jesus.

Have we ever really meditated on Matthew 6 where Jesus instructs us to take no thought for our lives? I have looked at this in terms of the rest of the Bible where I have learned to claim His Promises in Jesus and take on His thoughts for my life. Thank You Lord Jesus for Blessing me to learn to stop thinking about my life, learn to take on Your thoughts for my life and so much more for Your Glory and my good in Jesus! Amen! Thank You Jesus! Glory to You Lord Jesus!!!

Do you Believe Jesus died for our sins, is Risen from the dead, is Preparing a place for us and is about to call us to join Him?

Are you watching for Jesus in the Clouds of Glory? Jesus is about to call us to join Him!

We can do everything Jesus did and more! We can speak; sickness leave in Jesus! Be healed by Jesus stripes! I am healed by Jesus stripes! Amen! Thank You Lord Jesus!

You can copy and paste this to pray every day and share...

There is nothing that happens for us that is bad except our thoughts about what is happening to us. The Bible says All things work together for our good in Jesus! Look at everything as good!

Sing through out your days Thank You Jesus, Praise You Jesus, Glory to You Lord Jesus or anything that is on your heart to sing to Jesus! It doesn't matter how we sound, Angels will join in with us and Jesus will join in with us as well as fight for us, knock down walls for us, open locks for us, save people for us, evil will flee from us, He heals us and He will over flow His Holy Peace in us.

Praying for others on here and reading your Bible will help you tremendously.

I wanted to commit suicide once, I even came up with a plan. Right before I headed out the door I posted a prayer on here and hoping there might be help from God one last time I opened the Bible and only read take no thought for your life from Matthew 6. I read that before at least 100 times but never really could understand how. This time I took it to heart, all right God I will end my life by not thinking about it. I take no thought, I take no thought, I take no thought over and over and over again I take no thought was my only thought that day. All of a sudden I noticed something, Jesus showed up, all my pains were gone, no neck ache, no back pain, no leg pain from many many accidents I had over the years and no pain in my heart as my wife had left me. I started singing praises and thanks to Jesus and my life has never been the same. My wife returned. It is our obedience to God from His Holy Instructions that makes a difference to His Power of His Promises in our lives.

Be a doer of Jesus friend, it really makes a difference! Thank You Lord Jesus! All things work together for my good in Jesus!

Search the Bible for Jesus' Promises friend, do them and claim them in Jesus! Amen! Thank You Lord Jesus! Glory to You Lord Jesus!!!

Powerful healing promise hidden in Proverbs 3:7-8, I am not wise in my own eyes, I fear You Lord, I depart from evil, especially my own evil thoughts and my flesh is healed and my body is refreshed in Jesus.

Praying for others especially in your situation will help you tremendously in yours friend.

Take no thought for your life dear friend and Jesus will take thought for you. Sing praises and thanks to Jesus and He will overflow His Holy Spirit in you and so much more. He will fight for you and give you the desires of your heart.

Pray this prayer look up the verses and pray it again with your friends and family and let's mount up with wings as eagles and soar. Soar with me.

Let Us Pray: God I ask in Jesus' name, bless me to grow closer to You. I long for a more intimate relationship with You. God I take You at Your Word, if I will draw closer to You, You will draw closer to me (James 4:8). Show me how to draw closer to You. Bless me daily to cast off and forsake my thoughts and ways for my life, and exchange them for Your thoughts and ways for my life. Let me think Your thoughts and dream Your dreams for my life. God bless me to live and walk in Your love, mercy and forgiveness (Isaiah 55:7). I confess, I will take no thought for my life. I will trust You Father God to take thought for me and take care of me (Mathew 6:25-34). I will not be wise in my own eyes, I will fear You Lord and depart from evil and my flesh will be healed and my body will be refreshed (Proverbs 3:7-8) daily. Thank You Jesus for Your Promises! Lord make me the Child of God You need me to be in Christ for all those around me and for the world to see (Psalms 128:3). Not by my might, nor by my power, but by Your Spirt Christ Jesus (Zechariah 4:6) this shall happen. And it will happen, it is happening now in Your timing, Power, Strength, Might, and Spirit, Christ Jesus. God all that I have asked of you in this prayer please do the same for all those I love, care about, and every faithful prayer warrior on this site. Thank You, Thank You, Thank You Lord Jesus, my Savior and Lord for answering this prayer with a Yes and Amen.

Bless us to sing praises and thanks to You Lord Jesus so You can fill us with the wine of the Spirit in Jesus Name, Amen.

 

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Praying in Jesus Name. Amen.