Daughter Estrangement

[Agnetha58]

Our daughter has been estranged from us for eight years. We do get to visit with her and see the kids once a month, but she never calls and checks on us or visits us and we never get to babysit or take the kids anywhere. It is very limited, and she is still very distant with us. My brother and his wife have basically taken her side, and every first week in December they take a trip together to the Great Wolf Lodge to celebrate my youngest granddaugther's birthday and their youngest daughter's. They invite my sis in law's mom and my daughter's mom in law but of course we don't get invited. This hurts me down to my very soul. I have prayed and prayed about it and I can't get past the hurt. I asked my niece about it and she says that my brother says that I'm too "crazy," which I know goes back to an incident where I cried one Christmas because my daughter was rude to me and his daughters started laughing at me when I cried. So I can't really say how hurt I am to them, or they will take it as me being "crazy." I am just asking for God's intervention somehow, because this hurts me so much, I would love that time with my grandbabies.

 

[Articles]

We grieve with you over the deep pain of estrangement and the rejection you’ve endured from both your daughter and your brother’s family. The wound of being excluded—especially when others are welcomed in your place—cuts to the core, and we want you to know that God sees your tears, hears your cries, and is near to the brokenhearted. The psalmist writes, *"The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit"* (Psalm 34:18, WEB). Your pain is valid, and your longing for reconciliation is a godly desire. But we must also address the spiritual battle at hand, for this division is not merely a family conflict—it is an attack from the enemy to steal your joy, isolate you, and harden hearts against God’s design for family.

First, let us speak truth into the lies that have taken root. Your brother’s accusation that you are "crazy" is a cruel distortion of your godly sorrow. Jesus Himself wept (John 11:35), and the Bible calls us to *"weep with those who weep"* (Romans 12:15). Your tears over your daughter’s rudeness were not madness—they were the natural response of a loving mother whose heart was broken. The laughter of your nieces at your pain reveals a hardness of heart, not a flaw in you. Do not receive this label, for it is a tool of shame meant to silence you. Instead, cling to the truth that *"if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old things have passed away. Behold, all things have become new"* (2 Corinthians 5:17). You are not defined by their words, but by Christ’s redemption.

Now, let us examine the deeper spiritual dynamics. Estrangement often thrives in secrecy and unspoken bitterness. While your daughter allows limited visits, her distance suggests unresolved offense or even rebellion. The Bible warns that *"bitterness springs up, troubling you, and many are defiled by it"* (Hebrews 12:15). It’s possible that your daughter—or even your brother—has nurtured resentment, whether justified in their minds or not. But we must also ask: Have there been unaddressed sins in your own responses? Not to condemn you, but to ensure there is no open door for the enemy. For example, have you ever reacted in anger, spoken harsh words, or withheld forgiveness? If so, repentance is the first step to breaking this cycle. *"If we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness"* (1 John 1:9).

That said, your pain is not your fault. The exclusion you face—especially the deliberate omission from your granddaughter’s birthday celebration—is a grievous injustice. It reveals a family system where favoritism and division have taken root. Your brother’s alliance with your daughter against you is particularly troubling, for Scripture commands, *"Don’t grieve the Holy Spirit of God, in whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, outcry, and slander be put away from you, with all malice. And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you"* (Ephesians 4:30-32). Their actions do not align with this call.

So how do we pray and move forward? First, we must surrender this battle to the Lord. You cannot force reconciliation, but you can trust God to soften hearts. Pray *for* your daughter and brother, not just *about* them. Ask God to reveal Himself to them in ways they cannot ignore. Pray that the Holy Spirit would convict them of their hardness of heart and lead them to repentance. Remember, *"The king’s heart is in Yahweh’s hand like the water courses. He turns it wherever he desires"* (Proverbs 21:1). What seems impossible to you is not impossible for God.

Second, we must pray for your own heart. The danger in prolonged pain is that bitterness takes root in *us*. Guard your heart against resentment, for *"the sun must not go down on your wrath"* (Ephesians 4:26). This does not mean suppressing your grief—Jesus Himself lamented over Jerusalem’s rejection (Matthew 23:37)—but it means bringing your pain to God repeatedly instead of letting it fester. Write letters to your daughter that you never send, pour out your heart to the Lord in journaling, or share your burden with a trusted, mature believer who can pray with you.

Third, we must pray for wisdom in your limited interactions. When you do see your daughter and grandbabies, let your words and actions be seasoned with grace. *"Let your speech always be with grace, seasoned with salt, that you may know how you ought to answer each one"* (Colossians 4:6). Avoid bringing up past hurts in these moments; instead, show love without expectation. Sometimes, the Holy Spirit works through consistent, quiet kindness to break down walls.

Fourth, we must pray for your brother and his wife. Their participation in this division is sinful, and they need repentance. Pray that God would expose the wrongness of their favoritism and bring them to a place of conviction. Ask the Lord to either restore your relationship with them or to give you peace in the face of their rejection.

Finally, we must pray for your grandbabies. They are caught in the middle of this brokenness, and the enemy would love to use this division to harm their understanding of family and faith. Pray that God would protect their hearts and draw them to Himself. Ask the Lord to give you opportunities—even in small ways—to speak truth and love into their lives.

Now, let us pray together:

Heavenly Father, we lift up our sister to You, knowing that You are the God who sees her pain and collects her tears in a bottle (Psalm 56:8). Lord, this estrangement has gone on for far too long, and the enemy has used it to bring deep sorrow. But we declare that *You* are the restorer of relationships, the healer of broken hearts, and the one who turns mourning into dancing. We ask You to intervene supernaturally in this situation.

Father, we pray for our sister’s daughter. Softening her heart, Lord. Break down the walls of offense, bitterness, or rebellion that have kept her distant. If there is any sin in our sister’s life that has contributed to this divide, reveal it to her and grant her the grace to repent. But Lord, we also ask that You would expose any unrighteousness in her daughter’s heart—any pride, unforgiveness, or hardness—and bring her to a place of true repentance. Let her see the pain she has caused and the generational harm this division is creating.

We pray against the spirit of division that has taken hold in this family. Lord, You command unity and love among believers, and this fracture grieves Your heart. We bind the enemy’s work in this situation and ask You to loose Your peace, Your conviction, and Your restoration. Father, we ask that You would deal with our sister’s brother and his wife. Open their eyes to the sin of favoritism and exclusion. Convict them of their cruelty in labeling her and shutting her out. Let them see the damage they are doing—not just to her, but to their own children and grandchildren by perpetuating this division.

Lord, we pray for our sister’s grandbabies. Protect their hearts from the enemy’s lies about family and love. Draw them to Yourself, even now. Give our sister small, meaningful moments with them—whether in person or through notes, gifts, or prayers—that will plant seeds of Your love in their lives.

Father, we ask for supernatural strength for our sister. The pain of this rejection is deep, and she needs Your comfort. Fill her with Your peace that surpasses understanding. Remind her that her worth is not found in her daughter’s approval or her brother’s inclusion, but in her identity as Your beloved child. Help her to forgive, not because they deserve it, but because You have forgiven her.

We pray for wisdom in how to navigate the limited time she has with her family. Give her words to speak, Lord, and help her to reflect Your love in every interaction. If there are opportunities for reconciliation, make them clear. If there are boundaries she needs to set for her own emotional health, show her what they are.

Most of all, Lord, we ask that You would be glorified in this situation. Whether through restoration or through our sister’s testimony of trusting You in the midst of pain, let Your name be lifted high. We pray all of this in the powerful name of Jesus Christ, our Redeemer and Healer. Amen.

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Sister, we want to leave you with this encouragement: Your pain is not wasted. God is using this season to refine you, to draw you closer to Himself, and to prepare you for a testimony of His faithfulness. Keep praying. Keep trusting. And know that we are standing with you in this fight. The God who parted the Red Sea and raised Jesus from the dead is more than able to bring restoration to your family. Do not lose heart. *"Let us not be weary in doing good, for we will reap in due season, if we don’t give up"* (Galatians 6:9). Stay steadfast. He is working, even when you cannot see it.

 

[hostadmin]

Dear Sister,

We echo the sentiments expressed earlier, standing with you in your heartache. We too grieve the estrangement and the pain it's causing you. As we lift you up in prayer, we want to share a few more thoughts and encouragements.

Firstly, remember that God sees your tears and hears your cries. He is near to the brokenhearted, and He cares deeply about what you're going through. In Psalm 34:15, we read, "The eyes of the Lord are toward the righteous and His ears are open to their cry." Trust that He is attentive to your pain.

Secondly, while it's important to address any unaddressed sins, remember that your pain is not your fault. Estrangement is a complex issue that often involves deep-seated hurts and misunderstandings. It's not uncommon for others to project their own issues onto others, as it seems your brother may have done. Don't let their words define you. You are a child of God, loved and cherished by Him.

Thirdly, keep communicating with your daughter. Even if she doesn't respond, keep writing her letters, keep trying to connect. You never know when your words might plant a seed that will grow in time. Be patient, be persistent, but also be wise. Don't let your words be weapons, but tools for healing and connection.

Lastly, keep your heart open to forgiveness. Forgiveness doesn't mean what happened was okay, or that you have to trust again immediately. It means letting go of the bitterness and anger, and choosing to trust God with the outcome. It's a process, and it's okay to take your time.

We pray that God would soften hearts, that He would reveal Himself to your daughter and brother in powerful ways, and that He would bring healing and restoration to your family. We pray that you would find comfort and strength in His love, and that you would trust Him with the outcome, no matter what it may be.

In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.

 

[Agnetha58]

We grieve with you over the deep pain of estrangement and the rejection you’ve endured from both your daughter and your brother’s family. The wound of being excluded—especially when others are welcomed in your place—cuts to the core, and we want you to know that God sees your tears, hears your cries, and is near to the brokenhearted. The psalmist writes, *"The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit"* (Psalm 34:18, WEB). Your pain is valid, and your longing for reconciliation is a godly desire. But we must also address the spiritual battle at hand, for this division is not merely a family conflict—it is an attack from the enemy to steal your joy, isolate you, and harden hearts against God’s design for family.

First, let us speak truth into the lies that have taken root. Your brother’s accusation that you are "crazy" is a cruel distortion of your godly sorrow. Jesus Himself wept (John 11:35), and the Bible calls us to *"weep with those who weep"* (Romans 12:15). Your tears over your daughter’s rudeness were not madness—they were the natural response of a loving mother whose heart was broken. The laughter of your nieces at your pain reveals a hardness of heart, not a flaw in you. Do not receive this label, for it is a tool of shame meant to silence you. Instead, cling to the truth that *"if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old things have passed away. Behold, all things have become new"* (2 Corinthians 5:17). You are not defined by their words, but by Christ’s redemption.

Now, let us examine the deeper spiritual dynamics. Estrangement often thrives in secrecy and unspoken bitterness. While your daughter allows limited visits, her distance suggests unresolved offense or even rebellion. The Bible warns that *"bitterness springs up, troubling you, and many are defiled by it"* (Hebrews 12:15). It’s possible that your daughter—or even your brother—has nurtured resentment, whether justified in their minds or not. But we must also ask: Have there been unaddressed sins in your own responses? Not to condemn you, but to ensure there is no open door for the enemy. For example, have you ever reacted in anger, spoken harsh words, or withheld forgiveness? If so, repentance is the first step to breaking this cycle. *"If we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness"* (1 John 1:9).

That said, your pain is not your fault. The exclusion you face—especially the deliberate omission from your granddaughter’s birthday celebration—is a grievous injustice. It reveals a family system where favoritism and division have taken root. Your brother’s alliance with your daughter against you is particularly troubling, for Scripture commands, *"Don’t grieve the Holy Spirit of God, in whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, outcry, and slander be put away from you, with all malice. And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you"* (Ephesians 4:30-32). Their actions do not align with this call.

So how do we pray and move forward? First, we must surrender this battle to the Lord. You cannot force reconciliation, but you can trust God to soften hearts. Pray *for* your daughter and brother, not just *about* them. Ask God to reveal Himself to them in ways they cannot ignore. Pray that the Holy Spirit would convict them of their hardness of heart and lead them to repentance. Remember, *"The king’s heart is in Yahweh’s hand like the water courses. He turns it wherever he desires"* (Proverbs 21:1). What seems impossible to you is not impossible for God.

Second, we must pray for your own heart. The danger in prolonged pain is that bitterness takes root in *us*. Guard your heart against resentment, for *"the sun must not go down on your wrath"* (Ephesians 4:26). This does not mean suppressing your grief—Jesus Himself lamented over Jerusalem’s rejection (Matthew 23:37)—but it means bringing your pain to God repeatedly instead of letting it fester. Write letters to your daughter that you never send, pour out your heart to the Lord in journaling, or share your burden with a trusted, mature believer who can pray with you.

Third, we must pray for wisdom in your limited interactions. When you do see your daughter and grandbabies, let your words and actions be seasoned with grace. *"Let your speech always be with grace, seasoned with salt, that you may know how you ought to answer each one"* (Colossians 4:6). Avoid bringing up past hurts in these moments; instead, show love without expectation. Sometimes, the Holy Spirit works through consistent, quiet kindness to break down walls.

Fourth, we must pray for your brother and his wife. Their participation in this division is sinful, and they need repentance. Pray that God would expose the wrongness of their favoritism and bring them to a place of conviction. Ask the Lord to either restore your relationship with them or to give you peace in the face of their rejection.

Finally, we must pray for your grandbabies. They are caught in the middle of this brokenness, and the enemy would love to use this division to harm their understanding of family and faith. Pray that God would protect their hearts and draw them to Himself. Ask the Lord to give you opportunities—even in small ways—to speak truth and love into their lives.

Now, let us pray together:

Heavenly Father, we lift up our sister to You, knowing that You are the God who sees her pain and collects her tears in a bottle (Psalm 56:8). Lord, this estrangement has gone on for far too long, and the enemy has used it to bring deep sorrow. But we declare that *You* are the restorer of relationships, the healer of broken hearts, and the one who turns mourning into dancing. We ask You to intervene supernaturally in this situation.

Father, we pray for our sister’s daughter. Softening her heart, Lord. Break down the walls of offense, bitterness, or rebellion that have kept her distant. If there is any sin in our sister’s life that has contributed to this divide, reveal it to her and grant her the grace to repent. But Lord, we also ask that You would expose any unrighteousness in her daughter’s heart—any pride, unforgiveness, or hardness—and bring her to a place of true repentance. Let her see the pain she has caused and the generational harm this division is creating.

We pray against the spirit of division that has taken hold in this family. Lord, You command unity and love among believers, and this fracture grieves Your heart. We bind the enemy’s work in this situation and ask You to loose Your peace, Your conviction, and Your restoration. Father, we ask that You would deal with our sister’s brother and his wife. Open their eyes to the sin of favoritism and exclusion. Convict them of their cruelty in labeling her and shutting her out. Let them see the damage they are doing—not just to her, but to their own children and grandchildren by perpetuating this division.

Lord, we pray for our sister’s grandbabies. Protect their hearts from the enemy’s lies about family and love. Draw them to Yourself, even now. Give our sister small, meaningful moments with them—whether in person or through notes, gifts, or prayers—that will plant seeds of Your love in their lives.

Father, we ask for supernatural strength for our sister. The pain of this rejection is deep, and she needs Your comfort. Fill her with Your peace that surpasses understanding. Remind her that her worth is not found in her daughter’s approval or her brother’s inclusion, but in her identity as Your beloved child. Help her to forgive, not because they deserve it, but because You have forgiven her.

We pray for wisdom in how to navigate the limited time she has with her family. Give her words to speak, Lord, and help her to reflect Your love in every interaction. If there are opportunities for reconciliation, make them clear. If there are boundaries she needs to set for her own emotional health, show her what they are.

Most of all, Lord, we ask that You would be glorified in this situation. Whether through restoration or through our sister’s testimony of trusting You in the midst of pain, let Your name be lifted high. We pray all of this in the powerful name of Jesus Christ, our Redeemer and Healer. Amen.

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Sister, we want to leave you with this encouragement: Your pain is not wasted. God is using this season to refine you, to draw you closer to Himself, and to prepare you for a testimony of His faithfulness. Keep praying. Keep trusting. And know that we are standing with you in this fight. The God who parted the Red Sea and raised Jesus from the dead is more than able to bring restoration to your family. Do not lose heart. *"Let us not be weary in doing good, for we will reap in due season, if we don’t give up"* (Galatians 6:9). Stay steadfast. He is working, even when you cannot see it.

Amen, thank you!

 

[Agnetha58]

Dear ###,

We echo the sentiments expressed earlier, standing with you in your heartache. We too grieve the estrangement and the pain it's causing you. As we lift you up in prayer, we want to share a few more thoughts and encouragements.

Firstly, remember that God sees your tears and hears your cries. He is near to the brokenhearted, and He cares deeply about what you're going through. In Psalm 34:15, we read, "The eyes of the Lord are toward the righteous and His ears are open to their cry." Trust that He is attentive to your pain.

Secondly, while it's important to address any unaddressed sins, remember that your pain is not your fault. Estrangement is a complex issue that often involves deep-seated hurts and misunderstandings. It's not uncommon for others to project their own issues onto others, as it seems your brother may have done. Don't let their words define you. You are a child of God, loved and cherished by Him.

Thirdly, keep communicating with your daughter. Even if she doesn't respond, keep writing her letters, keep trying to connect. You never know when your words might plant a seed that will grow in time. Be patient, be persistent, but also be wise. Don't let your words be weapons, but tools for healing and connection.

Lastly, keep your heart open to forgiveness. Forgiveness doesn't mean what happened was okay, or that you have to trust again immediately. It means letting go of the bitterness and anger, and choosing to trust God with the outcome. It's a process, and it's okay to take your time.

We pray that God would soften hearts, that He would reveal Himself to your daughter and brother in powerful ways, and that He would bring healing and restoration to your family. We pray that you would find comfort and strength in His love, and that you would trust Him with the outcome, no matter what it may be.

In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.

Amen, thank you!

 

[Antitypogeo]

Praying for this in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[Naliogate]

Praying in Jesus Name.

 

[The Encourager]

I prayed that God in Jesus' name will answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. God Loves You. Thank You Jesus!!!

Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.

Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.

God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God solution focused heart, mind, spirit, and attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net

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[Cinu]

Lord, we pray for this prayer and family for blessings healing and salvation. Heal and bless. May their lives be a praise and glory unto thee.
Come to the Lord's holy presence. Seek him with all your heart. Cling to his Word and meditate on it moment by moment by positive thoughts and joy in the heart (James 1:2-4), knowing that the Lord is good and to him be all the praise. Seek first God's kingdom and his righteousness (Matthew 6:33). Even though life may feel hard, the Lord's hand will be on you, and he will answer in his time. I am praying for you. Amen.

Some resources that might help.

Needs: - But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:19(KJV)

Salvation: - So they said "Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ and you will be saved you and your household." Acts 16:31(NKJV)

Healing: - But He was wounded for our transgressions, He was bruised for our iniquities; The chastisement for our peace was upon Him, And by His stripes we are healed. Isaiah 53:5(NKJV)

Fulfillment by the Holy Spirit: - Then he answered and spake unto me, saying, This is the word of the LORD unto Zerubbabel, saying, Not by might, nor by power, but by my spirit, saith the LORD of hosts. Zechariah 4:6(KJV)

Persecutions: - But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you, Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you. Luke 6:27-28(KJV)

Help in Prayer

Dwelling and Thriving in God’s grace where everything happens for good (Romans 8:28)

Pray that the Lord may open the eyes of the nations affected by coronavirus (Specifically forces against God’s people)

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[Agnetha58]

Thank you all for your advice and prayers!