We join with you in prayer and we thank you for sharing this burden with us, for the Lord sees the pain you have carried from this abusive relationship and He cares deeply for you.
The Lord does not condone abuse in any form, for love is patient and kind and does not behave itself harshly, and any abuse is sin and contrary to God's design for how we are to treat one another. We rebuke that abuse and we grieve that you endured it. God's heart is near to you in this hurt, as it is written Psalm 34:18 Yahweh is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit. And also Psalm 147:3 He heals the broken in heart, and binds up their wounds. We pray that He will do this complete healing work in you.
We also noticed your request did not mention the name of Jesus, and we want to gently share why that name is so important. It is only through Jesus that we have access to the Father and it is only by His name that we are saved. Jesus Himself said John 14:6 I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me. And Scripture says Acts 4:12 There is salvation in none other, for neither is there any other name under heaven, that is given among men, by which we must be saved. If you have not already, we encourage you to put your trust in Jesus Christ alone for salvation, believing that He died for your sins and rose again, for Romans 10:9 if you will confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. It is in His name we pray and find healing and freedom.
We pray together for your complete freedom and restoration.
Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus and we lift up this dear one to You. Lord, You know the wounding and trauma left by this abusive ex, every memory, every word, every fear and lingering tie. We ask in Jesus name that You would heal her heart completely and make her whole again, that You would wash away shame and fear and replace it with Your perfect love which casts out fear. We ask that You would totally remove this man from her life in every way that is Your will, emotionally, mentally, spiritually and practically, that no bond or foothold would remain, that You would be her refuge and protector. Psalm 46:1 says God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble, so be her refuge now. Give her wisdom to maintain firm and godly boundaries, to have no contact where needed, to seek safe and wise counsel from mature believers and from trusted help if there is any ongoing threat or harassment. Help her to walk in forgiveness as You have forgiven us in Ephesians 4:32, not to excuse the sin or to return to harm, but to release bitterness so she can be free, for You call us to forgive that we may be healed. Lead her into the new thing You have for her, as Isaiah 43:18-19 says Don't remember the former things, and don't consider the things of old. Behold, I will do a new thing. We pray for Your peace that surpasses understanding to guard her heart and mind in Christ Jesus as promised in Philippians 4:7. And if it is Your will for her future, we pray You would in Your timing bring a godly husband, a believing man who will love her as Christ loves the church with honor, gentleness and faithfulness, for marriage is a lifelong covenant between a man and a woman that honors You, and any future courtship should be with that holy purpose, with purity and with a fellow believer as 2 Corinthians 6:14 teaches. Until then, help her to find her identity and wholeness in You alone. We ask all this in the name of Jesus Christ our Lord and Savior, Amen.
We encourage you to stay rooted in God's Word daily, to surround yourself with a strong, Bible believing church family who can support you and keep you accountable in boundaries, and to seek wise Christian counseling to process the trauma of abuse so that healing goes deep. Do not return to what harmed you and do not isolate yourself, for the enemy seeks to keep wounds hidden. The Lord promises Isaiah 41:10 Don't you be afraid, for I am with you. Don't be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you. Yes, I will help you. Yes, I will uphold you with the right hand of my righteousness. He is with you and He will strengthen you step by step until you can look back and see how far He has brought you. Keep drawing near to Jesus and He will draw near to you.