My ex boyfriend has a lot of health issues. I broke up with him for good recently due to us being very unequally yoked. He is understandably very upset with me now. But I also worry for him a lot and just want to make sure he's okay from time to time. I asked him when I broke up with him to please let me know he's okay every now and then but I don't think he will - at least it doesn't look that way now. In addition to not answering my messages, he unfollowed me on social media. I was thinking in a few days, I'd check on him especially when I know he has doctor's appointments. Please pray I would have wisdom in all this. I don't want to stress him out or add to the trouble he has with his health issues. But I just want to check on him and be there for him as a friend which we were before dating. Please also pray I would NOT get back with him under any circumstances and be strong enough not to because that is not a good idea and I believe some of the health issues he had were due to God judging him due to our relationship being outside of God's will. Thank you.
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We hear your heart in this situation, and we understand the tension between your care for this young man and your desire to honor God in your decisions. First, let us address the foundational truth: it is only through the name of Jesus Christ that we have access to the Father, and there is no other name by which we can be saved (Acts 4:12). If you or your ex-boyfriend have not placed your faith in Jesus as Lord and Savior, we urge you to do so, for salvation is found in no one else. The Bible tells us, "For God so loved the world, that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish, but have eternal life" (John 3:16).
Now, regarding your relationship, we must address the issue of being unequally yoked. Scripture is clear on this matter: "Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?" (2 Corinthians 6:14). Your decision to end the romantic relationship was wise and aligned with God’s will. It is not God’s design for a believer to be bound in marriage, or even in a romantic relationship, with someone who does not share the same faith. Your concern that some of his health issues may have been a result of God’s judgment on a relationship outside of His will is a serious consideration. While we cannot presume to know the mind of God in every circumstance, we do know that He desires holiness and obedience from His children (1 Peter 1:15-16).
We must also address the issue of fornication, which is sexual intimacy outside of marriage. The Bible is clear that this is sin (1 Corinthians 6:18-20), and it is possible that this was a factor in your relationship. If so, we encourage you to repent and seek God’s forgiveness, as He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and cleanse us from all unrighteousness (1 John 1:9). This is not to condemn you but to encourage you to walk in the freedom and holiness that God desires for you.
Your desire to check on him as a friend is understandable, but we must caution you to guard your heart. Proverbs 4:23 says, "Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it is the wellspring of life." It is possible to care for someone without reopening the door to a romantic relationship, but you must be vigilant. Pray for wisdom, as you have asked, and seek the Lord’s guidance in how to proceed. It may be that the Lord is calling you to step back entirely to avoid confusion or temptation. Alternatively, He may lead you to reach out in a way that is honoring to Him and clear in its boundaries.
We also want to address your concern about his health. While it is natural to worry, we must remember that God is sovereign over all things, including our health. Psalm 103:2-3 reminds us, "Praise Yahweh, my soul, and don’t forget all his benefits; who forgives all your sins; who heals all your diseases." We can trust that God is aware of his struggles and is working all things together for good for those who love Him (Romans 8:28). Your role is not to carry the burden of his health but to pray for him and, if led, offer support in a way that does not compromise your walk with the Lord.
Let us pray for you now:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. We lift up this sister to You, asking for Your wisdom and strength to guide her in this situation. Lord, we pray that You would give her clarity in how to proceed with her ex-boyfriend. Help her to guard her heart and to remain steadfast in her decision to honor You, even when it is difficult. We ask that You would protect her from the temptation to rekindle a relationship that is not in Your will. Give her the courage to set boundaries that honor You and the compassion to care for him as a friend, if that is Your leading.
Father, we also pray for her ex-boyfriend. We ask that You would draw him to Yourself, Lord. Open his eyes to the truth of the Gospel and soften his heart to receive Your love and salvation. We pray for his health, asking that You would bring healing and comfort to his body and soul. If there are areas in his life where he needs to repent, reveal those to him, Lord, and lead him into a right relationship with You.
We thank You, Father, for Your faithfulness and for the promise that You will never leave us nor forsake us. We trust in Your perfect plan and timing, and we ask that You would be glorified in all of this. In Jesus’ name, we pray. Amen.
We encourage you to continue seeking the Lord in prayer and to surround yourself with godly counsel. Spend time in the Word, allowing it to renew your mind and strengthen your resolve. Remember, "No temptation has taken you except what is common to man. God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted above what you are able, but will with the temptation also make the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it" (1 Corinthians 10:13). You are not alone in this struggle, and God is faithful to provide a way out when temptation comes.
Lastly, we urge you to focus on your own relationship with the Lord. Seek His will for your life, including His plan for your future marriage. Pray for a godly spouse who shares your faith and will walk with you in obedience to God. "Delight yourself in Yahweh, and he will give you the desires of your heart" (Psalm 37:4). As you delight in Him, He will align your desires with His will, and you will find joy and fulfillment in His perfect plan.
Now, regarding your relationship, we must address the issue of being unequally yoked. Scripture is clear on this matter: "Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?" (2 Corinthians 6:14). Your decision to end the romantic relationship was wise and aligned with God’s will. It is not God’s design for a believer to be bound in marriage, or even in a romantic relationship, with someone who does not share the same faith. Your concern that some of his health issues may have been a result of God’s judgment on a relationship outside of His will is a serious consideration. While we cannot presume to know the mind of God in every circumstance, we do know that He desires holiness and obedience from His children (1 Peter 1:15-16).
We must also address the issue of fornication, which is sexual intimacy outside of marriage. The Bible is clear that this is sin (1 Corinthians 6:18-20), and it is possible that this was a factor in your relationship. If so, we encourage you to repent and seek God’s forgiveness, as He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and cleanse us from all unrighteousness (1 John 1:9). This is not to condemn you but to encourage you to walk in the freedom and holiness that God desires for you.
Your desire to check on him as a friend is understandable, but we must caution you to guard your heart. Proverbs 4:23 says, "Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it is the wellspring of life." It is possible to care for someone without reopening the door to a romantic relationship, but you must be vigilant. Pray for wisdom, as you have asked, and seek the Lord’s guidance in how to proceed. It may be that the Lord is calling you to step back entirely to avoid confusion or temptation. Alternatively, He may lead you to reach out in a way that is honoring to Him and clear in its boundaries.
We also want to address your concern about his health. While it is natural to worry, we must remember that God is sovereign over all things, including our health. Psalm 103:2-3 reminds us, "Praise Yahweh, my soul, and don’t forget all his benefits; who forgives all your sins; who heals all your diseases." We can trust that God is aware of his struggles and is working all things together for good for those who love Him (Romans 8:28). Your role is not to carry the burden of his health but to pray for him and, if led, offer support in a way that does not compromise your walk with the Lord.
Let us pray for you now:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. We lift up this sister to You, asking for Your wisdom and strength to guide her in this situation. Lord, we pray that You would give her clarity in how to proceed with her ex-boyfriend. Help her to guard her heart and to remain steadfast in her decision to honor You, even when it is difficult. We ask that You would protect her from the temptation to rekindle a relationship that is not in Your will. Give her the courage to set boundaries that honor You and the compassion to care for him as a friend, if that is Your leading.
Father, we also pray for her ex-boyfriend. We ask that You would draw him to Yourself, Lord. Open his eyes to the truth of the Gospel and soften his heart to receive Your love and salvation. We pray for his health, asking that You would bring healing and comfort to his body and soul. If there are areas in his life where he needs to repent, reveal those to him, Lord, and lead him into a right relationship with You.
We thank You, Father, for Your faithfulness and for the promise that You will never leave us nor forsake us. We trust in Your perfect plan and timing, and we ask that You would be glorified in all of this. In Jesus’ name, we pray. Amen.
We encourage you to continue seeking the Lord in prayer and to surround yourself with godly counsel. Spend time in the Word, allowing it to renew your mind and strengthen your resolve. Remember, "No temptation has taken you except what is common to man. God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted above what you are able, but will with the temptation also make the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it" (1 Corinthians 10:13). You are not alone in this struggle, and God is faithful to provide a way out when temptation comes.
Lastly, we urge you to focus on your own relationship with the Lord. Seek His will for your life, including His plan for your future marriage. Pray for a godly spouse who shares your faith and will walk with you in obedience to God. "Delight yourself in Yahweh, and he will give you the desires of your heart" (Psalm 37:4). As you delight in Him, He will align your desires with His will, and you will find joy and fulfillment in His perfect plan.
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Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, wisdom, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. God, bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to know You, so that I can trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding. Bless me with knowledge, wisdom, and understanding in all You have called me to do.
God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God-conscious-solution-focused-heart-mind-spirit-and-attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net
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Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, wisdom, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. God, bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to know You, so that I can trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding. Bless me with knowledge, wisdom, and understanding in all You have called me to do. God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God-conscious-solution-focused-heart-mind-spirit-and-attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net
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