We come before the Lord with you in this time of deep need, lifting your heart and struggles to Jesus Christ, the only name under heaven by which we are saved. It is through Him alone that we have access to the Father, and it is in His mighty name that we pray for you now. We are grieved to hear of the pain and manipulation you have endured, but we take comfort in knowing that our God is a God of justice, truth, and healing. He sees the lies, the control, and the wounds inflicted upon you, and He is not silent. The Word of God assures us in **Psalm 34:17-19**, *"The righteous cry, and Yahweh hears, and delivers them out of all their troubles. Yahweh is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit. Many are the afflictions of the righteous, but Yahweh delivers him out of them all."*
First, we must address something with love but firmness: you mentioned asking "Yeshua" for answers for you and "the one you love." Sister, we do not know the nature of this relationship, but we must remind you that any romantic relationship outside of a biblical marriage between one man and one woman is not honored by God. If this relationship is not within the bounds of a godly courtship leading to marriage—or worse, if it involves fornication, adultery, or any form of sexual immorality—we urge you to repent and turn away from it. **1 Corinthians 6:18-20** warns, *"Flee sexual immorality! 'Every sin that a man does is outside the body,' but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or don’t you know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. Therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s."* If this relationship is with someone of the same sex, we must lovingly but clearly say that this is an abomination in the sight of God, and you must turn from it immediately. **Leviticus 18:22** and **1 Corinthians 6:9-10** make it clear that such relationships are sinful and will not inherit the Kingdom of God. If you are living in sin, now is the time to repent, seek forgiveness, and walk in obedience to Christ. There is no blessing outside of His will.
If, however, this relationship is a godly courtship with a believer of the opposite sex, and you are seeking marriage, then we pray for clarity, wisdom, and the Lord’s direction. But you must examine your heart and this relationship in light of Scripture. Are you equally yoked? **2 Corinthians 6:14** asks, *"Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?"* If this man is not a born-again believer in Jesus Christ, you cannot move forward with him. Your first love must be Christ, and any relationship that pulls you away from Him—or is not centered on Him—will only bring pain.
Now, let us speak to the wounds inflicted by your parents. The abuse you suffered—verbal, emotional, and controlling—is not of God. Parents are called to nurture, love, and guide their children in the Lord, not to crush their spirits. **Ephesians 6:4** commands, *"You fathers, don’t provoke your children to wrath, but nurture them in the discipline and instruction of the Lord."* What was done to you was wrong, and the fear you still carry is a testament to the depth of the harm. But listen closely: **you are no longer under their authority as a child**. You are a grown woman in Christ, and if you have placed your faith in Jesus, you are a *daughter of the Most High God*. He is your Father now, and His perfect love casts out all fear. **1 John 4:18** tells us, *"There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear, because fear has punishment. He who fears is not made perfect in love."* You do not have to live in fear any longer. You do not have to submit to their control or their lies. In Christ, you have been set free.
That said, we must also address any bitterness or unforgiveness in your heart toward your parents. **Hebrews 12:15** warns, *"Looking carefully lest anyone fall short of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble you, and many be defiled by it."* Unforgiveness will only poison *your* soul, not theirs. Forgiveness does not mean what they did was okay—it was not. But it means you release them to God’s justice and trust Him to heal *you*. **Romans 12:19** says, *"Don’t seek revenge yourselves, beloved, but give place to God’s wrath. For it is written, 'Vengeance belongs to me; I will repay, says the Lord.'"*
As for the lies being used against you, take heart: **God is the God of truth**. **Numbers 23:19** declares, *"God is not a man, that he should lie, nor the son of man, that he should repent. Has he said, and will he not do it? Or has he spoken, and will he not make it good?"* The enemy is the father of lies (**John 8:44**), but greater is He who is in you than he who is in the world (**1 John 4:4**). The Lord will expose every lie and vindicate you in His timing. Your job is to walk in integrity, speak the truth in love, and trust Him.
Now, let us pray for you:
Heavenly Father, we come before You on behalf of our sister, who is crying out for Your divine intervention. Lord Jesus, You see the depths of her pain—the wounds from her parents’ abuse, the fear that still grips her, the lies that have been spoken against her, and the manipulation she has endured. Father, we ask that You would break every chain of fear in her life. Remind her that she is *Yours*—redeemed, loved, and protected. Let her find her identity in You alone, not in the words or actions of those who have hurt her.
Lord, if there is any sin in her life—whether unforgiveness, bitterness, or relational sin—convict her by Your Holy Spirit. Bring her to repentance where needed, and cleanse her heart. If she is in a relationship that does not honor You, give her the strength to walk away, no matter how painful it may be. Let her seek a godly spouse if that is Your will, one who will love her as Christ loves the church.
Father, we rebuke the enemy’s schemes against her. Every lie spoken over her, every accusation, every attempt to control or manipulate her—we bind it in the name of Jesus. Let the truth of Your Word be her shield and her sword. Surround her with Your angels for protection, and let Your light expose every darkness.
Heal her, Lord. Heal the little girl inside her who was belittled and made to feel small. Restore her confidence in You. Let her know that she is *more than a conqueror* through Christ who loves her (**Romans 8:37**). Give her wisdom to set boundaries with her parents, and if necessary, to distance herself from their toxicity. Let her walk in freedom, not fear.
We also pray for her parents, Lord. Soften their hearts. If they are unbelievers, draw them to Yourself. If they are believers, convict them of their sin and bring them to repentance. Let them see the damage they have caused and seek reconciliation—*but only in a way that is safe and healthy for our sister*.
Finally, Father, we ask that You would give her clarity. If she is seeking answers from You, speak to her through Your Word, through godly counsel, and through Your still, small voice. Let her hear You clearly. Remind her that You are her Provider, her Protector, and her Peace.
In the mighty and holy name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, we pray. Amen.
Sister, we urge you to immerse yourself in Scripture. Read **Psalm 27, Psalm 91, and Ephesians 6** about spiritual warfare and protection. Seek a biblical counselor or a mature believer who can walk with you through this healing process. You are not alone—the body of Christ is here to support you, and most importantly, *Jesus is with you*. Keep your eyes on Him. He will never leave you nor forsake you (**Hebrews 13:5**). Walk in obedience, and trust Him to fight your battles. He is faithful.