We join you in lifting up this request, standing firmly on the truth that our battle is not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, powers, and spiritual forces of wickedness in heavenly places. You have done well to come before the Lord with a heart of worship, surrender, and scriptural authority, for it is in Jesus’ name alone that we find deliverance, protection, and victory. Your prayer is rooted in the power of His Word, and we stand with you in agreement, knowing that where two or more are gathered in His name, He is in the midst (Matthew 18:20).
First, we commend you for recognizing the importance of spiritual discernment in this situation. The emotional connection you describe with this man must be carefully examined through the lens of Scripture. As believers, we are called to test every spirit to see whether it is from God (1 John 4:1), and to guard our hearts above all else, for from it flow the springs of life (Proverbs 4:23). If this connection is not grounded in godly purpose—particularly if it is outside the context of a biblical courtship leading toward marriage—it can become a distraction or even a snare. The enemy often uses emotional ties to create confusion, especially when our focus should be on seeking God’s will above our own desires. We encourage you to prayerfully consider whether this connection aligns with God’s design for relationships, which is rooted in purity, intentionality, and a shared commitment to Christ.
You have rightly asked the Lord to expose and dismantle anything that is not of Him, and we echo that prayer. If this man is not a believer, or if his intentions are not honorable before God, we must trust the Lord to either redeem the situation for His glory or to sever ties that could lead to compromise. Scripture warns us not to be unequally yoked with unbelievers (2 Corinthians 6:14), for such relationships can hinder our walk with Christ and pull us away from His perfect will. If this man is not walking with the Lord, your prayer for his salvation is powerful and pleasing to God, who desires that all should come to repentance (2 Peter 3:9). However, we must also pray for your protection and clarity, that you would not be emotionally entangled in a way that could lead to heartache or spiritual stagnation.
We also note your use of scripture to bind confusion and counterfeit influences in this man’s life. This is wise, for the enemy seeks to deceive and destroy, but Jesus has already disarmed the rulers and authorities and put them to open shame by triumphing over them (Colossians 2:15). Your authority in Christ is real, and we declare with you that every demonic stronghold over this situation is broken in Jesus’ name. The Lord is faithful to complete the work He has begun (Philippians 1:6), and we trust Him to either bring this man to salvation and godly purpose or to remove him from your path if he is not part of God’s plan for you.
As for your own heart, we pray that the Lord would restore and establish you in His perfect timing. Proverbs 16:3 reminds us to commit our works to the Lord, and He will establish our plans. This includes our relationships. If this connection is merely a distraction or a test, we ask the Lord to close the door gently but firmly, and to redirect your affections toward the one He has prepared for you—a man who loves the Lord wholeheartedly and is committed to pursuing you in a way that honors God. We pray that you would find peace in surrendering this to the Lord, trusting that His ways are higher than ours (Isaiah 55:9), and that He will never withhold good from those who walk uprightly (Psalm 84:11).
Finally, we want to address the repetition of this man’s name in your prayer. While it is good to be specific in prayer, we must be cautious not to give undue focus or emotional weight to someone who may not be part of God’s will for our lives. Instead, we encourage you to lift him up to the Lord without fixating on him, trusting that God hears and answers even when we do not see immediate results. Your primary focus should remain on Jesus, the author and finisher of your faith (Hebrews 12:2), and on the calling He has placed on your life.
Now, let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus, thanking You for Your faithfulness and for the authority we have in Christ to stand against the schemes of the enemy. Lord, we lift up our sister and ask that You would surround her with Your peace, which surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7). Guard her heart, Lord, and give her discernment to recognize Your voice above all others. If this emotional connection is not from You, we ask that You would sever it completely, breaking every ungodly soul tie and restoring her emotions to a place of wholeness in You.
Father, we pray for this man. If he does not know You, we ask that You would draw him to Yourself with cords of lovingkindness (Hosea 11:4). Open his eyes to the truth of the Gospel, and soften his heart to receive Your salvation. If there are strongholds of sin, confusion, or deception in his life, we declare them broken in Jesus’ name. Lord, rebuke every hindering spirit and set him free to walk in the purpose You have for him. But Father, if this connection is not Your will for our sister, we ask that You would remove him from her life and redirect her steps toward the godly man You have prepared for her—a man who will love her as Christ loves the church (Ephesians 5:25).
We bind every spirit of confusion, manipulation, or counterfeit emotion in this situation. No weapon formed against our sister shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17), and every tongue that rises against her in judgment, she shall condemn. Lord, establish her in Your truth and fill her with Your Holy Spirit, that she may walk in wisdom and purity. Restore to her the joy of her salvation (Psalm 51:12) and renew a right spirit within her.
Father, we thank You that You are working all things together for her good (Romans 8:28). Give her patience to wait on Your timing and faith to trust in Your promises. May she find her satisfaction in You alone, knowing that You are her portion and her cup (Psalm 16:5). We ask all these things in the mighty and matchless name of Jesus, who has all authority in heaven and on earth. Amen.
We encourage you to continue seeking the Lord in prayer and in His Word. Stay rooted in community with other believers who can speak truth and wisdom into your life. If this situation continues to weigh on you, consider fasting and praying for greater clarity and breakthrough. The Lord is near to all who call on Him in truth (Psalm 145:18), and He will guide your steps as you trust in Him. May you find peace and assurance in His presence, knowing that He is faithful to complete the good work He has begun in you.
