We join with you in lifting up this heartfelt cry for deliverance and restoration, and we praise God that you have brought this burden before Him in the mighty name of Jesus Christ. It is only through His name that we have authority to pray, and it is by His blood that we are saved and set free. Your prayer is rooted in Scripture, and we stand with you on these promises, knowing that our God is faithful to hear and answer when we call upon Him in truth.
First, we must address something with love but also with urgency. In your prayer, you refer to this person as “my ###” rather than identifying him clearly as a husband, spouse, or even a man you are courting with the intent of godly marriage. The ambiguity here concerns us, as the Bible is *very* clear about the boundaries of relationships. If this man is not your husband, then the deep emotional and spiritual ties you describe—praying for his faith, his deliverance, and your shared relationship with his mother—suggest an attachment that may be crossing into areas reserved for marriage alone. Scripture warns us in 1 Corinthians 7:9, *"But if they don’t have self-control, let them marry. For it’s better to marry than to burn with passion."* If this is not your spouse, then the intensity of your prayer for him could indicate an emotional bond that belongs within the covenant of marriage. We urge you to examine this carefully, for the Lord calls us to purity in all things, including our affections. Proverbs 4:23 tells us, *"Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it is the wellspring of life."*
If this man *is* your husband, then we stand with you in praying for his return to faith and his deliverance from any ungodly influence. A marriage covenant is sacred, and we know the enemy seeks to destroy what God has joined together. But even in this case, we must remind you that while you can pray fervently for him, you cannot *force* his surrender to Christ—that is the work of the Holy Spirit. Your role is to live in obedience, love, and prayer, trusting God to move in his heart. 1 Peter 3:1-2 says, *"In the same way, wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; so that, even if any don’t obey the Word, they may be won by the behavior of their wives without a word; seeing your pure behavior in fear."*
Now, let us address the spiritual warfare at hand. You have rightly identified that this is not merely a battle against flesh and blood but against principalities and powers. Ephesians 6:12 reminds us, *"For our wrestling is not against flesh and blood, but against the principalities, against the powers, against the world’s rulers of the darkness of this age, and against the spiritual forces of wickedness in the heavenly places."* We join you in binding every demonic influence over this man’s life, declaring that no weapon formed against him shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17). We plead the blood of Jesus over his mind, heart, and spirit, asking the Lord to break every chain of deception, rebellion, or worldly influence that has taken hold. As you’ve stood on 2 Corinthians 10:3-5, we too declare that *"though we walk in the flesh, we don’t wage war according to the flesh; for the weapons of our warfare are not of the flesh, but mighty before God to the throwing down of strongholds, throwing down imaginations and every high thing that is exalted against the knowledge of God and bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ."*
Yet we must also pray for *your* heart in this. If this man has turned away from the faith, you must guard your own spirit against bitterness, idolatry, or an unhealthy emotional dependence on him rather than on Christ. The Lord is your Shepherd, your Provider, and your Ultimate Love—no human relationship should ever take the place of your devotion to Him. Psalm 62:5 says, *"My soul, wait in silence for God alone, for my expectation is from him."* If this man is not walking with the Lord, you cannot walk in spiritual unity with him. 2 Corinthians 6:14 warns, *"Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship does righteousness have with unrighteousness? What communion does light have with darkness?"* This is a hard truth, but it is God’s protection over you. Your first prayer should be for *your own* faith to remain steadfast, for your heart to be fully surrendered to Jesus, and for the Lord to give you wisdom about how to proceed in this relationship in a way that honors Him.
As for the mention of his mother, we pray for reconciliation and healing in that relationship if it is broken, but we also caution you not to overstep boundaries. Family dynamics can be complex, and unless you are married to this man, it is not your place to intercede in his relationship with his mother beyond praying for peace and godly resolution. Proverbs 22:24-25 warns, *"Don’t befriend a hot-tempered man, and don’t associate with one who harbors anger: lest you learn his ways, and ensnare your soul."* If there is strife or ungodly influence there, pray for the Lord to move, but do not entangle yourself in it beyond what is wise.
Finally, we want to lift up a prayer with you now, standing on the promises you’ve claimed and adding to them the full armor of God:
*"Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty and holy name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. We thank You that You are a God who hears and answers prayer, who delivers the captives and sets the prisoners free. Lord, we lift up this man to You—whether he is a husband, a brother in Christ who has strayed, or someone this dear saint has deep care for. Father, we ask that You would *draw him back to Yourself* with cords of love (Hosea 11:4). Break every chain of darkness, every lie of the enemy, and every stronghold that has kept him from surrendering fully to You. Lord, if there is any ungodly influence in his life—whether from people, from the world, or from the spiritual realm—we command it to be broken now in Jesus’ name. No weapon formed against him shall prosper, and every tongue that rises against him in judgment shall be condemned (Isaiah 54:17).
Father, we also lift up our sister who has brought this request. Guard her heart, Lord. If this man is not her spouse, give her the strength to release him to You completely, trusting that You are sovereign over his life. If he *is* her husband, grant her the grace to love him as You do, with patience, wisdom, and a heart fully submitted to Your will. Heal any wounds in her spirit, and protect her from bitterness, fear, or idolatry. Remind her that her first love must always be You, Jesus.
Lord, we stand on 2 Timothy 4:18 for this man: *'The Lord will deliver him from every evil work, and will preserve him for his heavenly Kingdom.'* We stand on Isaiah 61:7 for restoration: *'Instead of your shame you shall have double honor, and instead of confusion they shall rejoice in their portion. Therefore in their land they shall possess double. Everlasting joy shall be to them.'* And we declare John 8:36 over him: *'If therefore the Son makes you free, you will be free indeed.'*
Father, we ask that You would expose any hidden sin, any ungodly soul ties, or any area where the enemy has gained a foothold. Bring conviction where there is rebellion, repentance where there is hardness, and revival where there is death. Let Your light shine so brightly in this situation that darkness cannot remain.
And Lord, if there is any way in which our sister has contributed to this bondage—whether through enabling, through emotional dependence, or through stepping outside of Your will—we ask that You would reveal it to her with gentleness and give her the courage to repent and walk in freedom. Your yoke is easy, and Your burden is light (Matthew 11:30). We trust You to work all things together for good for those who love You (Romans 8:28).
In the name above all names, the name of Jesus Christ, we pray. Amen."*
Sister, we encourage you to continue seeking the Lord’s face in this matter. Spend time in His Word, in worship, and in fasting if led. Surround yourself with godly counsel—other believers who can pray with you and speak truth into your life. And remember, no matter how this situation unfolds, your identity and security are in Christ alone. He is your Redeemer, your Healer, and your ever-present Help. Trust Him fully, even when the path is unclear.
If this man is not your spouse, we gently but firmly urge you to examine whether your emotional investment aligns with God’s design. Courtship should always be purposeful, with marriage as the goal, and even then, both parties must be fully surrendered to Christ. If he is not walking with the Lord, you cannot walk with him in the way you desire without compromising your own faith. This is not a punishment—it is God’s protection over you.
We are standing with you in prayer. Keep your eyes on Jesus, the Author and Finisher of your faith. He will never leave you nor forsake you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
