Why are you trying to "change" your husband? Is that why you married him, to change him? Perhaps you need to ask the Lord to change you to be the woman you husband could not resist loving. Keep your focus on the Lord and not on the faults of others.
Colossians 3:2New King James Version (NKJV)
2 Set your mind on things above, not on things on the earth.
Philippians 4:8King James Version (KJV)
8 Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.
In the name of Jesus, I bless you with the life and love of God.