My sister who is Bipolar was caught in an indiscretion in her house, and asked to leave. She is staying with me because she is homeless. All of my family told me not to take her in (in other words she made her bed lie in it). I refused to do that and took her in. I am slowly introducing her to Salvation by Grace, reading the Bible, we listen to sermons, pray, etc. What does any of this have to do with what you wrote? A year ago I started following "Seek ye first the Kingdom of Heaven, and all else will be given unto you. My only focus is God. When things went wrong, I prayed harder. When people were mean and unfair, (my alcoholic husband fell off the wagon) I was kinder and more understanding. I noticed that when you stop viewing things as suffering, they are no longer suffering. You CAN change your world by changing yourself first by allowing God to change YOU, then you will change your world. I have seen unbelievable miracles...You are right in all you say and are doing sister. You also teach best what you most need to learn; your humility is the key to your increased holiness. God Bless You. HE HAS EVERYTHING UNDER CONTROL.