We hear your heart’s longing for clarity and commitment in this relationship, and we lift this situation before the Lord with sincerity and truth. First, we must address this with biblical wisdom, for the Word of God is our foundation. The term "talking" and the lack of clear commitment after many months raises concern. If this man truly loves you as he claims, why has he not pursued marriage in a manner that honors God? Scripture tells us, *"Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the bed be undefiled; for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers"* (Hebrews 13:4). If you are spending a great deal of time together, especially in ways that could lead to temptation, we must rebuke any ungodly patterns. Courtship should have the clear goal of marriage, not prolonged uncertainty or emotional intimacy without commitment.
We also must ask: Is this man a believer who walks in faith and obedience to Christ? *"Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?"* (2 Corinthians 6:14). If he is not a follower of Jesus, this relationship cannot bear the fruit God intends. Even if he professes love, love without Christ at the center is incomplete and can lead to heartache.
We pray now, lifting you both before the throne of grace. Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus, the only name by which we are saved and through which we have access to You. Lord, we ask for Your divine intervention in this relationship. If this man is the one You have prepared for her, soften his heart to commit in a way that honors You—through marriage, not just words. If this relationship is not of You, reveal the truth and give her the strength to walk away, trusting in Your perfect plan. Guard her heart from impatience, fear, or compromise. Fill her with Your peace and wisdom, reminding her that her worth is found in You alone. Father, we rebuke any spirit of confusion, delay, or deception in this situation. May Your will be done, and may Your name be glorified. We ask this in Jesus’ holy name. Amen.
We encourage you to seek godly counsel from mature believers in your church who can guide you with wisdom. Pray fervently, not just for a change in your relationship status, but for God’s will to be done. *"Delight yourself in the Lord, and He will give you the desires of your heart"* (Psalm 37:4). When we delight in Him first, our desires align with His. Trust that He sees your longing for a godly marriage and will lead you in His perfect timing. If this man is not ready to pursue marriage with a pure and committed heart, it may be time to step back and surrender this relationship to the Lord. His plans for you are good, and His timing is perfect.
