We stand with you in this time of distress, lifting your cry for help before the Lord, for He is your refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble. The Scriptures remind us in Psalm 91:4, *"He will cover you with his feathers. Under his wings you will take refuge. His faithfulness is your shield and rampart."* You are not alone in this battle, and we declare God’s protection over you, rebuking the spirit of fear and oppression that has sought to torment you through this man’s actions.
The behavior you describe—drunkenness, verbal abuse, and uncontrolled rage—is not only harmful but is explicitly condemned in Scripture. Ephesians 5:18 warns, *"Don’t be drunken with wine, in which is dissipation, but be filled with the Spirit."* Proverbs 20:1 declares, *"Wine is a mocker, and beer is a brawler. Whoever is led astray by them is not wise."* This man’s actions are not of God but are the fruit of sin and bondage, and we pray that the Lord would break these chains in his life. However, we must also address the reality of the danger you are in. The Bible does not call us to endure abuse passively. While we pray for his repentance and deliverance, we strongly urge you to take practical steps to ensure your safety. This may include contacting local authorities, seeking shelter with trusted believers, or reaching out to a pastor or Christian counselor who can provide guidance and support. You have a right to live in peace, and God does not desire for His children to remain in harm’s way.
You mentioned that this man was once bonded in marriage, and we lift up that union in prayer as well. Marriage is a covenant before God, and we ask the Lord to restore what has been broken, if it is His will. However, we must also recognize that his current behavior is not only destructive to himself but is a violation of the sacredness of marriage and the call for husbands to love their wives as Christ loves the church (Ephesians 5:25). If he is not repentant or seeking help, it is not your responsibility to fix him or endure his abuse. Your first priority must be to seek safety and trust God to work in his heart.
We also note your plea for him to feel physical discomfort as a deterrent from drinking. While we understand the desperation behind this request, we must align our prayers with the heart of God, who desires repentance and transformation, not punishment for punishment’s sake. Instead, let us pray that the Lord would convict his heart so deeply that he turns from his sin in genuine repentance. May the Holy Spirit bring him to a place of brokenness where he seeks God’s face and surrenders his addiction and anger. As it is written in 2 Chronicles 7:14, *"if my people, who are called by my name, shall humble themselves, pray, seek my face, and turn from their wicked ways, then I will hear from heaven, will forgive their sin, and will heal their land."*
Let us also address the spiritual warfare at play here. You have rightly recognized the need to rebuke the wicked intentions and spiritual forces at work. We stand with you in binding the enemy’s plans and declaring that no weapon formed against you shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17). The blood of Jesus is your protection, and we plead it over you, your home, and your mind. The enemy seeks to steal, kill, and destroy (John 10:10), but Jesus has come to give you life abundantly. We command every spirit of fear, confusion, and bitterness to flee from your home in the name of Jesus Christ.
Finally, we want to encourage you to cling to the Lord in this season. Psalm 34:17-19 assures us, *"The righteous cry, and Yahweh hears, and delivers them out of all their troubles. Yahweh is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit. Many are the afflictions of the righteous, but Yahweh delivers him out of them all."* You are righteous in Christ, and He will not abandon you. Lean on Him, seek His face in prayer and His Word, and surround yourself with believers who can support and uplift you.
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**Our Prayer for You:**
Heavenly Father, we come before You on behalf of our sister, who is crying out for Your protection and peace. Lord, You see the distress she is in, the fear that grips her heart, and the torment she has endured. We ask that You would be her shield and her strong tower, a present help in this time of trouble. Surround her with Your angels, Lord, and place a hedge of protection around her home and her mind. Let no evil befall her, nor any plague come near her dwelling (Psalm 91:10).
We rebuke the spirit of drunkenness, rage, and abuse that has taken hold of this man. Lord, break the chains of addiction in his life and convict his heart of sin. Bring him to repentance, Father, that he may turn from his wicked ways and seek Your face. If it is Your will, restore his marriage and heal the brokenness that has led him to this place. But Lord, we also ask that You would remove him far from our sister’s home, that she may dwell in safety and peace. Do not allow his hands to harm her or his words to torment her any longer.
Father, we bind every wicked intention and spiritual force that seeks to bring confusion, bitterness, or fear into her home. We declare that the blood of Jesus covers her and that no weapon formed against her shall prosper. Fill her with Your peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7), and grant her the wisdom to take the necessary steps to ensure her safety.
Comfort her, Lord, and remind her that she is not alone. Strengthen her faith and surround her with Your people who can support and encourage her. Let her sleep be restful and her home be a place of refuge once more. We ask all these things in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Savior and Redeemer. Amen and amen.