Communication adjustment
- Thread starter Anonymous
- Start date
We are grateful you’ve brought this matter of communication and adjustment before us, as it is a vital area where many believers struggle yet holds immense potential for glorifying God in our relationships. The verse you’ve shared from James 1:19 is a cornerstone for godly interaction: *"So, then, my beloved brothers, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, and slow to wrath."* This wisdom is not merely a suggestion but a command rooted in the character of Christ Himself, who was perfect in patience, love, and self-control.
Too often, we allow pride, impatience, or unresolved bitterness to dictate our words and reactions, leading to strife rather than peace. The Apostle James doesn’t stop at this verse—he continues in verse 20: *"for the wrath of man doesn’t produce the righteousness of God."* How convicting this is! Our anger, no matter how justified it may feel in the moment, cannot achieve God’s purposes. Instead, it is through humility, active listening, and measured speech that we reflect Christ and foster unity, whether in marriage, family, friendships, or the body of believers.
Let us examine our hearts: Are we truly *quick to listen*? This means giving our full attention, seeking to understand rather than merely waiting for our turn to speak. It means asking clarifying questions instead of assuming motives. Are we *slow to speak*? This requires restraint, especially when emotions are high. Proverbs 10:19 warns, *"In the multitude of words there is no lack of disobedience, but he who restrains his lips does wisely."* How often do we regret words spoken in haste? Finally, are we *slow to anger*? Ephesians 4:26-27 instructs, *"Be angry, and don’t sin. Don’t let the sun go down on your wrath, and don’t give place to the devil."* Anger itself isn’t sinful—even Jesus displayed righteous anger—but it becomes dangerous when it lingers or is expressed without control.
If this conviction resonates with you, we urge you to ask the Holy Spirit to reveal areas where you’ve fallen short. Have there been words spoken in frustration that need repentance? Are there relationships strained by a lack of patience or understanding? Confess these to the Lord, for He is faithful to forgive and transform us. Remember, adjustment in communication isn’t just about changing behavior—it’s about surrendering our hearts to the Lordship of Christ, allowing Him to shape us into His likeness.
For those who are married or courting with the intent of marriage, this principle is especially critical. A home built on hasty words and unchecked anger cannot stand firm. Instead, let your communication be seasoned with grace, as Colossians 4:6 instructs: *"Let your speech always be with grace, seasoned with salt, that you may know how you ought to answer each one."* Husbands, love your wives as Christ loved the church—with patience and sacrifice (Ephesians 5:25). Wives, respect your husbands and build them up with your words (Ephesians 5:33). To those courting, let your interactions be marked by purity, honesty, and a shared commitment to honor God in all things. If there is any hint of fornication or emotional compromise, repent and flee from it, for *"the body is ... for the Lord, and the Lord for the body"* (1 Corinthians 6:13). Your relationship should point others to Christ, not to worldly passions.
Now, let us pray together for you and all who seek to honor God in their communication:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, acknowledging that our words and reactions often fall short of Your glory. Lord, You are slow to anger and abounding in loving kindness (Psalm 103:8), and we ask that You would mold us into Your image in this area. Convict us by Your Holy Spirit where we have been quick to speak, slow to listen, or given place to unrighteous anger. Forgive us, Lord, for the times our words have wounded instead of healed, and teach us to communicate in a way that builds up rather than tears down.
For those struggling in their marriages or courtships, we pray for a fresh outpouring of Your grace. Soften hearts that have grown hard, and grant wisdom to navigate difficult conversations. Help husbands to lead with gentleness and wives to respond with respect, that Your peace may rule in their homes. For those who are single and desiring godly marriage, we ask that You prepare them now—teach them to listen well, to speak with kindness, and to guard their hearts against bitterness or impatience. May their future marriages be a testimony of Your redeeming love.
Lord, we also lift up those who feel overwhelmed by conflict or misunderstanding. Give them the courage to seek reconciliation, the humility to apologize where needed, and the strength to forgive as You have forgiven us. Remind them that *"a gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger"* (Proverbs 15:1). Let them be peacemakers in their spheres of influence, reflecting Your heart to a broken world.
Finally, Father, we ask that You would guard our tongues as the powerful tools they are. May our words be a fragrant offering to You, used to encourage, exhort, and edify. Let us never forget that *"death and life are in the power of the tongue"* (Proverbs 18:21), and may we choose life—both for ourselves and for those we speak to.
We pray all these things in the precious name of Jesus Christ, our Redeemer and Perfect Example. Amen.
Beloved, as you seek to apply these truths, remember that growth is a process. There will be days when you fail, but take heart—*"If we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness"* (1 John 1:9). Keep pressing forward, relying on the Holy Spirit to empower you. Surround yourself with fellow believers who can hold you accountable and speak truth into your life. And above all, fix your eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of our faith (Hebrews 12:2). He is your strength, your wisdom, and your peace.
Too often, we allow pride, impatience, or unresolved bitterness to dictate our words and reactions, leading to strife rather than peace. The Apostle James doesn’t stop at this verse—he continues in verse 20: *"for the wrath of man doesn’t produce the righteousness of God."* How convicting this is! Our anger, no matter how justified it may feel in the moment, cannot achieve God’s purposes. Instead, it is through humility, active listening, and measured speech that we reflect Christ and foster unity, whether in marriage, family, friendships, or the body of believers.
Let us examine our hearts: Are we truly *quick to listen*? This means giving our full attention, seeking to understand rather than merely waiting for our turn to speak. It means asking clarifying questions instead of assuming motives. Are we *slow to speak*? This requires restraint, especially when emotions are high. Proverbs 10:19 warns, *"In the multitude of words there is no lack of disobedience, but he who restrains his lips does wisely."* How often do we regret words spoken in haste? Finally, are we *slow to anger*? Ephesians 4:26-27 instructs, *"Be angry, and don’t sin. Don’t let the sun go down on your wrath, and don’t give place to the devil."* Anger itself isn’t sinful—even Jesus displayed righteous anger—but it becomes dangerous when it lingers or is expressed without control.
If this conviction resonates with you, we urge you to ask the Holy Spirit to reveal areas where you’ve fallen short. Have there been words spoken in frustration that need repentance? Are there relationships strained by a lack of patience or understanding? Confess these to the Lord, for He is faithful to forgive and transform us. Remember, adjustment in communication isn’t just about changing behavior—it’s about surrendering our hearts to the Lordship of Christ, allowing Him to shape us into His likeness.
For those who are married or courting with the intent of marriage, this principle is especially critical. A home built on hasty words and unchecked anger cannot stand firm. Instead, let your communication be seasoned with grace, as Colossians 4:6 instructs: *"Let your speech always be with grace, seasoned with salt, that you may know how you ought to answer each one."* Husbands, love your wives as Christ loved the church—with patience and sacrifice (Ephesians 5:25). Wives, respect your husbands and build them up with your words (Ephesians 5:33). To those courting, let your interactions be marked by purity, honesty, and a shared commitment to honor God in all things. If there is any hint of fornication or emotional compromise, repent and flee from it, for *"the body is ... for the Lord, and the Lord for the body"* (1 Corinthians 6:13). Your relationship should point others to Christ, not to worldly passions.
Now, let us pray together for you and all who seek to honor God in their communication:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, acknowledging that our words and reactions often fall short of Your glory. Lord, You are slow to anger and abounding in loving kindness (Psalm 103:8), and we ask that You would mold us into Your image in this area. Convict us by Your Holy Spirit where we have been quick to speak, slow to listen, or given place to unrighteous anger. Forgive us, Lord, for the times our words have wounded instead of healed, and teach us to communicate in a way that builds up rather than tears down.
For those struggling in their marriages or courtships, we pray for a fresh outpouring of Your grace. Soften hearts that have grown hard, and grant wisdom to navigate difficult conversations. Help husbands to lead with gentleness and wives to respond with respect, that Your peace may rule in their homes. For those who are single and desiring godly marriage, we ask that You prepare them now—teach them to listen well, to speak with kindness, and to guard their hearts against bitterness or impatience. May their future marriages be a testimony of Your redeeming love.
Lord, we also lift up those who feel overwhelmed by conflict or misunderstanding. Give them the courage to seek reconciliation, the humility to apologize where needed, and the strength to forgive as You have forgiven us. Remind them that *"a gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger"* (Proverbs 15:1). Let them be peacemakers in their spheres of influence, reflecting Your heart to a broken world.
Finally, Father, we ask that You would guard our tongues as the powerful tools they are. May our words be a fragrant offering to You, used to encourage, exhort, and edify. Let us never forget that *"death and life are in the power of the tongue"* (Proverbs 18:21), and may we choose life—both for ourselves and for those we speak to.
We pray all these things in the precious name of Jesus Christ, our Redeemer and Perfect Example. Amen.
Beloved, as you seek to apply these truths, remember that growth is a process. There will be days when you fail, but take heart—*"If we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness"* (1 John 1:9). Keep pressing forward, relying on the Holy Spirit to empower you. Surround yourself with fellow believers who can hold you accountable and speak truth into your life. And above all, fix your eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of our faith (Hebrews 12:2). He is your strength, your wisdom, and your peace.
We've been thinking about your prayer request, dear friend, and we're right there with you, seeking God's wisdom in this area of communication. It's true, isn't it? We often rush to speak, hold back from listening, and let anger get the best of us. But we're reminded in James 1:19, "Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to anger." Let's strive to live this out, not just as a suggestion, but as a command rooted in Christ's character.
We've been convicted too, you know. There are times when we've let pride, impatience, or unresolved bitterness dictate our words and reactions, leading to strife instead of peace. But we're encouraged by the fact that it's through humility, active listening, and measured speech that we reflect Christ and foster unity in our relationships.
So, let's examine our hearts together. Are we truly quick to listen? It's not just about giving our attention, but seeking to understand, asking clarifying questions instead of assuming motives. Are we slow to speak? This requires restraint, especially when emotions are high. And are we slow to anger? Even if our anger feels justified, it can't achieve God's purposes. Instead, it's through humility and self-control that we reflect Christ.
If this resonates with you, let's ask the Holy Spirit to reveal areas where we've fallen short. Have there been words spoken in frustration that need repentance? Are there relationships strained by a lack of patience or understanding? Let's confess these to the Lord, for He is faithful to forgive and transform us.
For those of us who are married or courting with the intent of marriage, this principle is especially critical. A home built on hasty words and unchecked anger can't stand firm. Instead, let's make sure our communication is seasoned with grace, as Colossians 4:6 instructs. Husbands, love your wives as Christ loved the church. Wives, respect your husbands and build them up with your words. To those courting, let your interactions be marked by purity, honesty, and a shared commitment to honor God in all things.
Now, let's pray together for you and all who seek to honor God in their communication. Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, acknowledging that our words often fall short of Your glory. Lord, You are slow to anger and abounding in loving kindness, and we ask that You would mold us into Your image in this area. Convict us where we've been quick to speak, slow to listen, or given place to unrighteous anger. Forgive us, Lord, for the times our words have wounded instead of healed, and teach us to communicate in a way that builds up rather than tears down.
For those struggling in their marriages or courtships, we pray for a fresh outpouring of Your grace. Soften hearts that have grown hard, and grant wisdom to navigate difficult conversations. Help husbands to lead with gentleness and wives to respond with respect, that Your peace may rule in their homes. For those who are single and desiring godly marriage, we ask that You prepare them now, teaching them to listen well, speak with kindness, and guard their hearts against bitterness or impatience.
Lord, we also lift up those who feel overwhelmed by conflict or misunderstanding. Give them the courage to seek reconciliation, the humility to apologize where needed, and the strength to forgive as You have forgiven us. Remind them that a gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.
Finally, Father, we ask that You would guard our tongues as the powerful tools they are. May our words be a fragrant offering to You, used to encourage, exhort, and edify. Let us never forget that death and life are in the power of the tongue, and may we choose life, both for ourselves and for those we speak to.
We pray all these things in the precious name of Jesus Christ, our Redeemer and Perfect Example. Amen. Beloved, as you seek to apply these truths, remember that growth is a process. There will be days when you fail, but take heart - if we confess our sins, He is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. Keep pressing forward, relying on the Holy Spirit to empower you. Surround yourself with fellow believers who can hold you accountable and speak truth into your life. And above all, fix your eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of our faith. He is your strength, your wisdom, and your peace.
We've been convicted too, you know. There are times when we've let pride, impatience, or unresolved bitterness dictate our words and reactions, leading to strife instead of peace. But we're encouraged by the fact that it's through humility, active listening, and measured speech that we reflect Christ and foster unity in our relationships.
So, let's examine our hearts together. Are we truly quick to listen? It's not just about giving our attention, but seeking to understand, asking clarifying questions instead of assuming motives. Are we slow to speak? This requires restraint, especially when emotions are high. And are we slow to anger? Even if our anger feels justified, it can't achieve God's purposes. Instead, it's through humility and self-control that we reflect Christ.
If this resonates with you, let's ask the Holy Spirit to reveal areas where we've fallen short. Have there been words spoken in frustration that need repentance? Are there relationships strained by a lack of patience or understanding? Let's confess these to the Lord, for He is faithful to forgive and transform us.
For those of us who are married or courting with the intent of marriage, this principle is especially critical. A home built on hasty words and unchecked anger can't stand firm. Instead, let's make sure our communication is seasoned with grace, as Colossians 4:6 instructs. Husbands, love your wives as Christ loved the church. Wives, respect your husbands and build them up with your words. To those courting, let your interactions be marked by purity, honesty, and a shared commitment to honor God in all things.
Now, let's pray together for you and all who seek to honor God in their communication. Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, acknowledging that our words often fall short of Your glory. Lord, You are slow to anger and abounding in loving kindness, and we ask that You would mold us into Your image in this area. Convict us where we've been quick to speak, slow to listen, or given place to unrighteous anger. Forgive us, Lord, for the times our words have wounded instead of healed, and teach us to communicate in a way that builds up rather than tears down.
For those struggling in their marriages or courtships, we pray for a fresh outpouring of Your grace. Soften hearts that have grown hard, and grant wisdom to navigate difficult conversations. Help husbands to lead with gentleness and wives to respond with respect, that Your peace may rule in their homes. For those who are single and desiring godly marriage, we ask that You prepare them now, teaching them to listen well, speak with kindness, and guard their hearts against bitterness or impatience.
Lord, we also lift up those who feel overwhelmed by conflict or misunderstanding. Give them the courage to seek reconciliation, the humility to apologize where needed, and the strength to forgive as You have forgiven us. Remind them that a gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.
Finally, Father, we ask that You would guard our tongues as the powerful tools they are. May our words be a fragrant offering to You, used to encourage, exhort, and edify. Let us never forget that death and life are in the power of the tongue, and may we choose life, both for ourselves and for those we speak to.
We pray all these things in the precious name of Jesus Christ, our Redeemer and Perfect Example. Amen. Beloved, as you seek to apply these truths, remember that growth is a process. There will be days when you fail, but take heart - if we confess our sins, He is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. Keep pressing forward, relying on the Holy Spirit to empower you. Surround yourself with fellow believers who can hold you accountable and speak truth into your life. And above all, fix your eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of our faith. He is your strength, your wisdom, and your peace.
The Encourager
The Encourager
I prayed that God in Jesus' name will answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. Thank You Jesus!!!
Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.
God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God solution focused heart, mind, spirit, and attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach.
be-an-encourager.blogspot.com
Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God solution focused heart, mind, spirit, and attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach.
Healed Spirit Soul And Body
Healed Spirit Soul And Body
be-an-encourager.blogspot.com
Cinu
Beloved of All
Lord, we pray for this prayer and family for blessings healing and salvation. Heal and bless. May their lives be a praise and glory unto thee.
Come to the Lord's holy presence. Seek him with all your heart. Cling to his Word and meditate on it moment by moment by positive thoughts and joy in the heart (James 1:2-4), knowing that the Lord is good and to him be all the praise. Seek first God's kingdom and his righteousness (Matthew 6:33). Even though life may feel hard, the Lord's hand will be on you, and he will answer in his time. I am praying for you. Amen.
Some resources that might help.
Needs: - But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:19(KJV)
Salvation: - So they said "Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ and you will be saved you and your household." Acts 16:31(NKJV)
Healing: - But He was wounded for our transgressions, He was bruised for our iniquities; The chastisement for our peace was upon Him, And by His stripes we are healed. Isaiah 53:5(NKJV)
Fulfillment by the Holy Spirit: - Then he answered and spake unto me, saying, This is the word of the LORD unto Zerubbabel, saying, Not by might, nor by power, but by my spirit, saith the LORD of hosts. Zechariah 4:6(KJV)
Persecutions: - But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you, Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you. Luke 6:27-28(KJV)
Help in Prayer
Dwelling and Thriving in God’s grace where everything happens for good (Romans 8:28)
Pray that the Lord may open the eyes of the nations affected by coronavirus (Specifically forces against God’s people)
sermons
Be a Prayer Warrior: “Praying for others”
Come to the Lord's holy presence. Seek him with all your heart. Cling to his Word and meditate on it moment by moment by positive thoughts and joy in the heart (James 1:2-4), knowing that the Lord is good and to him be all the praise. Seek first God's kingdom and his righteousness (Matthew 6:33). Even though life may feel hard, the Lord's hand will be on you, and he will answer in his time. I am praying for you. Amen.
Some resources that might help.
Needs: - But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:19(KJV)
Salvation: - So they said "Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ and you will be saved you and your household." Acts 16:31(NKJV)
Healing: - But He was wounded for our transgressions, He was bruised for our iniquities; The chastisement for our peace was upon Him, And by His stripes we are healed. Isaiah 53:5(NKJV)
Fulfillment by the Holy Spirit: - Then he answered and spake unto me, saying, This is the word of the LORD unto Zerubbabel, saying, Not by might, nor by power, but by my spirit, saith the LORD of hosts. Zechariah 4:6(KJV)
Persecutions: - But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you, Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you. Luke 6:27-28(KJV)
Help in Prayer
Dwelling and Thriving in God’s grace where everything happens for good (Romans 8:28)
Pray that the Lord may open the eyes of the nations affected by coronavirus (Specifically forces against God’s people)
sermons
Be a Prayer Warrior: “Praying for others”
Father, please meet deepest spiritual, physical, emotional, needs according to Your Will and timing in Jesus Name Amen
"May the Lord bless you and protect you. May the Lord smile on you and be gracious to you. May the Lord show you his favor and give you his peace." Numbers 6:24-26
"May the Lord bless you and protect you. May the Lord smile on you and be gracious to you. May the Lord show you his favor and give you his peace." Numbers 6:24-26
Similar Requests
Life in there is PEACE in my communication Specifically in my Lifetime lifestyle lifework in person with people my JOB my love life my family life friends pets there is a GREAT PEACE to have for me in my life no more negativity no more being ALONE everyday day n night. That's definitely not in...
Life in I get my communication healed GREATLY even more 🙏 😌 with my Family Friends 🧡 pets even we can be well ❤️ ☺️ near each other GREATLY communication TEXTS ❤️ always 10 minutes allocated time for my EX if he ever comes back to me MIKE at Allllllllllllllllllllll from TEXAS by the beach ⛱️ ❤️...
I pray that my way of communication with ### can change, be more authentic, and that I don’t continually say stupid things or things that she views as inappropriate. I pray that she receives me in the spirit, I intend and hope to reach her. She interprets what I say or what I mean in such ###...
