We hear your deep burden for this situation and share your grief over sin that threatens not only the soul of your sister in Christ but also the purity of the church and the well-being of her child. You have rightly turned to Scripture, and we stand with you in seeking God’s will through prayer, fasting, and obedience to His commands. The matter of church discipline is not one to be taken lightly, nor is it to be neglected out of fear or favoritism. The Lord calls us to love one another enough to confront sin, not with harshness, but with the hope of restoration and the fear of God’s holiness.
You have followed the pattern Christ laid out in Matthew 18, and we commend your obedience in bringing this matter before the church leadership. Yet we must also acknowledge the weight of what you describe, the hardness of heart, the deception, and the ongoing immorality, particularly within the covenant of marriage. Scripture is clear: "Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor men who practice homosexuality, nor thieves, nor the covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God" (1 Corinthians 6:9-10 WEB). Adultery is not a private matter; it is a violation of God’s design for marriage and a threat to the spiritual health of the entire body of Christ.
The bloodguilt of silence is a sobering reality. Ezekiel 3:18-19 warns that if we do not warn the wicked to turn from their ways, their blood will be required at our hands. This is not about judgment for judgment’s sake, but about love, love for the lost, love for the church, and love for the Lord who died to redeem sinners. We must also remember that discipline is not the end goal; repentance is. "As many as I love, I rebuke and chasten. Be zealous therefore, and repent" (Revelation 3:19 WEB). The kindness of God does lead to repentance (Romans 2:4), but that kindness is not passive. It confronts, corrects, and calls to holiness.
We must also address the danger to the child in this situation. Jesus’ words in Mark 9:42 are severe: "Whoever causes one of these little ones who believe in me to stumble, it would be better for him if a great millstone were hung around his neck, and he were thrown into the sea." A child raised in an environment where sin is normalized and God’s commands are disregarded is at risk of stumbling in their own faith. The church must act not only for the sake of the one in sin but for the sake of the "little ones" who are watching and learning what it means to follow Christ.
We also note your concern about the church’s reluctance to confront sin, particularly when family ties are involved. The example of Eli in 1 Samuel 2-3 is a warning to us all. His failure to restrain his sons led to their destruction and the removal of his family from the priesthood. Favoritism toward family over God’s Word is a grave sin, and we must pray that the church would have the courage to act with integrity, even when it is difficult.
Now, let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, seeking Your will in this matter. We thank You for the courage and obedience of Your servant who has brought this situation to light, following the pattern You set in Your Word. Lord, we ask that You would soften the heart of this sister in Christ. Break through the deception and hardness, and let her see her sin as You see it, not to condemn, but to save. We pray for repentance, for a turning away from immorality, and for restoration to a right relationship with You and with her husband.
Father, we also pray for the church leadership. Give them wisdom, boldness, and a deep love for Your holiness. May they not shrink back from their responsibility to confront sin, but may they do so with gentleness, humility, and the hope of restoration. Protect them from the fear of man and the temptation to favor family or friends over Your commands. Let them tremble at Your Word, as Isaiah 66:2 describes, and act with the same zeal for Your house that You have.
Lord, we lift up the child in this situation. Guard his heart and mind. Let him see the truth of Your Word lived out in the lives of those around him. Protect him from stumbling, and draw him to Yourself. May he grow up knowing that You are a God who loves righteousness and calls His people to holiness.
We also pray for ourselves, that we would not grow weary in doing good. Help us to speak the truth in love, to confront sin with gentleness, and to trust in Your sovereignty even when we do not see immediate fruit. Let us not be silent when we should speak, nor harsh when we should be gentle. Give us the wisdom to know when to act and the courage to follow through.
Father, we know that salvation belongs to You. You are the One who convicts, who draws, and who saves. We ask that You would move in power in this situation, that Your name would be glorified, and that Your church would be purified. Let this be a testimony to Your grace and Your holiness, that others may see and fear and turn to You.
We ask all of this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, the only name by which we can come to You, the only name by which we can be saved. It is through His blood that we have access to Your throne, and it is by His authority that we pray. May Your will be done, on earth as it is in heaven. Amen.
We encourage you to continue in prayer and fasting, trusting that God hears the cries of His people. Do not grow discouraged if the response is not immediate. The Lord is at work, even when we cannot see it. Keep your eyes on Him, and remember that "he who began a good work in you will complete it until the day of Jesus Christ" (Philippians 1:6 WEB). Stand firm in the truth, and do not be afraid to speak it, even when it is unpopular. The church must be a place where sin is confronted, repentance is celebrated, and holiness is pursued. May God give you the strength to persevere in this calling.
Father, May Situation Be Handled Well, Mk 7:37 -- 
Reached one main pastor on social media who is not family and seems to be a burning lamp, Jn 5:35, and flaming fire, Heb 1:7, Whether he corresponds with me or not is not important, but rather the keeping the commands of God, 1 Cor 7:19, 1 Jn 5:3. We pray the church is humble, contrite and trembles at God's Word, Isa 66:2, on exercising church discipline (toward the goal of obedience to all He commanded, Matt 28:20, whole country is "non-confrontational" by nature, especially guilty of sin of Eli with not reproving family members 1 Sam 2:12-36, favoring family over God's Word, 1 Sam 3:10-14, beginning of salvation and repentance, Mt 18:15, James 5:20). Also would be warned about bloodguilt of silence Ezek 3:18-19, Acts 20:26-29, warns female spouse out (and others in open sin) out of fear of God, genuine concern, and love for lost, Mt 18:16-17 Lk 17:3 Lv 19:17, family also obeys God and warns Gal 6:1. Practicing immorality excludes from kingdom 1 Cor 6:9 Rev 21:8 Gal 5:19-20, New Testament forewarns exclusion from entrance into kingdom of God, Gal 5:21...
Father, we're concerned but praying, as it is written, "Be anxious for nothing, but in everything, by prayer and petition with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus," Phil 4:6-7. Jesus said Mt 6:13 pray for others "Lead US not into temptation but deliver us from evil," -- Thank You it's plural -- i.e., we pray for each other Eph 6:18. Prevent sin, Mt 18:6: let her take down her online profiles to protect her from sin, "But the sexually immoral and all liars shall have their part in the lake which burns with fire and brimstone, which is the second death” Rev 21:8. Let it come down to keep her from evil men, 2 Thes 3:2 for evil men and imposters proceed from bad to worst (in the last days) 2 Tim 3:13.
Knowing her disposition, deception and hardness of heart, we thank You this request and its follow through has been and must still be mingled with prayer, fasting and intense mercy, yet not so as to lose the stern frankness and danger to herself and others by continuing in immorality at all, especially while married, Rom 7:2-3, 1 Cor 6:9-10, Rev 2:20, Rev 3:19, Rev 21:8 -- and by endangering the child and softening his moral stance, Matt 18:6, Mk 9:42, Lk 17:2, Rev 18:21. Galatians 6:1 "Brothers and sisters, if someone is caught in a trespass, you who are spiritual should restore him with a spirit of gentleness. But watch yourself, or you also may be tempted." Thank You in for hearing prayer in Your will, and when You hear, we have the requests, 1 Jn 5:14-15, in Jesus' Name. Surely with thanksgiving we make our requests known, that the peace of God that passes understanding may guard our hearts and minds in Christ Jesus, Phil 4:6-7, Amen, 2 Cor 1:20
