With my children on my heart every day and concerns for them as a mom...I see many mistakes I made while raising them...I just wanted to share a few of mine so maybe someone else can get a little better outlook and wisdom on raising their children.
First of all, just to let you know...all my children serve God with a righteous heart in obedience to His word....thank You Jesus..they were brought up Pentecostal and lived a life dedication. A life that was my walk, a walk based on how I was taught and what I recognized as Truth....in my young stage of being a christian, I myself did not know God back then I knew of Him and I thought I was teaching my kids right way (that's the biggest deception of all).....we went to church three times a week and every revival, they went to bible camp every summer and we were very involved in the youth group, choir, Sunday school ect..we lived the life of a "christian" ....
In fact I was a leader in the church, I was a leader of the youth group, the teen sunday school teacher..in the choir after all people came to me to pray and fast for them.....I thought I was all that and more...lol...(how God must look at us and just shake his head and chuckle) I had no malice in my heart I was living a life of good (I thought)..we had lots of fun and good times...but I don't think I ever taught my children who is IS, to really KNOW God and his power, about His grace about HIs mercy...about unconditional love..I think, and know for sure now, that I taught them to know ABOUT Him and to know OF Him..I told them the stories of the bible and not the meaning of the stories.....and thank God I did at least that!
My "wisdom" filled conclusion today of all my mistakes is......that is really all we can do......God is the only one who can reveal Himself to each and every one of us in a personal way...He comes and introduces Himself and we decide if we want Him as our friend, our master, our teacher in life and our Mentor....we all have to get to KNOW Him on our own....what the job of the parent is, is giving their child the right tools to learn with...
Kids usually don't want to read the bible, and their are many exceptions I am sure..but over all, being involved in a church is one of the most important tools...fellowship with believers..hearing from someone else the likes and dislikes of God...I could say the same thing as you word for word and I guarantee my kids listened to you and didn't even hear what I said..Are kids in the church "saints with no sin" NO but our children hanging out with even messed up kids in the church is better than hanging out with people who do not know God at all..they also have the prayers of the people and pastor to cover them with hope and protection.
When I think of the youth group..some of our kids were crazy and worldly (some made it some didn't sorry to say) but when temptation came there was always someone to say no to mischief because of God being in the midst...did they sin? Yup..a couple of times I was distraught with fear their parents would blame me...But God came through again...we can not take the blame for the actions that our children rebel in. We can guide and lead by example.
We should lead by example and encouragement along with respect. It is sometimes hard to respect our children's feelings especially in the teen years! How soon we forget who we were at that age. Oh lord what a memory for me! Yikes!!!!!, thank God He changed the way I use to think...as parents we want the best for our children...I know I was obsessed with getting my kids to heaven I was gonna shove it down their throats if I had to and I think I did...to my sorrow today...no wisdom at all...just a bully trying to make them live for God...thing is they wanted to learn they loved God ...their instinct, that I encouraged (or demanded) was to do the right thing in all things... instead of guiding or even pushing a little I shoved and made them fall and made it harder on them to see Truth and God inside their lives...I made is so hard, really made it so much harder for them than it should have been...
God has given us all a gift...the gift of choice...to obey Him or not...We as parents have no right to take that gift from our children. God wants us to choose for ourselves, whether to serve and love Him in obedience or not to serve. God wants us and our children to learn the way by hearing His voice and obeying His command and His Word so we can all fit into His plan according to His purpose
Give encouragement instead of words that cause defeat....Guidance and love along with practiced grace and mercy...we as parents need to TEACH them in the way they should go, to sit still and wait on the Lord in Peace, to worship in the Spirit of Truth knowing that God would never hurt us or forsake us, that we are not victims in any situation we are victorious in all things through Christ who strengthens us
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Help us Lord to teach and show unconditional love no matter where our children land up...not enabling love...unconditional love...that when the time is right they will lead by example themselves
My husband and I have his son with us, we have sole custody,( his mom abandoned him when he was 4 and came back into his life after 5 years in jail 2 years ago...I welcome her because she is his mom and always will be, she is flakey though (told my husband she wants another child and could he donate his sperm because she knows they make "pretty" babies, that is an example of what I'm talking about! makes it easier to accept her in Jr's life what is there to be jealous of????)..bless her heart.....he is 16 and Lord have mercy!.my husband and I see her flakiness in him all the time!!!!!..his mom is a non believer and she is his worse enemy...Satan uses her mouth for evil her mind to deliver confusion and her encouragement to commit sin...her name is Jackie and she is so lost...sometimes I can not even speak to my step son because his ideas are simply "crazy"...others see it too, his aunts and uncles have tried to speak to him, they just shake their heads at his thoughts......so I "try" (key word) to keep silent and am trying to lead by example..it is very difficult to say the least. My husband just left our church to go back to one we fellowshiped with for two years..it is farther away but they went back last week while I stay home with my mother in law...we already see a difference...Pray for his mom who thinks that we are too strict and he doesn't need a curfew...she texted me last night by mistake saying this and making fun of his dad for giving him a curfew at 16 almost 17 in august......God always reveals her heart to us and her malice...
I am standing on the promises for my "bonus" son...claiming him as mine and giving him back to God to lead and direct...continue to pray for his soul and that God continues to shine in his mind and heart...in Jesus name...His name is Jerry Jr...
God bless and be a blessing to your children...
.My son and my grand daughter...Joshua Adam and Kylie Grace bless them Lord in Jesus name
First of all, just to let you know...all my children serve God with a righteous heart in obedience to His word....thank You Jesus..they were brought up Pentecostal and lived a life dedication. A life that was my walk, a walk based on how I was taught and what I recognized as Truth....in my young stage of being a christian, I myself did not know God back then I knew of Him and I thought I was teaching my kids right way (that's the biggest deception of all).....we went to church three times a week and every revival, they went to bible camp every summer and we were very involved in the youth group, choir, Sunday school ect..we lived the life of a "christian" ....
In fact I was a leader in the church, I was a leader of the youth group, the teen sunday school teacher..in the choir after all people came to me to pray and fast for them.....I thought I was all that and more...lol...(how God must look at us and just shake his head and chuckle) I had no malice in my heart I was living a life of good (I thought)..we had lots of fun and good times...but I don't think I ever taught my children who is IS, to really KNOW God and his power, about His grace about HIs mercy...about unconditional love..I think, and know for sure now, that I taught them to know ABOUT Him and to know OF Him..I told them the stories of the bible and not the meaning of the stories.....and thank God I did at least that!
My "wisdom" filled conclusion today of all my mistakes is......that is really all we can do......God is the only one who can reveal Himself to each and every one of us in a personal way...He comes and introduces Himself and we decide if we want Him as our friend, our master, our teacher in life and our Mentor....we all have to get to KNOW Him on our own....what the job of the parent is, is giving their child the right tools to learn with...
Kids usually don't want to read the bible, and their are many exceptions I am sure..but over all, being involved in a church is one of the most important tools...fellowship with believers..hearing from someone else the likes and dislikes of God...I could say the same thing as you word for word and I guarantee my kids listened to you and didn't even hear what I said..Are kids in the church "saints with no sin" NO but our children hanging out with even messed up kids in the church is better than hanging out with people who do not know God at all..they also have the prayers of the people and pastor to cover them with hope and protection.
When I think of the youth group..some of our kids were crazy and worldly (some made it some didn't sorry to say) but when temptation came there was always someone to say no to mischief because of God being in the midst...did they sin? Yup..a couple of times I was distraught with fear their parents would blame me...But God came through again...we can not take the blame for the actions that our children rebel in. We can guide and lead by example.
We should lead by example and encouragement along with respect. It is sometimes hard to respect our children's feelings especially in the teen years! How soon we forget who we were at that age. Oh lord what a memory for me! Yikes!!!!!, thank God He changed the way I use to think...as parents we want the best for our children...I know I was obsessed with getting my kids to heaven I was gonna shove it down their throats if I had to and I think I did...to my sorrow today...no wisdom at all...just a bully trying to make them live for God...thing is they wanted to learn they loved God ...their instinct, that I encouraged (or demanded) was to do the right thing in all things... instead of guiding or even pushing a little I shoved and made them fall and made it harder on them to see Truth and God inside their lives...I made is so hard, really made it so much harder for them than it should have been...
God has given us all a gift...the gift of choice...to obey Him or not...We as parents have no right to take that gift from our children. God wants us to choose for ourselves, whether to serve and love Him in obedience or not to serve. God wants us and our children to learn the way by hearing His voice and obeying His command and His Word so we can all fit into His plan according to His purpose
Give encouragement instead of words that cause defeat....Guidance and love along with practiced grace and mercy...we as parents need to TEACH them in the way they should go, to sit still and wait on the Lord in Peace, to worship in the Spirit of Truth knowing that God would never hurt us or forsake us, that we are not victims in any situation we are victorious in all things through Christ who strengthens us
.
Help us Lord to teach and show unconditional love no matter where our children land up...not enabling love...unconditional love...that when the time is right they will lead by example themselves
My husband and I have his son with us, we have sole custody,( his mom abandoned him when he was 4 and came back into his life after 5 years in jail 2 years ago...I welcome her because she is his mom and always will be, she is flakey though (told my husband she wants another child and could he donate his sperm because she knows they make "pretty" babies, that is an example of what I'm talking about! makes it easier to accept her in Jr's life what is there to be jealous of????)..bless her heart.....he is 16 and Lord have mercy!.my husband and I see her flakiness in him all the time!!!!!..his mom is a non believer and she is his worse enemy...Satan uses her mouth for evil her mind to deliver confusion and her encouragement to commit sin...her name is Jackie and she is so lost...sometimes I can not even speak to my step son because his ideas are simply "crazy"...others see it too, his aunts and uncles have tried to speak to him, they just shake their heads at his thoughts......so I "try" (key word) to keep silent and am trying to lead by example..it is very difficult to say the least. My husband just left our church to go back to one we fellowshiped with for two years..it is farther away but they went back last week while I stay home with my mother in law...we already see a difference...Pray for his mom who thinks that we are too strict and he doesn't need a curfew...she texted me last night by mistake saying this and making fun of his dad for giving him a curfew at 16 almost 17 in august......God always reveals her heart to us and her malice...
I am standing on the promises for my "bonus" son...claiming him as mine and giving him back to God to lead and direct...continue to pray for his soul and that God continues to shine in his mind and heart...in Jesus name...His name is Jerry Jr...
God bless and be a blessing to your children...
.My son and my grand daughter...Joshua Adam and Kylie Grace bless them Lord in Jesus name
