Call For Fasting 3

Hello every one as we start this fast I felt lead to share some verses on fasting.

Matthew 6: 16-18 And when you fast, do not look gloomy like the hypocrites, for they disfigure their faces that their fasting may be seen by others. Truly, I say to you, they have received their reward. But when you fast, anoint your head and wash your face, that your fasting may not be seen by others but by your Father who is in secret. And your Father who sees in secret will reward you.

Isiah 58:6 “Is not this the fast that I choose: to loose the bonds of wickedness, to undo the straps of the yoke, to let the oppressed go free, and to break every yoke?

Be strong during this fast, the enemy knows how powerful fasting is and will try to stop you by putting thoughts in your head of reasons to stop. Surround yourself in Gods presents with music and reading His word. Speak to God continuously He will answer. There is so much power in fasting it will change you God will give you an encounter with Him. Seek His answers and be sure you pray for others not just your self.

Job 42:10 - And the LORD turned the captivity of Job, when he prayed for his friends: also the LORD gave Job twice as much as he had before.

Marriages to pray for

Aju & Karen Ruth
Dan & Susan
Jacob and Lisa
Ray & Heather
Scott & Angie
BJ & Theresa
Dearlise & John
Allison & Shimon
Greg & Brandy
John & Marie
Scott & Crystal
Gary & Casandra Roberts
Tab & Span
Tamra & Teron Roberts

My excitement of what God is going to do is so high right now. I can't wait to see the testimonies. Be strong and remember we have all authority over the enemy make sure you let the enemy know that you know that.

God bless

 

[scott123]

This was emailed to me today and I felt the need to share it

1. You must realise that Satan has launched an attack on your marriage. This is a spiritual war against your marriage and against Gods institution (marriage). Compare your spouse now, with the one a few years ago. Can you see it is not the same one. Reason : Satan has taken her captive. Satan will use bitterness in your spouse and you neglecting your spouse, or you not handle him or her correctly as a weapon to justify your spouse's affair and other actions. It is very important that you must realise this, because you cannot fight this if you don't know who the enemy is.

2. You can not change the thoughts of your spouse. Zip the lips!!!! Believe me nothing you said to your spouse will change her idea to get divorced. This is a spiritual war, not one in flesh. No emotional email about the kids, no pictures of you together, nothing will have an influence. To tell the truth it will just make your case worse. You must stop your messages to your spouse about the the other person. Just general messages to talk about the arrangement of kids. Listen to me STOP the messages.

3. God wants to change you. There is a reason why you have made the choice to stand. The reason is the Holy Spirit gave you that urge to stand. God wants to use you. Congratulations. God has chosen you. But now God wants to change you. That means you must surrender 100% to Him. Give Him the chance to work on you. Where do you start? Luke 11 verse 13. That is your starting point. He who asks for the "guidance" of the Holy Spirit will receive it. Ask it! There are so many things you must learn. You must learn what Jesus unconditional love means. You must learn how to love your spouse unconditionaly. You must learn about forgiveness etc. Only the Holy Spirit can learn you that.just remember God's learning process is in His time frame and not yours. Surrender today and starts this very exciting, though painfull, journey.

4. You also have guilt. Do you really believe your spouse is this bad person and you are the angel. Do you really think a wife or husband just go and seek another person. NO!! You are at least 50% to blame aswell. What the reasons are you will have to clear with the Holy Spirit. Ask Him to show you what you did wrong and start working on that.

5. Selfcentred. Make sure you ask the Holy Spirit to show you where you have been selfcentred. I am very guilty of this and I MUST change. It is a very bad characteristic. You can plea to God to change that. He will.

6. Start a spiritual war. If you have already realise that your situation is a spiritual war, you are halfway there. Now you must start the war. Make sure you understand what is means. First you must surrender 100% to Gods will. You must be prepared to become a student of the bible. Read as much as you can. Do It with a pen and see what messages and lessons there are for you. You must realise that God hates divorce. It is against His will. Then make a study of 1 john 5 vers 14 and 15. Now you will know you fight. Its Gods battle and that He will support you. Become a prayer warrior. Make sure when you pray that you are very quite and open for Gods voice. Satan is NOTHING compare to God. Let God use you in this battle.

7. Fear of what is going on with your spouse and bitterness about her actions are Satans way to distract you from your mission. Stop watching the phone bills, emails,-banned site- etc. Stop seeking..... It is Satan ideas. Nobody wants to come back to a spouse full of bitterness. You are God warrior!!! Don't be affraid.

8. Don't kill your supporters. Remember they love you and wants to support you, but this is going to be a long battle. Don't make them tired.

9. Divorce is not the end. To tell the truth it can be the beginning. No man (judge) can divide what God has put together. Don't be scared of divorce. Don't stop your battle at divorce.

10. Prepare to give all the glory to God. Make sure you realise all Gods promises. You will only get it if you become a student of the bible and a student of Gods will in your life. God WILL stand on HIS promises. Your marriage will be healed. You have to trust His way and His timing. When it happens makes sure you don't take the glory. Your stand was only by grace. It was God that kept you standing. Make sure to give God all the glory.

 

[allibear86]

Thanks for sharing Scott

 

[Mariposa101]

Hello, dear friends.



It's been a while since I posted, because I've been so confused and hurt. I apologize if this post is a jumble of thoughts, but so much has happened lately and I don't know where to begin.



I'll start with a confession: I let my emotions consume me lately, and I've tried to shut certain things out. I've been trying to forget. Over recent weeks, I've been making lots of new friends, I've been going out a lot, I've been traveling, attending events, and partying... I've hoped that all this "fun" would make me feel better about things & help me forget the pain (and keep my mind off my husband), but in the end I just feel worse. I keep asking God to remove him from my heart & take him out of my thoughts, but it won't go away. I've been feeling more empty and lonelier than ever.



I haven't been spending the time I should be talking to God or praying. I've allowed myself to be distracted and pulled off my path. I've been surrounded by temptations but always feel heavy-hearted and convicted. There have been other men who have tried to get close to me, but I get defensive and frightened. I'll admit that there were at least two who sparked my interest in having a relationship with, but nothing ever became of it. Something keeps telling me to pull away.



My husband is now introducing the OW to his parents & family. His mother and niece came down from Missouri last weekend and took "family pictures" with the OW and her kids. They are planning on visiting the rest of his family out of state soon. They are going public as a "happy couple." It seems his friends & family are encouraging his new relationship, while he and I still haven't spoken to each other in almost 3 months. No contact & not a word. No emails, no phone calls, no text messages. Nothing. I don't think I'm supposed to reach out and say anything to him, but it looks like he doesn't want to reach out to me either. It's like I don't exist to him anymore.



It got to the point where I couldn't bear living alone. One of my close girlfriends was looking for a roommate, so I've asked her to come stay with me for a while as my roommate. It feels good to have a companion in the form of a "sister." I don't know what my husband's living "situation" is with the OW, but he has a long lease with his current apartment. There's still a hope inside of me that if my husband ever did want to come back, we could somehow make the situation work. I'm struggling financially, so I've considered pawning/selling my engagement/wedding ring along with some other jewelry and gifts he's given me over the years. I keep thinking about putting these items up on eBay or Craigslist, but I haven't been able to do it yet.



I attempted and failed on two fasts. Honestly, I had a "screw it, nothing's changed so why make anymore sacrifices" mentality, so I gave up. Deep down, I feel like I should keep praying for my husband, but then the unforgiveness and spite keep me from doing so. Seeing him with the OW and hearing about them has made me bitter, angry, and jealous.



I've gotten sick a few times. Perhaps my body and spirit are telling me to slow down and be more still. My mother called me the other day, and patronized me. I got defensive and snapped at her, but her words echo heavy on my heart now. She said, "maybe you haven't been praying lately..." and "too much fun is no good." She even made me feel ashamed by accusing me of getting too much attention from men. She also told me I was "out of control." I can't shake that conversation.



...Writing all my thoughts out like this makes me sound like such a wretched & rebellious woman. Sorry if I'm all over the place, I just can't seem to focus. I feel lost.

 

[raven28690]

Good to see you back Mari.

Your all over the place because you have so many emotions going on within you at the same time and it sounds like your in the same state emotionally as a lot of us are so by no means is it just you. Your not wretched nor are you really rebellious. Your hurt and your human the way we all are.

The thoughts of having your spouse betray you with another person is a hard thing to just shake off.

You go from having them there all the time to being by yourself and its not a good feeling. This is the person who vowed to always be there and now there not so yes it is very hard to deal with.

I said the heck with my wife and tried moving on myself but when things looked like they were getting serious with other girls, I bailed like the room was on fire. And then as you mentioned, the ones I thought I would like to pursue something with nothing ever came of it.



I would love nothing more than to be able to tell you or any of the rest of the members here, Hey I got the answer to instantly solve what your going thru right now but I don't because Im all over the place here lately myself however the one answer I do have though is you keep praying though regardless of whats going on with your spouse. Satan would love nothing more than to see all of our situations cause us to fall from God.

 

[Walkwithgod]

I'm sorry Mariposa about what you are going through. I couldn't take the pain of feeling abandoned and joined a social networking site not dating site and found comfort in other men. I was really only hoping to talk to them as friends, not really sure why I did it but soo many men were complimenting me, wanting to talk to me. Men from Russia, US, etc. It helped to take my mind off of my husband and one guy said he wanted to hang out in my area. I told him I was just looking for friends. This was only day two and I started to develop an attraction for him. We weren't talking about inappropriate things just life in general and it felt good to have someone care and listen. I told my husband and he was not happy. He asked me if I had an attraction to him and i told him yes. Yesterday we got into a fight because I went over to his place and he gave me sunglasses and I honestly do not remember them being mine. I just sat there staring trying to remember, I did not accuse him and he got extremely mad at me. We got back into the car and he backed out really fast with the kids in the car, cursing like a sailor and then driving back he talked to himself in 3rd person, calling himself "S you are so stupid, S I told you she would accuse you, S this is what you will go through your whole life, S your life is pathetic, I told him to stop cursing in front of the kids...it was very scary. We got back to my parents house and he dropped us off and left. I came onto this site and posted a prayer request then the doorbell rang and it was my husband. He apologized and said he thought about how I told him I had trust issues when we argue and we separate and not talk to each other and also about me possibly talking to the guy so he had to come back and show me that he wasn't that same guy. I don't know what happened but it was just really weird and very scary. I hope and pray I can remember where those sunglasses are from.

 

[allibear86]

I am feeling a little down today. I just want to know if it is really God's plan to bring my husband back and heal my marriage. What if this whole time this wasnt even His plan for me? What if He just wants me to be the one to pray for my husband but not my marriage? I just really want to know. I'm so confused and lost right now. And to make things worse i'm getting closer to a guy that i have been talking to. I just dont know anymore. Can God heal my marriage? Of course He CAN. But WILL He? Is that His plan? I'm so lost. I really need some one to talk to...

If you guys could just inbox me that would be great. I might even need to talk on the phone with some one. I dont care who. Just some one... :-(

 

[Mariposa101]

You took the words right out of my mouth, Alli...

We know that God is able, but is it also in His Will? It aches not being able to know. It's difficult to be still when it hurts so much. I need guidance & direction, and I can't seem to find it.

 

[raven28690]

Cannot speak for anyone except myself but I guess for me I was hopeing to have saw something to have given me hope for my marriage however its done nothing but gotten worse. Mine is at the same point as yours Mari whereas they have went very public and met each others family.

And yea, I have wandered the exact same questions both of you are asking. Is it His Will to restore these marriages? I don't know and yes its no fun not really knowing.

It would be wonderful to have God let us know what to do as far as waiting on these marriages or going on. Seems the biggest part of us are lost atm.

Know for me I feel like I'm on a one way dead end street.

 

[scott123]

Alli you ask ifn God can heal your marriage? Well can God raise the dead, can God change someone's heart suddenly? Yes there is nothing impossible for God not one thing is impossible, we are all lonely however some of us are still married and even talking to someone else with intentions of it getting more serious is a sin. Remember what Jesus said just about thinking about adultery. I know this is hard its been one year and three months for me but God is in control and it is his will to save marriages do a bible study on marriage and see what God feels about it.

 

[scott123]

There are many things I read where people said the same thing. A couple of them are from RMM ministries and they all say the same thing. If you think its not Gods will for your marriage to be restored then you need to take time and get to know God. His word is all about restoration. And second He hates divorce He will not go against His own word. I assure you it is His will to restore you to your one flesh covenant spouse. Trust me I sat and thought about this yesterday when my wife moved over one thousand miles away with the other man leaving her children with me. If we are getting angry at our spouses then we need to have a talk with God because my wife would never leave her children ever. She is consumed with lies and thinks she is doing the best thing. The enemy has her fooled, but the best part of this is Godnis stronger than the enemy. And when WE are ready God will restore your marriage, He is waiting on us, teaching us to lean on Him listen to Him. Think about this while your praying for God to restore your marriage He is saying OK I will but only after you and I are connected again , God wants you loom to Him and then you will see His will for your marriage!