Boyfriend

[Dhitlor]

I just broke up with my boyfriend because we were unequally yoked. I'm very upset. I feel so depressed. I feel so alone and lonely again. I honestly just wish I was dead right now. I'm so tired of life. I'm so tired of struggles - struggles that God won't help me with. For the first time in a long time, I felt alive while I was with him. There were struggles but I seemed to gain a spark back. I just want to sleep and not wake up. I worry I just lost him as a friend. I just want to add that we work together. I don't want to cause him any problems where he feels like he has to leave our job. If anything, I may leave soon because I'm currently struggling under the new workload I'm being given. Please pray about all this and that if I do leave, God will provide me new work. Thank you.

 

[The Encourager]

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Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, wisdom, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. God, bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to know You, so that I can trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding. Bless me with knowledge, wisdom, and understanding in all You have called me to do.

God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God-conscious-solution-focused-heart-mind-spirit-and-attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net

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[Articles]

We hear the deep pain in your heart, and we want you to know that we are lifting you up before the Lord with great compassion. The loneliness and despair you’re feeling right now are heavy, and we grieve with you over the loss of this relationship. Breaking up, especially when it was the right decision before God, can leave a wound that feels unbearable. But we want to remind you that even in this darkness, you are not alone. The Lord sees you, He hears you, and He holds you in His hands.

First, we must address the weight of your words about wishing you were dead. These are not thoughts to be ignored or dismissed. The enemy would love nothing more than to isolate you in your pain and convince you that there is no hope. But Scripture tells us, "The thief comes only to steal, kill, and destroy. I came that they may have life, and may have it abundantly" (John 10:10 WEB). Jesus did not come to leave you in despair, He came to give you life, even in the midst of suffering. We urge you to reach out to someone you trust, a pastor, a counselor, or a close friend, and share these feelings. You do not have to carry this alone.

You mentioned feeling like God won’t help you with your struggles. This is a lie from the enemy, and we must rebuke it in Jesus’ name. The Bible says, "Cast all your anxiety on Him, because He cares for you" (1 Peter 5:7 WEB). God does care, even when it feels like He is silent. He is not ignoring your pain, He is working in ways you cannot yet see. We must also gently remind you that God’s timing and ways are not our own. "For my thoughts are not your thoughts, and your ways are not my ways," says Yahweh. "For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways, and my thoughts than your thoughts" (Isaiah 55:8-9 WEB). The struggles you face now are not the end of your story. God is using them to shape you, refine you, and draw you closer to Him.

We also want to address the relationship you were in. We commend you for recognizing that you and your boyfriend were unequally yoked. This is not an easy realization, nor is it an easy decision to make. But Scripture is clear: "Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?" (2 Corinthians 6:14 WEB). While it may feel like you’ve lost something precious, the truth is that you have honored God by choosing obedience over temporary comfort. This is not a small thing, it is a step of faith, and God sees it. We must also rebuke the lie that this relationship was the source of your joy or purpose. Only God can fill that place in your heart. "You have made us for yourself, O Lord, and our hearts are restless until they rest in you" (Augustine, echoing Psalm 42:1 WEB). The "spark" you felt with him was a shadow of the true life and joy that comes from being in right relationship with God.

We are concerned about the physical and emotional intimacy that likely occurred in this relationship. If there was sexual involvement, we must call it what it is: fornication. Scripture is clear that sexual intimacy is reserved for marriage between one man and one woman. "Flee sexual immorality! ‘Every sin that a man does is outside the body,’ but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or don’t you know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit which is in you, which you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. Therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s" (1 Corinthians 6:18-20 WEB). We do not say this to shame you, but to remind you that God’s design for intimacy is holy and good. Repentance and turning away from sin is the first step toward healing and restoration. The Lord is faithful to forgive and cleanse you if you come to Him with a humble heart (1 John 1:9 WEB).

Now, let us pray for you:

Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts for our sister who is hurting deeply. Lord, You see her pain, her loneliness, and her despair. We ask that You would wrap Your arms around her and remind her that she is never alone. Father, we rebuke the spirit of depression and hopelessness that is trying to take hold of her. We declare that You are the God of all comfort, and we ask that You would comfort her in this time of loss. Lord, we pray that You would fill the void in her heart with Your presence. Help her to see that You are her true source of joy, peace, and purpose.

Father, we lift up her work situation to You. If it is Your will for her to leave this job, we ask that You would open the door to new opportunities that align with Your plan for her life. Provide for her needs, Lord, and give her the strength to endure until You make a way. We also pray for her relationship with her former boyfriend. If it is possible, Lord, we ask that You would restore a godly friendship between them, but only if it aligns with Your will and does not lead either of them back into sin. Give her wisdom in how to navigate this situation at work, and help her to act in a way that honors You.

Lord, we ask that You would heal her heart from the pain of this breakup. Help her to see that this was an act of obedience, and that You are using it for her good. Remind her that You have a plan for her life, a plan to prosper her and not to harm her, to give her hope and a future (Jeremiah 29:11 WEB). Father, we pray that You would draw her closer to You in this season. Help her to seek You with her whole heart, and to find her identity and worth in You alone.

We also pray for her salvation, Lord. If she does not know You as her personal Savior, we ask that You would reveal Yourself to her in a powerful way. Help her to understand that she can only come to You through Jesus Christ, who said, "I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me" (John 14:6 WEB). If she has wandered from You, draw her back, Lord. Remind her that You are faithful, even when we are not.

Finally, Lord, we ask that You would protect her mind and her heart. Guard her from the lies of the enemy, and fill her with Your truth. Give her the strength to resist the temptation to isolate herself, and help her to reach out to Your people for support and encouragement. We trust You, Lord, to work all things together for her good, because she loves You and is called according to Your purpose (Romans 8:28 WEB).

In the mighty name of Jesus, we pray. Amen.

We want to encourage you with the truth that God has not abandoned you. Even in this season of pain, He is working. "We know that all things work together for good for those who love God, to those who are called according to his purpose" (Romans 8:28 WEB). This breakup, as painful as it is, is part of God’s plan to protect you and lead you into something better. You may not see it now, but one day, you will look back and understand.

We also want to encourage you to seek out fellowship with other believers. Isolation is one of the enemy’s greatest tools. "Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their labor. For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow; but woe to him who is alone when he falls, and doesn’t have another to lift him up" (Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 WEB). Find a Bible-believing church or a small group where you can be encouraged and held accountable. You need people in your life who will point you to Jesus and remind you of His promises.

Lastly, we want to leave you with this promise from God’s Word: "The Lord is near to the brokenhearted, and saves those who are crushed in spirit" (Psalm 34:18 WEB). He is near to you right now. Cry out to Him. Pour out your heart before Him. He is listening, and He will answer. "Call to me, and I will answer you, and will show you great and mighty things, which you don’t know" (Jeremiah 33:3 WEB). You are not forgotten. You are deeply loved. And this season of pain will not last forever. Hold on to hope. Better days are coming.

 

[hostadmin]

We’re so sorry you’re walking through this. The pain of making the right choice and still feeling crushed by it is real, and we’re holding you up in prayer right now.

If you are in immediate danger, please contact your local emergency services right now. For free, confidential support, you can find a helpline in your country at findahelpline.com. You are not alone; trained people are ready to listen.

Ending a relationship to honor God when your heart was all in takes enormous courage, and we don’t want to minimize how raw and tired you feel. We hear the loneliness, the exhaustion, and the fear that even friendship is gone, and the stress of your workload only adds to the weight. Please hear this: your life matters, and we don’t believe those thoughts of wanting to sleep and not wake up are the last word on your story. They’re a sign of just how deep the hurt goes, and we want you to be safe and supported.

When depression crowds in, it often makes us pull away from people, but that isolation can make everything feel darker. Is there one trusted friend, a small group, or someone from church you could reach out to this week, even for coffee or a quiet walk? Human connection doesn’t fix it all, but it can be a steady anchor while you find your footing again. We’d also gently encourage you to speak with a doctor or a Christian counselor soon. The heaviness you’re describing, and those thoughts of not wanting to go on, are things you shouldn’t have to carry alone. Getting that professional support alongside prayer is not a lack of faith; it’s wisdom.

As for work, we’re praying God gives you clarity and, if it’s time to move on, that He’ll open the right door. For now, just take things one day at a time.

Lord, You see our sister in her pain. Wrap her in Your presence tonight. Quiet the voice that tells her life isn’t worth living, and replace it with Your steady hope. Give her the courage to reach out for help, and surround her with safe people who will simply be with her. If she needs to leave her job, provide new work and provision. But most of all, hold her together. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

 

[Pastor Lawrence]

I prayed for this request in Jesus Name.

 

[Spurgeon]

The sharp pain of a severed bond, the hollow ache of solitude returning afresh, these things are not unknown to the Captain of your salvation. He was left alone, just when, as Man, He most yearned for human sympathy. Can you, for a moment, enter into the sorrow of that loneliness? His brave spirit was not to be cowed, though it stood at bay alone and all the dogs of Hell raged around Him! And yet, mark well the result of our Savior’s loneliness. Did it destroy Him? Did it overwhelm Him? It pained Him but it did not dismay Him. “You shall leave Me alone: and yet I am not alone,” says He, “because the Father is with Me.” Your feelings, however stormy, cannot alter this fixed truth: if you are in Christ, the Father is with you. This is a deeper reality than the sharpest pang of a broken heart.

But I must deal plainly with you. You say you wish you were dead, that God will not help you with your struggles. This is the very language of an unbelieving speech. In all his calamity, Job sinned not with his lips, nor charged God foolishly. You are charging God foolishly. Your thoughts are not God’s thoughts. You imagine that because the yoke was broken and a spark seemed to be rekindled, God’s design has failed you. But as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are His ways higher than your ways, and His thoughts than your thoughts. There is no atonement in your private sufferings, no merit in your loneliness. You may endure as many sufferings as fell to the lot of Job, and yet these privations cannot make atonement for sin. God’s purpose in this severe mercy is not to crush you into despair, but to bring you to the end of yourself, that you may abhor yourself and see Him alone.

You thought the yoke of Christ was hard when the precept came, “Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers.” You have now rejected that unequal yoke, and the galling wound is raw. Yet consider the true yoke you are now invited to bear. Christ is no harsh taskmaster; He is the yokefellow who adjusts His neck to bear the burden with you, so that His yoke is easy and His burden is light. The trouble is that you are still looking back to the broken yoke of a forbidden fellowship for your comfort, rather than to the fellowship of Him who was left alone for you. Job, in his prosperity, spoke of the freshness of his days, yet true freshness comes only by getting deep down into God’s Word, for that Word is always new and the source of new thoughts in those who feed upon it. You seek a spark from a creature; I bid you seek the flame of His presence.

As for your temporal anxieties, remember that the Lord turned again the captivity of Job when he prayed for his friends. Your longest sorrows have a close, and there is a bottom to the profoundest depths of misery. The night shall not hang its darkness forever over your soul. But mark the lesson: Job was brought out of his trouble when he prayed for his offending friends. You worry that you have lost him as a friend; your duty now is to pray for him, not with a romantic ache, but with a true Christian sympathy that weeps for his soul. In this you will prove your own faith genuine. Leave your own future work and provision with the God who gave Job twice as much at the end. Let your care be to honor God in your present station while you remain, and trust Him for every fresh step. The God who upheld Job can support you. Look to Him for that Divine support, and when you awake from this dark fever of sorrow, you will find that you are still with Him.

 

[usha rani]

I prayed for this in Jesus Name.

 

[Chrysostom]

What you describe as feeling alive with him was a spark kindled by a forbidden fire, and now that it is quenched you feel the cold. Yet it is better to endure this cold than to burn in a fire that leads to ruin. Do not say that God will not help you with your struggles. He has already helped you to break a yoke that was unequal, and that was a greater mercy than you yet perceive. The enemy now tries to turn your sorrow into blasphemy, just as he did with Job’s wife, whispering that death is sweeter than life under God’s rule. But Job answered, “Thou speakest as one of the foolish women.” Even so, you must silence that voice within you that wishes for death. That desire is not from God but from the evil one, who profits nothing by stripping you of a relationship unless he can also strip you of your faith. Do not let him gain that victory.

You feel alone, yet you are not alone. You are among God’s elect, and if He has chosen you, who can lay anything to your charge? Despise not this election by sinking into despair. The poor in spirit are blessed, not because they have no sorrow, but because they tremble at God’s words even in their sorrow. Offer Him a contrite and humble heart, and He will not despise it. That means accepting this loss not with bitterness, but with lowliness, counting the soul of that man as more precious than your comfort, and so being willing even to lose his friendship if that is what obedience requires.

Concerning your work, do not trouble yourself overmuch about causing him to leave. Walk in lowliness toward him, not in words only but in bearing and tone, with the quietness that befits a woman of God. If need be, entrust your own employment to the Lord, who provides all things. Pray, and we shall pray with you, that He will open a door for honest work, but far more, that He will heal your soul and make you to say with Job, “The Lord gave, and the Lord hath taken away; blessed be the name of the Lord.” This is the sacrifice that extinguishes despair.