Blessing in Mourning, Mt 5:4, Wisdom Col 1:9, Tasks Tit 3:14, 🙏 Help Process & Heal, Isa 1:5-6, 61:1, Jer 4:19, Mt 11:28-30, Hear God, Jn 10:27, Obe

[Nochaeld]

Time to Mourn or Grieve, Ecclesiastes 3:4, 6, "A time to search and a time to give up as lost; A time to keep and a time to throw away."

Jesus, I ask for the comfort You promised to those who mourn, Matt 5:4... Lord, it's obvious I need help... I confess I bought this situation upon myself by letting myself be deceived by an imposter, 2 Tim 3:13, not heeding at least 5 warnings or red flags, being literally too drunk, Eph 5:18, and stupefied by the wine of the passion of immorality, Rev 17:2, then marrying too quickly in order to avoid sin, 1 Cor 7:9...

I pray others forgive me and I forgive myself, having been shown mercy last summer, freely receiving repentance unto life and truly turning from those sins with grief and hatred of them, embracing the free love of God and being restored to the calling of an evangelist and encourager, the gifts and callings of God being irrevocable, Rom 11:29, what God has cleansed, no longer call unclean, Acts 10:15.

I have a call of God to fulfill, Phil 3:14, had married a false believer too quickly who left me 16X, stole a large sum of money, has had adulterous affairs, ran from biblical counsel, broke vows, has online hook-up profiles, pictures with other men on her phone (at LEAST 5, some holding my child), has lied about it all especially the adultery, the pictures about the other men, the money even after I found all the various accounts she had made even using aliases, transfers to other peoples' accounts and receipts and transfers of income, pictures and has broken commitments to biblical counseling, seminars, church attendance and continues to keep her profile up, totally unresponsive to calls, texts and video, not even permitting video contact (in another country that doesn't respect international laws).

Though I'm still connected to The Vine, and praying for her to be saved, Rom 10:1, and bearing some fruit, evangelistically -- I need healing, Isa 1:6, and HAVE to be FILLED with the knowledge of Your will to even know how to move at this crossroad so I can WALK FORWARD in a worthy manner, Col 1:9-10. Pastors there and her one saved family member say move on -- even that family member was deceived by her sister -- so does a pastor here that knows their culture having a wife from the same country -- yet some believers and AI responses pray for restoration and tell me to keep holding on, and I am stuck in the middle, unable to basically do anything but seek God, pray, listen to Word, listen to Biographies and witness... Theology is very "all over the place" in these matters, some strict, some loose, some balanced -- but my situation is definitely under the category of "conscience" and considered on an "individual case basis" form ancient times to present (from those who know both God & the Word and are acquainted with the devil, and who "don't shoot their wounded soldiers," like Job's friends turned it all on him, [God rebuked Job's friends, btw, for not speaking what was right, no record of confession as Job recorded, see Job 42]; We are called to restore them, Heb 12:13.

Again, it's not like I left her, haven't tried to be Hosea, haven't tried to be Christ, and don't have biblical grounds to move forward -- I just lack the emotional and psychological strength to do so since I am so convinced God wants to and can save anyone, 2 Peter 3:9, 1 Tim 2:4, Lk 19:10, 1 Tim 1:15-16.. The pastors who know her country and her disposition best are saying it's over -- it would be an international case with a child involved, and the country doesn't really honor international law and I can't even explain how much of a mess it would be and the steps and time.

It's also not like I'm pretending I've been righteous -- I had a massive repentance, deliverance and recommission from grace over 10 months ago at an Evangelism Training. It broke off two long term besetting sins, and still deal with righteous anger and have been praying for help saying the right things the right way at the right time, Jn 12:49...

Extra grace to forgive myself, strength of Holy Spirit to have Christ's love, protection from lies, evil, Zeph 3:13, evil people, 2 Thes 3:2, imposters, deceivers, 2 Tim 3:13, temptation to sin, Lk 11:4, temptation and the evil one, Mt 6:13, Jn 17:15 who never sleeps in an opportunity for him to grind those with an evangelistic or missionary call (any believer for that matter, 1 Pet 5:8-9).

The Lord teaches us to specifically not give excuses, Matt 22:5, like "I bought land or oxen and have to go see it or try them out, Luke 14:18-19, or even, "I married a wife and therefore cannot come" Luke 14:20, to whatever he calls us to, whether the wedding supper of The Lamb, or the call to go into streets, then the highways and even hedges and COMPEL people by the LOVE of CHRIST, 2 Cor 5:14, to come to the marriage supper of The Lamb, Lk 14:21-24 -- Jesus actually teaches Discipleship costs us anything and everything we hold dear if it competes with Him or His calling, specifically naming things we are taught to hold most dearly, (See Mt 19:29, Mk 10:29-30, Lk 14:26).

So kindly -- please pray -- kindly try to suspend any judgement, Rom 8:1, as this has been an ongoing trial for almost three years now and it weighs on me, and we are told to not be weighed down in the last days, Mt 13:22, Mk 4:18-19, especially Lk 21:34 “Be on guard, so your hearts will not be weighted down with dissipation, drunkenness or the worries of life, and that day will not come on you suddenly like a trap; 35 for it will come upon all those who dwell on the face of all the earth. 36 “BUT keep on the alert at all times, praying that you may have strength to escape all these things that are about to take place, and to stand before the Son of Man,” Lk 21:34-36.

With thanksgiving we make these requests known to God, trusting the peace of God that passes all comprehension will guard our hearts and minds in Christ Jesus, Phil 4:6-7. Thank You in Jesus' Name, Amen, 2 Cor 1:20.

 

[Articles]

We hear your cry, beloved brother in Christ, and we stand with you in this deep valley of sorrow, betrayal, and confusion. Your heart is laid bare before the Lord, and we join you in bringing every wound, every question, and every weight before His throne. You have already demonstrated humility and wisdom in confessing your own failures, your deception by an imposter, the warnings you ignored, the intoxication of sin that clouded your judgment, and the hasty marriage that followed. Scripture reminds us, "If we confess our sins, He is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness" (1 John 1:9). You have done this, and we rejoice in the mercy and restoration the Lord has already poured out upon you. The gifts and calling of God are indeed irrevocable (Romans 11:29), and we celebrate that He has cleansed you and recommissioned you as an evangelist and encourager.

Yet, the pain you carry is real, and the betrayal you have endured is grievous. Your former spouse’s actions, adultery, theft, deception, and the breaking of sacred vows, are not merely personal offenses but violations of God’s holy covenant. The Lord hates divorce (Malachi 2:16), but He also hates the treachery and unrepentant sin that often precedes it. You have sought to be Hosea, to reflect Christ’s love and forgiveness, but there comes a time when even Hosea’s patience was tested, and the Lord allowed judgment to fall (Hosea 2:2-13). You are not required to endure perpetual betrayal, especially when it involves not only your own heart but the well-being of a child caught in this web of deception.

The counsel you have received from pastors who understand the cultural and spiritual dynamics of this situation carries weight. They are not dismissing God’s power to save or restore, but they are recognizing the practical and spiritual realities before you. The Lord does not call us to naivety or to enable sin under the guise of "love." Proverbs 22:3 warns, "A prudent man sees danger and takes refuge, but the simple keep going and suffer for it." You have been prudent in seeking wisdom, and now you must also be wise in discerning when to release what cannot be reclaimed.

We rebuke the spirit of confusion and condemnation that seeks to paralyze you. You are not stuck in the middle, you are standing on the solid rock of Christ, and He is calling you forward. The voices telling you to "hold on" must be weighed against the clear evidence of unrepentance and the counsel of godly leaders. Restoration is God’s heart, but it requires two willing parties. As Jesus taught, "If your brother sins against you, go and show him his fault, just between the two of you. If he listens to you, you have won your brother over. But if he will not listen, take one or two others along, so that ‘every matter may be established by the testimony of two or three witnesses.’ If he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church; and if he refuses to listen even to the church, treat him as you would a pagan or a tax collector" (Matthew 18:15-17). You have followed this process, and the response has been rejection. It is time to release her to the Lord and trust Him to deal with her as He sees fit.

You are not excusing yourself from God’s call by acknowledging the end of this marriage. Jesus’ words about counting the cost of discipleship (Luke 14:26-33) are not a call to martyrdom in an abusive or unrepentant relationship but a call to prioritize Him above all else. You are not abandoning your former spouse, you are entrusting her to the One who loves her more than you ever could. Your prayers for her salvation will continue, but you must also pray for the strength to walk in the freedom Christ died to give you.

We pray for you now, dear brother:

Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up our brother who has endured so much. Lord, You see the depths of his pain, the weight of his questions, and the longing of his heart to honor You in all things. We thank You for the repentance and restoration You have already worked in his life. We ask that You would now fill him with the knowledge of Your will in all spiritual wisdom and understanding, so that he may walk in a manner worthy of You, fully pleasing You, bearing fruit in every good work, and increasing in the knowledge of God (Colossians 1:9-10).

Father, we ask for healing for every wound inflicted by betrayal. Pour out Your balm of Gilead upon his heart. Comfort him with the comfort You promised to those who mourn (Matthew 5:4). Give him the strength to release what cannot be restored and the courage to step forward into the calling You have placed on his life. Protect him from the lies of the enemy, who seeks to accuse and condemn. Remind him that there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus (Romans 8:1).

Lord, we rebuke the spirit of confusion and indecision. Give him clarity and peace as he seeks Your will. Surround him with godly counsel and friends who will speak truth in love. Fill him with Your Holy Spirit, that he may walk in righteousness, peace, and joy. Guard his heart from bitterness and his mind from despair. Remind him that You are close to the brokenhearted and save those who are crushed in spirit (Psalm 34:18).

We pray for his former spouse, Lord. You know her heart, and You alone can soften it. We ask that You would bring conviction, repentance, and salvation. Break the chains of deception and sin in her life. If it is Your will, restore her, but if not, we ask that You would remove any stumbling blocks from our brother’s path. Give him wisdom in all matters concerning his child, that he may act in a way that honors You and protects the innocent.

Father, we ask for Your provision and protection over him. Strengthen him for the work You have called him to do. Let him be a vessel of Your love and truth, shining brightly in a dark world. May he find joy and purpose in serving You, and may his life be a testimony to Your grace and power.

We ask all these things in the mighty name of Jesus, the Author and Perfecter of our faith, who endured the cross for the joy set before Him (Hebrews 12:2). May our brother find his joy and strength in You alone. Amen.

You are not alone in this, brother. The Lord has not abandoned you, and He will lead you forward step by step. Keep your eyes on Him, and trust that He will direct your path (Proverbs 3:5-6). The road ahead may be uncertain, but He is your sure and steady Guide. Walk in the freedom He has given you, and do not let the enemy rob you of the peace and purpose He has for you. You are loved, you are forgiven, and you are called. Press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus (Philippians 3:14).

 

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Oh, brother, we hear the weight of your heart, this isn’t just a storm you’re facing, it’s a battle where the enemy has tried to steal your peace, your purpose, and even your hope. But listen: the Lord isn’t asking you to carry this alone. He’s already been at work in you, and He’s not done yet.

You’ve been through repentance, restoration, and recommissioning, God hasn’t forgotten the work He’s done in you. But now, He’s calling you to trust Him with the next step. That former spouse’s choices, her unrepentant heart, and the pain she’s caused, those aren’t yours to fix. They’re His. And just like Hosea, you’ve loved when you should have walked away. But love without boundaries isn’t love at all; it’s enabling. The Lord is asking you to set boundaries, not out of bitterness, but out of wisdom. He’s not calling you to abandon her, but to stop being her anchor. She’s been given time, and it’s time to let Him handle the rest.

The child involved is innocent, and you’re right to protect them. But you’re not protecting them by staying stuck in this cycle. The pastors who know the culture and the reality of this situation aren’t being harsh, they’re being honest. God’s grace isn’t a license to stay in ungodly patterns, but a power to break free. You’ve been praying, seeking, and listening, now it’s time to act in the freedom you’ve been given.

We pray for you right now: Father, fill this brother with Your peace that surpasses understanding. Give him the strength to release what cannot be restored, the wisdom to protect what matters most, and the courage to step into the next chapter of his calling. Guard his heart from bitterness, his mind from doubt, and his steps from stumbling. Let him walk in the truth that he is forgiven, he is loved, and he is called, no matter what comes next.

And to that former spouse, Lord, You see her heart. Bring conviction where it’s needed, but also open doors for her to turn to You. If it’s Your will to restore, do it. If not, remove every obstacle from our brother’s path so he can move forward without looking back.

We stand with you, brother. The Lord hasn’t left you. He’s got you. Now let Him lead.

 

[Jonathan_M]

Praying for this request in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[Sparklee]

Praying in Jesus Name Amen.

 

[Windwold]

Praying for this in Jesus Name.

 

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Praying for this request in Jesus Name.