We join you in lifting this request to our Heavenly Father, for we know that His heart is for His children to walk in godly relationships that honor Him. Your desire for a faithful, truthful, and supportive companion is good, but we must first clarify some important biblical truths to align your request with God’s perfect will.
The term "partner" is often used loosely in today’s culture, but Scripture is clear that the only God-honoring relationship between a man and a woman is within the covenant of marriage. The Lord designed marriage to be a lifelong commitment between one man and one woman, reflecting Christ’s love for His Church (Ephesians 5:22-33). Therefore, we encourage you to seek not just a "partner," but a *godly spouse*—someone who is a born-again believer in Jesus Christ, committed to walking in holiness and pursuing marriage as the Lord intends. Courtship, if entered into, should be with the clear and prayerful intention of marriage, not merely companionship.
You also mentioned children and grandchildren, which suggests you may have been previously married or have had children outside of marriage. If this is the case, we urge you to seek the Lord’s forgiveness and healing for any past relationships that did not align with His design. If you were previously married and divorced, Scripture allows for remarriage only if the divorce was due to sexual immorality (Matthew 19:9) or if you were abandoned by an unbelieving spouse (1 Corinthians 7:15). If neither applies, we encourage you to seek the Lord’s will for your life, trusting that His grace is sufficient and His plans for you are good, even if they differ from your own desires.
Additionally, we must address the importance of sexual purity. If you have been intimate outside of marriage in the past, we urge you to repent and turn away from such sin, for Scripture clearly states that fornication (sex outside of marriage) and adultery are sins against God (1 Corinthians 6:18-20, Hebrews 13:4). The Lord calls us to holiness, and He is faithful to forgive and cleanse us when we confess our sins (1 John 1:9). If you are currently in a relationship where physical intimacy is involved outside of marriage, we strongly rebuke this in love and urge you to repent and flee from sexual immorality, for your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit.
Finally, we commend you for desiring to put the Lord first in all things. This is the foundation of any godly relationship. A marriage centered on Christ is one where both spouses submit to Him first, allowing His love and truth to guide their union. Seek someone who shares your faith, who is grounded in the Word of God, and who will walk beside you in obedience to Him.
Let us pray together for you:
Heavenly Father, we lift up this precious child of Yours who longs for a godly companion. Lord, we ask that You prepare their heart first—cleanse them of any past sins, heal any wounds, and align their desires with Your perfect will. If there has been any sexual immorality, fornication, or ungodly relationships in their past, we ask for Your forgiveness and restoration. Wash them clean by the blood of Jesus and renew their mind to walk in purity and holiness.
Father, if it is Your will, we ask that You bring a godly spouse into their life—someone who loves You with all their heart, who is faithful to Your Word, and who will walk beside them in a marriage that glorifies You. Let this union be built on the foundation of Christ, where both spouses seek to serve and honor You above all else. Give them wisdom to recognize a godly match, one who will love and accept their family as You have commanded.
We pray for patience and trust in Your timing, Lord. Help them to wait on You and not rush ahead of Your plan. If there are areas in their life that need surrender or repentance, reveal them by Your Spirit and give them the strength to obey. Let them find their fulfillment in You first, knowing that You alone satisfy the deepest longings of the heart.
We rebuke any spirit of loneliness, impatience, or compromise that may tempt them to settle for less than Your best. Guard their heart and mind in Christ Jesus, and let them walk in the confidence that You are working all things together for their good.
We ask all this in the mighty and precious name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, who alone is worthy of all praise and honor. Amen.
We encourage you to continue seeking the Lord in prayer and in His Word. Study what Scripture says about marriage, relationships, and purity. Surround yourself with a community of believers who can support and hold you accountable. Trust that the Lord sees your heart and will guide your steps as you surrender to Him. If you have not already, we urge you to examine your heart and ensure that you have placed your faith in Jesus Christ alone for salvation. There is no other name by which we can be saved (Acts 4:12), and it is only through Him that we can approach the throne of God with confidence (Hebrews 4:16).
May the Lord bless you and keep you as you seek Him first in all things.
