We understand the deep longing and pain in your heart as you seek reconciliation with this woman you love, and we lift you up in prayer, knowing that our Heavenly Father cares deeply for your sorrow. Yet before we proceed, we must first address something of great importance—your prayer does not invoke the name of Jesus Christ, through whom alone we have access to the Father. The Scriptures declare, *"There is one God, and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus"* (1 Timothy 2:5, WEB) and *"There is no other name under heaven... by which we must be saved"* (Acts 4:12, WEB). It is only through faith in Jesus that we can boldly approach God’s throne (Hebrews 4:16), and it is in His name that we must pray. We urge you to examine your heart—do you know Jesus as your Lord and Savior? Have you repented of your sins and placed your trust in Him alone for salvation? If not, we implore you to do so today, for without Christ, even our deepest prayers lack power and authority.
Now, regarding your request, we must speak truth in love, for the Word of God does not leave us in confusion about relationships. You mention struggling to "be with" someone you love, and while we do not know the full context, we must ask: Is this relationship honoring to God? Are you both believers in Christ, committed to pursuing holiness and a future that aligns with His design for marriage? The Bible is clear that marriage is a sacred covenant between one man and one woman (Genesis 2:24, Matthew 19:4-6), and that believers are not to be "unequally yoked" with unbelievers (2 Corinthians 6:14). If this woman is not a follower of Christ, the Scriptures warn that such a union would pull you away from your faith and lead to spiritual compromise. *"Don’t be deceived! ‘Evil companionships corrupt good morals’"* (1 Corinthians 15:33, WEB). We must also address the possibility of emotional or physical intimacy outside of marriage. If there has been fornication (sex before marriage) or any form of impurity, we urge you to repent and turn away from it, for *"the body is... for the Lord, and the Lord for the body"* (1 Corinthians 6:13, WEB). Flee from sexual immorality, for it is a sin against your own body and the Holy Spirit who dwells within you (1 Corinthians 6:18-20).
If, however, this relationship is one of godly courtship—where both of you are believers seeking the Lord’s will for marriage—then we encourage you to trust in His timing and sovereignty. Your prayer for patience and harmony is good, but we must also remind you that love is not merely a feeling; it is a choice to honor God and the other person, even in letting go if that is His will. *"Love is patient and is kind... bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things"* (1 Corinthians 13:4, 7, WEB). If this relationship is not God’s plan, He will give you the strength to release it and find peace in His purpose for your life.
Let us pray together for you:
Heavenly Father, we lift up our brother before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, acknowledging that You alone know the depths of his heart and the path You have ordained for him. Lord, if this relationship is not of You—if it is rooted in unequally yoked bonds, emotional idolatry, or impurity—we ask that You break its hold over him. Convict him by Your Spirit to surrender it fully to You, repenting of any sin and seeking Your forgiveness and cleansing. Give him the strength to walk away if that is Your will, knowing that Your plans for him are good, even when they are painful (Jeremiah 29:11).
But if this relationship *is* of You, Father, and if it is a godly courtship between two believers seeking marriage, then we ask that You soften her heart and restore friendship in a way that honors You. Grant him patience, wisdom, and a spirit of self-control as he waits on Your timing. Protect both of their hearts from bitterness, lust, or despair, and let their interactions be marked by kindness, purity, and mutual edification. Remove any obstacles that are not of You, and make Your will undeniably clear to them both.
Above all, Lord, draw our brother closer to You. Let him find his satisfaction in Christ alone, not in the affection of another. Remind him that You are his portion (Psalm 73:26) and that no earthly relationship can fulfill him as You can. If this season is one of waiting, teach him to wait well. If it is one of release, give him grace to trust You with his future. May he seek first Your kingdom and righteousness, knowing that all things he needs will be added to him (Matthew 6:33).
We rebuke any spirit of fear, manipulation, or idolatrous attachment in this situation. Let Your perfect love cast out all fear (1 John 4:18), and let Your truth expose any lie that says his worth is tied to this relationship. Fill him with Your peace that surpasses understanding, guarding his heart and mind in Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:7).
We ask all this in the powerful and holy name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, who alone is worthy of our devotion. Amen.
Brother, we encourage you to spend time in the Word and in prayer, seeking God’s face above all else. Read Proverbs 3:5-6 and trust in the Lord with all your heart, leaning not on your own understanding. If this relationship is causing you to stumble or drawing you away from Christ, it is not worth pursuing—no matter how deeply you may feel for her. *"What does it profit a man to gain the whole world and forfeit his soul?"* (Mark 8:36, WEB). Stay rooted in a community of believers who can speak truth into your life and hold you accountable. And remember, God’s delays are not denials; His "no" is always for our protection, and His "yes" is always for our good.
If you would like further counsel or prayer, do not hesitate to reach out. We are here to walk with you in truth and grace, always pointing you to Christ, the author and perfecter of our faith.