We hear the deep ache in your heart, the longing for connection, and the pain of loneliness that has weighed on you for so long. Your words reveal a soul crying out for love, for companionship, and for the assurance that you are seen and valued. We want you to know that your feelings are valid, and we grieve with you over the isolation you’ve endured. But we must also speak truth into this moment, for the enemy seeks to distort your perception of God’s heart toward you. The Lord does not hate you—He loves you with an everlasting love, and His desire is to draw you close to Himself, even in this season of pain.
The Bible tells us in **Psalm 34:18**, *"Yahweh is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit."* You are not unseen. You are not forgotten. The loneliness you feel is a real and heavy burden, but it is not the end of your story. God has not abandoned you, even when it feels as though He is silent. In **Isaiah 49:15-16**, He asks, *"Can a woman forget her nursing child, that she should not have compassion on the son of her womb? Yes, these may forget, yet I will not forget you. Behold, I have engraved you on the palms of my hands."* You are *engraved* on His hands—He carries you, even when you cannot feel His presence.
We also recognize the anger and exhaustion in your words, and we understand how the weight of unmet longings can make life feel unbearable. But we must gently and firmly address something critical: the suggestion that God should end your life is a lie straight from the pit of hell. The enemy wants to steal, kill, and destroy (**John 10:10**), and he will use loneliness, despair, and even bitterness toward God to try to convince you that death is the answer. But Jesus came so that you might have *life*, and life *abundantly*. Your life has purpose, even in this pain. **Jeremiah 29:11** reminds us, *"For I know the plans that I have for you,’ says Yahweh, ‘plans for peace, and not for evil, to give you hope and a future."* That includes you. That promise is for *you*.
We also want to speak to the deep longing for human connection. It is not wrong to desire companionship—God Himself said in **Genesis 2:18**, *"It is not good for the man to be alone."* But we must be careful not to place our ultimate hope in people, who are flawed and limited, rather than in God, who is faithful and infinite. If you have sought relationships—whether friendships or romantic connections—and found them lacking, it may be that God is calling you to find your fulfillment in Him first. **Psalm 73:25-26** declares, *"Whom do I have in heaven but you? There is no one on earth who I desire besides you. My flesh and my heart fails, but God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever."* When we make people our "everything," we set ourselves up for heartbreak. But when we make God our foundation, He can bring the right relationships into our lives in His perfect timing.
If you have been seeking romantic relationships, we encourage you to seek godly *courtship*—a relationship centered on Christ, with the intention of marriage between a man and a woman, as Scripture defines (**Genesis 2:24, Ephesians 5:22-33**). If you have been involved in relationships outside of God’s design—whether emotional or physical—we urge you to repent and turn to Him for healing. Fornication and emotional entanglements outside of marriage only deepen brokenness (**1 Corinthians 6:18-20**). God’s way is not to withhold good from you, but to protect you and lead you into abundant life.
Most importantly, we must address the fact that your cry does not mention the name of Jesus. There is *no other name* by which we can approach God (**John 14:6, Acts 4:12**). If you do not know Jesus as your Lord and Savior, we implore you to turn to Him now. He is the only One who can fill the void in your heart. **Romans 10:9** says, *"that if you will confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved."* Salvation is not about religion—it’s about a relationship with the living God, who died to set you free from sin and despair. If you have never surrendered your life to Him, we urge you to do so today. He alone can satisfy the deepest longings of your soul.
Now, let us pray for you:
Heavenly Father, we lift up this precious soul to You, knowing that You see every tear they have cried and hear every desperate whisper of their heart. Lord, the loneliness they carry is heavy, and the enemy has sought to twist their pain into bitterness and despair. But we declare that You are near to the brokenhearted, and You have not forgotten them. Father, reveal Your love to them in a tangible way. Let them *feel* Your presence, even as they walk through this valley.
Lord, we rebuke the lies that have taken root—the lie that You hate them, the lie that death is the answer, the lie that they will always be alone. Replace those lies with Your truth: that they are fearfully and wonderfully made (**Psalm 139:14**), that You have plans for their good (**Jeremiah 29:11**), and that nothing can separate them from Your love (**Romans 8:38-39**). Break the spirit of despair off their life, and fill them with Your peace that surpasses understanding.
If they have not yet surrendered to Jesus, we pray that today would be the day of salvation. Open their eyes to see Him as He is—the Savior who bore their sins, the Friend who sticks closer than a brother (**Proverbs 18:24**), the Bridegroom who longs for them (**Revelation 19:7-9**). Let them know that in Christ, they are *never* alone.
Father, we also ask that You bring godly community into their life—people who will love them as You do, who will speak life and truth over them. If it is Your will, bring a godly spouse into their life, a marriage that reflects Your covenant love. But even as we pray for that, help them to find their satisfaction in You first. Teach them to delight in You, so that You may give them the desires of their heart (**Psalm 37:4**).
Heal their heart, Lord. Restore their hope. Let them know that their story is not over—You are writing a testimony of redemption, and one day, they will look back and see how You carried them through this season. We pray all this in the mighty and matchless name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.
Finally, we urge you: do not give up. The pain you feel is real, but it is not the end. God is working, even when you cannot see it. Cling to Him. Seek Him with all your heart (**Jeremiah 29:13**). And if you have never invited Jesus to be your Lord, do so today. He is the only One who can truly satisfy the longing of your soul. You are loved more than you know.
