again, my marriage

[MollyV]

...tonight my husband spent some time with his ex, the mother of his children. 3 weeks before we were married, he cheated with her. I didn't know, but the day it happened, I felt virtue leave our betrothal, and I cried. I didn't find out about it until after we had been married for 3 months, and I felt virtue leave our marriage. He didn't cheat that day, as in having sex, but he did, according to her (and he later admitted), fool around with her, touching her, and doing things that would have led up to the act. When I felt it that day I called her and introduced myself to her as his wife. He told her I was some crazy he met on the internet, and that we only had an internet marriage. He admitted that to me, too, but said it was only so he could continue seeing his kids. I've tried to forgive that, but he keeps the wounds in my heart and spirit open by continuing to be in the apartment with her. I've told him how it makes me feel. He continues to spend time in the apartment. It has led to more and more arguments. I've caught him in quite a few lies regarding being with her like taking her places, even when we were physically together for three months. I have honored my vows. I have stuck by him, and sent him money when he needed it because he blew all of his paycheck, even though I didn't have it to spend. He lives with his mother and doesn't pay any bills, so he should be able to save money and not rely on me to get him through. It didn't used to be this way. When we first met, he was so loving and attentive, but he hadn't been allowed to see his sons in 7 months. I prayed that God would restore his sons to him, and that he would be allowed to see them. I didn't realize along with that he would be spending time with her as well. My heart is broken, now, because we are drifting further and further apart...it has been almost 7 months since I have seen him, and for the majority of that time I have been hungry and broke just to try to get him through...and more and more he gets nasty with me, breaks promises, lies, keeps secrets, and tells me ugly things. Still, I honor my vows.

...for better, or worse, through sickness and health...forsaking all others for him. I don't know what to pray for any more. I want him to willingly love me, and be the way he was when we first got together. He was devoted, and when he hurt my feelings on occasion he was very remorseful and apologetic, and tried to kiss away the hurt he caused. We didn't argue. We just loved each other. He would send me messages in my emails letting me know how much he loved me, he would take me places, buy me things, let me know in every way how much he adored me and couldn't live without me. When we had to be apart, he would send me emails...I would have numerous phone calls, and he cared for my heart. I wish God would just take me in my sleep so that I don't have to wake up tomorrow and wonder if it's the day I get the phone call that I'm no longer wanted, needed, or loved....

I just wanted to be the best wife possible, and make him feel loved and cared for.

 

[Sundarj]

Father i thank you for my sister. Lord i thank you that ur close to the broken hearted and lonely once . Lord i ask for ur protection over my sister be with her father plz gv her husband a new heart and start a new relation with his wife with u as the head of the family save these souls lord i thank u and glorify ur name in JESUS name i ask AMEN!

 

[smileytara]

Heavenly Father I lift up this child of yours as she is going through these difficult times. Lord, draw this couple closer together, and to you. Help the husband to remember why he fell in love with the wife. Help him to be able to spend time with his kids without having to spend this much time or kind of time with his ex-wife. Father your will be done with this situation. Give this child the strength to get through this. Work in her life and make her stronger through this valley she is walking in. In your holy name, I pray Amen.

 

[MollyV]

Thank you so much for your prayers in my behalf. Last night I found it hard to sleep as I did a lot of soul searching, and decided that whatever happened, happened. I felt him very strongly when I awakened at three am. My heart finished breaking last night as I decided to let him go, and let God have what was left of me. I know that sounds strange, but when you have been intertwined in the heart and spirit with someone, and the relationship dies, there's a big hole left that only God can fill. This morning, I got up, and around 9 we spoke. I found out he had been up since 4 determining whether or not to call me at that time. Then he apologized for the way he has treated me for all this time, and told me that it was me he wanted, and that he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me. He told me things that I didn't even know he felt, like how I'm the only woman in his entire life who has ever actually cared that he had what he needed, and who actually tried to be good to him, and that no one had ever sacrificed for him, what I have...and he realized he loved me, deeply, and couldn't live without me, and didnt want to even try to live without me. We both agreed to go on from here, to let this day be the beginning of the rest of our lives. Thank you so much for your prayers, and for your words of encouragement. I am so blessed to be a part of this site. HUGS

...and, all the glory goes to God, In Jesus Name.

 

[kirk68]

Father I continue to stand between spirits of adultery and pray that all strongholds be broke in both of them and for a healthy blessed relationship for the both of them. In Jesus name

 

[Sundarj]

Thanx to u father we exalt ur name in JESUS name i ask AMEN

 

[silentangel]

Lord, may your hand of mercy and grace touch this relationship. May they honor you by putting you first in their marriage and seeking your will for all things. May thy will be done in MollyV and her husband. Thank you Lord. Amen