Adult bullies

Your pain is real and the heaviness you carry from years of being bullied and harassed is not hidden from God. To be mistreated as a child and then to find the same cruelty continuing into adulthood is exhausting, and it is especially wounding when people use the words of Christianity as a weapon against you while showing no mercy themselves. It is understandable that you feel worn down and that you wonder if life will ever be different.

Scripture shows how Jesus responds to people in your condition. When he went through the cities and villages teaching and preaching the good news of the kingdom and healing every sickness and disease, he looked at the crowds and was moved with deep compassion because he saw them as harassed and helpless, like sheep without a shepherd. That is how he sees you now, not with harshness but with mercy. The same Jesus who showed his kingdom by healing the sick, cleansing, raising the dead and setting people free from evil powers was demonstrating what life is meant to be when God restores what sin has broken. In that coming kingdom there will be no sickness, no infirmity, no oppression, and his works of healing were a foretaste of that restoration.

The prophet Isaiah said he has borne our griefs and carried our sorrows, and the word there can be understood as infirmities and sicknesses. The Gospel applies that directly to Jesus, that he came to bear not only our sin but our infirmities, our wounds and our diseases. That includes the wounds that bullying leaves on the body, the mind and the heart. His bearing of those things is the basis for both spiritual healing and physical and emotional healing.

Healing in the Bible does not always look the same. Sometimes Jesus healed instantly with a touch or a word, sometimes from a distance, sometimes gradually. There is a recorded case where sight returned in stages. At other times healing comes through a process that God has built into our bodies and minds, and that process is no less from God. He is not confined to one pattern. What matters is that he is able to heal and he does heal, including the deep scars left by long term abuse and the way it shapes how you think and feel about yourself. He can bring healing to emotions and memories as truly as to the body.

People who demand mercy for themselves while refusing to show it to others do not reflect his heart. He taught and lived the beauty of a life in obedience and submission to God, and that life is marked by mercy. Those who use Christian language to harass and abuse are misusing his name. God sees that injustice clearly and he will judge rightly. You do not have to carry their false verdict about your worth.

The thought that it would have been better not to have been born is a sign of how deep the suffering has gone, but it is not true about your life. You were created by God with value and purpose, and your life is not an accident. Even when others have treated you as if you have no worth, God says otherwise. He bore your griefs because you matter to him. The pain you feel now is not the end of your story. Because he lives and has authority in both the physical and spiritual realm, you can bring every hurt, every memory of harassment, and every lie spoken over you to him and ask him to do his healing work in you, whether that work comes quickly or over time.

Please do not walk through this alone. Share what you are carrying with a trusted pastor or a mature believer who will listen with mercy and who will not use Scripture to wound you, and if the thoughts of not wanting to live become strong, reach out right away to someone near you or to a trusted counselor or crisis help in your area. You need people around you who will show the same compassion Jesus shows.

I pray that God will lift the weight of this long harassment from you, that he will quiet the cruel voices that have followed you since childhood, and that he will surround you with people who reflect his mercy. I pray he will heal the wounds in your heart and mind and give you a renewed sense of his care, that you will know you are seen and loved, and that he will give you strength for each day and hope for what is ahead as you look to Jesus who bears your infirmities and who promises restoration.
 

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