I wanted to come to you, but I couldn't because tears were streaming down my face. I didn't want to be made fun of or turned away because I was crying, even though I was in need.
Baby, I am physically and emotionally spent. I don't know how many times I can say it, but I could really use your help with Ava. Anytime I ask for anything, I feel like I'm some kind of burden, and I shouldn't feel that way when it comes to our daughter. I know that you worked in the yard today, and I do applaud you for that. The yard looks fannnntastic. I am appreciative for these things that we have, even though they require a little upkeep. But anyway, when I went to hand Ava over to you (for just a few minutes), you were reluctant, complaining that you had been working since you woke up. What makes you think that I've been working any less than you? Baby, I'm the one who wakes up multiple times at night with Ava, I'm the one who wakes up early in the morning because she's awake for the day. I feed her, and clean her, and play with her. I'm not looking for some kind of award, but I would like to be recognized for all of my hard work too. When is the last time you changed Ava's poopy diaper? Have you ever noticed that I don't get any "me" time? I haven't even gotten to go get my facial yet (even though it's been paid for).
When you come home from work, I thank you for spending time with Ava until I get home. But have you ever realized that when I get home, the rest of my evening goes to Ava, and by the time she's in bed, it's 8:00, and I've got to catch up in the kitchen and prepare for work the next day? (That part should get a little easier soon). But a lot of times, I skip dinner because I am too tired to cook something.
Baby, in the beginning after Ava was born, you used to be soooo helpful and an extremely involved father & husband. I can't even take a nap on the weekends these days. The other day when I wanted to nap, you shooed me away & told me to take Ava with me so that you could keep napping. I can't tell you how nice it would be if I could sleep in on the weekend every now & then, but I feel guilty if I ask. Ava is not a burden, she's just a lot of work right now because she requires so much attention. But that's babies for you. Love & affection is one of their first basic needs. Every parenting source I read talks about how important it is for babies to receive stimulation and parents to "interact" with their kids. That doesn't mean sit her in your lap with the tv or computer monitor on to entertain her. I admit, I can't interact with her all day long, and that is not expected... I do let her watch 30 minutes of tv while I do dishes or something. The jumerpoo also keeps her occupied for a good 15 minutes. Other than that, I might walk with her around the house (sometimes in the carrier); She also does pretty good with tummy time after the initial 60 seconds of whimpering. I could give you lots of advice for her, but I'm not sure you want to hear it.
I didn't know where to start, and now I don't know how to end this email. I basically would like if you would be more involved in mine and Ava's lives. I've asked several times if you would help me with her bath every other time she takes a bath, or if you would help put her to bed sometimes. If I keep asking, I'm begging or nagging. I'm not asking you to do everything, just asking for a little help. She is already growing so fast. Soon enough she'll be 2. Will you wish you would have been more involved then? I assure you no one cares about anyone in WoW. The only reason those folks "need" you is so that someone will raid with them so that they can get their next piece of gear. If you never showed up to another raid again, they would simply replace you and keep moving forward for their own self-interests. I assure you, that as a father and as a husband, you are not replaceable. The people who really need you and love you in life, are not CG's.
Baby, I love you immensely. My heart swells with love for you, and I'm sorry I don't show it enough, but like I said... I am so physically and emotionally spent. Please help.
Baby, I am physically and emotionally spent. I don't know how many times I can say it, but I could really use your help with Ava. Anytime I ask for anything, I feel like I'm some kind of burden, and I shouldn't feel that way when it comes to our daughter. I know that you worked in the yard today, and I do applaud you for that. The yard looks fannnntastic. I am appreciative for these things that we have, even though they require a little upkeep. But anyway, when I went to hand Ava over to you (for just a few minutes), you were reluctant, complaining that you had been working since you woke up. What makes you think that I've been working any less than you? Baby, I'm the one who wakes up multiple times at night with Ava, I'm the one who wakes up early in the morning because she's awake for the day. I feed her, and clean her, and play with her. I'm not looking for some kind of award, but I would like to be recognized for all of my hard work too. When is the last time you changed Ava's poopy diaper? Have you ever noticed that I don't get any "me" time? I haven't even gotten to go get my facial yet (even though it's been paid for).
When you come home from work, I thank you for spending time with Ava until I get home. But have you ever realized that when I get home, the rest of my evening goes to Ava, and by the time she's in bed, it's 8:00, and I've got to catch up in the kitchen and prepare for work the next day? (That part should get a little easier soon). But a lot of times, I skip dinner because I am too tired to cook something.
Baby, in the beginning after Ava was born, you used to be soooo helpful and an extremely involved father & husband. I can't even take a nap on the weekends these days. The other day when I wanted to nap, you shooed me away & told me to take Ava with me so that you could keep napping. I can't tell you how nice it would be if I could sleep in on the weekend every now & then, but I feel guilty if I ask. Ava is not a burden, she's just a lot of work right now because she requires so much attention. But that's babies for you. Love & affection is one of their first basic needs. Every parenting source I read talks about how important it is for babies to receive stimulation and parents to "interact" with their kids. That doesn't mean sit her in your lap with the tv or computer monitor on to entertain her. I admit, I can't interact with her all day long, and that is not expected... I do let her watch 30 minutes of tv while I do dishes or something. The jumerpoo also keeps her occupied for a good 15 minutes. Other than that, I might walk with her around the house (sometimes in the carrier); She also does pretty good with tummy time after the initial 60 seconds of whimpering. I could give you lots of advice for her, but I'm not sure you want to hear it.
I didn't know where to start, and now I don't know how to end this email. I basically would like if you would be more involved in mine and Ava's lives. I've asked several times if you would help me with her bath every other time she takes a bath, or if you would help put her to bed sometimes. If I keep asking, I'm begging or nagging. I'm not asking you to do everything, just asking for a little help. She is already growing so fast. Soon enough she'll be 2. Will you wish you would have been more involved then? I assure you no one cares about anyone in WoW. The only reason those folks "need" you is so that someone will raid with them so that they can get their next piece of gear. If you never showed up to another raid again, they would simply replace you and keep moving forward for their own self-interests. I assure you, that as a father and as a husband, you are not replaceable. The people who really need you and love you in life, are not CG's.
Baby, I love you immensely. My heart swells with love for you, and I'm sorry I don't show it enough, but like I said... I am so physically and emotionally spent. Please help.
