We hear your deep pain, exhaustion, and longing for a godly marriage that honors the Lord. Your heart cries out for loyalty, security, and a husband who will cherish you as Christ cherishes the Church. First, we must address some concerns in your request with love and truth, for Scripture commands us to speak the truth in love (Ephesians 4:15).
You mention speaking things into existence and commanding a husband to appear. Beloved, we do not have the authority to manipulate or demand God’s will. Instead, we surrender our desires to Him, trusting that His plans are perfect (Proverbs 3:5-6). We pray *for* a godly spouse, not *at* God to produce one on our terms. The power is not in our words but in God’s sovereignty. "Unless the Lord builds the house, the builders labor in vain" (Psalm 127:1). Let us seek His will, not our own decrees.
You also reference Satan and his schemes, and we take this seriously. The enemy *does* seek to steal, kill, and destroy (John 10:10), but we do not engage in spiritual warfare by our own strength or theatrics. We resist the devil by submitting to God, standing firm in faith, and putting on the full armor of God (James 4:7, Ephesians 6:10-18). Do not give the enemy more credit than he is due—greater is He who is in you than he who is in the world (1 John 4:4). Your worth is not defined by the enemy’s attacks but by Christ’s sacrifice.
Your pain over past betrayals is valid, and we grieve with you. But we must rebuke the bitterness that can take root when we focus on the hurt rather than the Healer. "See to it that no one falls short of the grace of God and that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many" (Hebrews 12:15). Forgiveness does not mean what they did was okay; it means you release them to God’s justice and free yourself from their grip. Unforgiveness is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.
Now, let us pray for you with hearts aligned to God’s Word:
Heavenly Father, we come before You on behalf of our sister, lifting her heart to You. Lord, she is weary from the wounds of betrayal and the exhaustion of unmet longings. We ask that You would heal her heart, replacing every lie the enemy has spoken with Your truth. Remind her that she is fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14), that she is Your beloved daughter, and that her worth is found in Christ alone.
Father, we pray for a godly husband for her—not one she commands into existence, but one You have prepared for her from the foundation of the world. Raise up a man who loves You first, who will lead her with gentleness and strength, who will cherish her as Christ cherishes the Church (Ephesians 5:25). Guard her heart from impatience and from settling for less than Your best. Give her wisdom to discern Your will and the courage to wait for it.
Lord, we rebuke the spirit of insecurity and rejection that has tormented her. May she find her security in You, knowing that You will never leave her nor forsake her (Hebrews 13:5). Restore her confidence, not in her outward appearance, but in the identity You have given her. Provide for her needs—financially, emotionally, and spiritually. If it is Your will, bless her with stability, a home, and the resources she needs to thrive.
Father, we ask that You break every chain of past trauma. Heal the memories that haunt her and replace them with Your peace. Let her see herself through Your eyes—as a woman of value, dignity, and purpose. Surround her with godly community that will encourage and uplift her.
And Lord, if there has been any unconfessed sin in her life—whether bitterness, unforgiveness, or seeking control over Your will—we ask that You would reveal it to her and lead her to repentance. Cleanse her heart and renew a right spirit within her (Psalm 51:10).
We declare over her life that the enemy’s games are over. No longer will she be a target for his schemes. We stand in the authority of Jesus’ name and command every spirit of rejection, abandonment, and fear to flee. She is covered by the blood of Jesus, and no weapon formed against her shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17).
Lord, we trust You to write her story. Whether You bring a husband into her life or call her to a season of singleness, we pray that she would find her ultimate fulfillment in You. May she seek first Your kingdom and Your righteousness, knowing that all these things will be added unto her (Matthew 6:33).
In the mighty name of Jesus, we pray. Amen.
Beloved, we encourage you to immerse yourself in Scripture. Meditate on God’s promises for you in Psalm 34:18-19: "The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit. Many are the afflictions of the righteous, but the Lord delivers him out of them all." You are not forgotten. You are not alone.
Consider joining a Bible-believing church where you can find godly mentorship and community. If you have not yet surrendered your life to Christ, we urge you to do so today. Salvation is found in no one else but Jesus (Acts 4:12). Confess your sins, believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead, and you will be saved (Romans 10:9). This is the first and most important step in every area of your life.
Lastly, we caution against placing your hope in material things—money, a vehicle, or a home—to fill the void in your heart. These things are blessings from God, but they cannot satisfy the way He can. Seek Him first, and He will provide all you need.
You are precious in His sight. Walk in His truth, and He will lead you into the abundant life He has for you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
