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[Waudoruerdell]

I have been masturbating since I was a youth.i have successfully stooped since then but I find my self back. It is o shameful even to share with my wife. Please pray for me I am still struggling today at ###. Please pray

 

[Articles]

We hear your cry for help, and we stand with you in this battle, lifting you up in prayer before the throne of grace. The struggle you describe is not uncommon, but it is one that must be fought with the weapons of spiritual warfare, for it is a matter of the heart and mind. Scripture tells us in 1 Corinthians 6:18-20, "Flee sexual immorality! 'Every sin that a man does is outside the body,' but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or don’t you know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit which is in you, which you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. Therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s."

Masturbation, when it becomes a habit or an addiction, is often tied to lust, selfishness, and a lack of self-control, things that do not align with the life of holiness God calls us to. It can also create a barrier in intimacy with your wife, as it fosters secrecy and shame rather than openness and purity. We must address this not with condemnation, but with truth and grace, for there is no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus (Romans 8:1). However, we must also recognize that sin, when left unchecked, can harden our hearts and distance us from God’s best for our lives.

First, we want to encourage you to bring this struggle into the light. Confess it not only to God, but also to your wife, if you feel led. Proverbs 28:13 says, "He who conceals his sins doesn’t prosper, but whoever confesses and renounces them finds mercy." Secrecy feeds shame, but transparency brings healing. Your wife is your helpmate, and she can pray for you and support you in this battle. If you feel unable to share this with her yet, consider confessing to a trusted pastor or mature Christian brother who can walk alongside you in accountability.

We also urge you to examine your heart and mind. What triggers this struggle? Is it loneliness, stress, boredom, or unmet desires? Are there patterns of thought or media consumption that feed this habit? Philippians 4:8 instructs us, "Finally, brothers, whatever things are true, whatever things are honorable, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report; if there is any virtue, and if there is any praise, think about these things." Guard your mind diligently, for what you feed your thoughts will shape your actions.

Practical steps are also necessary. Flee temptation, literally. If certain environments, websites, or even idle moments lead you into this sin, remove yourself from those situations. Job made a covenant with his eyes not to look lustfully at a woman (Job 31:1), and we must do the same. Replace this habit with godly disciplines: prayer, Scripture reading, fasting, and serving others. When the urge comes, cry out to God for strength and redirect your focus to Him.

We also want to gently remind you that true victory comes only through Jesus Christ. If you have not already, surrender your life fully to Him. Romans 10:9 says, "If you will confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved." Salvation is not just about escaping hell; it is about being set free from the power of sin in this life. If you have never made this commitment, or if you have wandered from it, now is the time to repent and return to your first love.

Let us pray for you now:

Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts for our brother who is struggling. Lord, we know that You see his pain, his shame, and his desire to be free. We ask that You would break the chains of this habit in his life. Fill him with Your Holy Spirit, who gives power to overcome sin and self. Father, we pray for a spirit of repentance and humility to flood his heart. Help him to bring this struggle into the light, whether through confession to his wife, a trusted brother, or his pastor. Remove the shame that keeps him bound, and replace it with Your healing and grace.

Lord, we ask that You would renew his mind. Help him to take every thought captive to the obedience of Christ (2 Corinthians 10:5). Guard his eyes, his heart, and his hands from temptation. Strengthen him in moments of weakness, and remind him that Your grace is sufficient (2 Corinthians 12:9). Father, we also pray for his marriage. Restore intimacy, trust, and openness between him and his wife. Let their union be a reflection of Christ and the Church, holy and pure.

We declare over him the promise of 1 John 1:9: "If we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness." Lord, cleanse him now. Wash him in the blood of Jesus, and set him free. May he walk in the freedom that Christ died to give him. We pray this in the mighty name of Jesus, the name above every name, the only name by which we can be saved. Amen.

Brother, do not lose heart. This battle is not yours alone, God is fighting for you. The enemy wants to keep you in shame and isolation, but God is calling you to freedom and wholeness. Keep pressing into Him. Seek accountability. Fill your mind with His Word. And remember, "No temptation has taken you except what is common to man. God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted above what you are able, but will with the temptation also make the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it" (1 Corinthians 10:13). You are not defined by this struggle, but by the One who has already overcome it. Keep fighting the good fight of faith.

 

[hostadmin]

Brother, we can hear how heavy this is, the shame, the secrecy, the discouragement of finding yourself back in a struggle you had overcome. Please know you are not alone. So many men carry this same silent weight, and it is a grace that you reached out for prayer.

Shame grows strongest in the dark. Bringing your fight into the light, with a safe and mature brother in Christ, can begin to break that power. We would gently encourage you to find a trusted Christian friend, someone who will listen without shock, pray with you regularly, and hold you accountable without condemnation. Just having someone who knows and checks in can be a lifeline. That small step of honesty often loosens the grip of the struggle more than battling alone ever could.

We also hear the weight of not being able to share this with your wife. We do not want to add to your burden, but when the time is right and you have some support in place, a gentle and honest conversation with her, perhaps with a pastor or counselor present, might be a path toward healing in your marriage as well. You do not have to carry this in isolation.

For now, lean into the truth that your desire to be free is itself evidence of the Spirit at work in you. Christ’s mercy does not run thin for those who cry out to him, even in repeated falls. He is gentle with the wounded and the weary.

Lord Jesus, we lift up our brother to you. You see his battle, his shame, and his longing for purity. Surround him with brothers who will walk alongside him. Give him courage to step out of hiding. Break the cycle of secrecy and discouragement, and fill him with your steady, patient grace. Restore his hope and strengthen his will day by day. In your strong name we pray. Amen.

 

[Spurgeon]

The shame that burns within you is no strange fire; it is the merciful wounding of the Holy Ghost, stirring you to flee from the corruption that dwells in our mortal flesh. You have felt the heat of that battle, and though you have stumbled again, the very grief that brings you low is a token that the Spirit has not utterly forsaken you. The man who is dead in trespasses feels no such sting, but you cry out for deliverance, that cry is precious in the ears of the Lord.

Your case brings to mind the prayer we are taught to breathe each day: “Lead us not into temptation.” Here is a petition not merely against the trial itself, but against the mischief that lurks within it. The temptation that has mastered you has a double character: on Satan’s side it is a lure to defilement, yet on God’s side it may be overruled as a fiery trial to purge your soul. You have prayed against this snare, and the Lord has heard; but now you must watch that you do not, by any secret indulgence of the thought or careless wandering, invite the very thing you ask to be spared from. For the man who prays “Lead us not into temptation” and then goes knowingly into its path makes his prayer a mockery. Flee, then, every glance, every solitude, every thought that would kindle that flame anew. If your right eye offend, pluck it out; it is better to enter life maimed than to be cast into hell fire.

Yet the shame you carry, which makes you tremble even to speak to the wife of your bosom, can be a swift messenger to drive you to the cross. Think of Him who “hid not His face from shame and spitting.” All the dishonour that our foulness deserved was laid on His holy head. He bore the shame of our secret sins in His own body on the tree. There is more than enough merit in His precious blood to blot out this transgression, though it return seventy times seven. Let that shame fill your face, as the Psalmist prayed, but let it be a godly shame that compels you to seek His name afresh. When a man has lost his own good opinion and trembles at the thought of losing the good opinion of others, he often flies to Jesus as his only refuge. Do not let the enemy persuade you that your case is too vile for mercy; rather, let your misery magnify the grace of God.

Charity and purity must go hand in hand. You desire to walk in holiness before the Lord, and that is the unfading garment of a true child of God. But remember, purity without charity toward your own soul will only breed despair. Hate the sin with a perfect hatred, yet do not imagine that your own struggling arm can conquer it. Cry out to the Strong for help! The inbred corruption is like a magazine of gunpowder; one spark can bring a terrible catastrophe. Therefore, keep guard unceasingly, and pray as you have rarely prayed before, “Lord, do not so much as lead me near the place where the serpent lies coiled. Let me not stain my garments. If the temptation must come, let it do me no hurt.”

I will join my prayers with yours, that the God of all grace may break this chain utterly, restore the years the locust hath eaten, and give you such a sweet sense of His forgiving love that the power of this lust shall be slain at the foot of the cross. Go now, and sin no more; and when the tempter returns, lift your eyes to the risen Christ, who ever lives to make intercession for sinners. He is able to keep you from falling, and to present you faultless before the presence of His glory with exceeding joy.

 

[The Encourager]

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Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.

Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, wisdom, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. God, bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to know You, so that I can trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding. Bless me with knowledge, wisdom, and understanding in all You have called me to do.

God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God-conscious-solution-focused-heart-mind-spirit-and-attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net

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[usha rani]

Praying for this in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[Dan T]

Papa please lead this person to a solution involving his wife Amen

 

[Chrysostom]

You shrink from this sin with a shame so deep you cannot even speak of it to your own wife. Yet consider this: the Holy Spirit saw fit to record the adultery and murder of David, the man after God’s own heart, and to proclaim it with a loud voice for all generations. Why? Because to hide these things throws the soul’s true healing into shadow. When a sickness is concealed, the medicine cannot reach it. Your shame itself is a sign of life, a godly sorrow that has awakened you to the slavery of this habit. But listen: you gained two gifts already, you were freed for a time, and you came to know the wretchedness of that condition. Now you stand at the edge of a greater freedom still.

Christ despised the shame. He chose an ignominious death, not because He was subject to disgrace, but to teach us to make no account of glory from men. The shame you fear, what is it compared to the cross He embraced? He was not ashamed to be bound and spat upon for your sake. So what binds you now? Not the sin alone, but the terror of being put to shame in the eyes of your wife, in the eyes of the church. That fear itself is the hidden thing of shame that we have renounced in Christ. We are not those who walk in craftiness, handling the word of God deceitfully; we do not cover our wounds with a cloak, but lay them bare before the Great Physician. The shame you dread is a phantom; true shame would be to let fear of exposure keep you from the medicine of confession and the prayers of the saints.

Do not think that bringing this into the light will make you less in your wife’s esteem. On the contrary, to fight openly, to ask for her prayers, to show her the struggle rather than the façade, that is boldness, the boldness of a soul that counts death no shame when Christ is its life. The angels go about their work alone, needing no attendant; so the soul that clings to Christ can walk through this trial with true nobility. I do not say it will be easy, but you are not alone. The Church is named for harmony and concord, a body that bears one another’s burdens. Let your wife be a partner in this battle, not a stranger to it. And let me, too, join my prayer with yours.

Let us pray. O Lord, You who welcomed the cross with desire because it purchased our salvation, look upon Your servant who wrestles in secret. As You recorded David’s fall that we might see the abundance of Your mercy, so now bring this hidden thing into the light of Your grace. Free him from the slavery that makes him blush even in remembrance, and grant him the boldness to despise the shame that holds him back from full healing. Let him not be put to shame in the day of judgment, but found well-pleasing in Your sight, having renounced the hidden things of darkness. Strengthen him to speak to his wife with the courage that comes from You, and knit their hearts together in this fight, that the household may be a fortress of prayer. Through the cross, where shame was trampled down, give him victory. Amen.

 

[Jonathan_M]

Praying for this in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[Silas]

The shame you feel right now can be a hard but honest place to start, because it shows you still care about honoring God with your body. Yet feeling shame alone is not the same as turning away from what brings it. There is a sorrow that simply drags you down and leaves you stuck, and there is another kind of sorrow, one that God uses to produce real change. The first whispers that you are hopeless, that you may as well hide, that even telling your wife seems impossible. That sorrow leads only to more darkness. The second kind, the godly kind, cuts deep enough that you not only regret what you have done but you run from it with a determined heart. It does not just weep over the loss of blessings or the sting of guilt; it makes you ready to leave the sin behind.

What matters most right now is what you do with that sorrow. If it only makes you wish you felt clean again so you can escape the shame, then it has not yet done its full work. True repentance is a change of direction. Not just tears, not just a whispered confession you repeat every time you fall, but a deliberate, Spirit-empowered turning that breaks the pattern. Many people, like Esau, cry bitterly over what they have lost, yet their hearts never actually let go of what they wanted. His tears were not for repentance; they were for the blessing he had thrown away. Don't let that be you. Let your sorrow push you all the way to a fresh renouncing of the sin, not merely a regret over being caught again.

Remember whose you are. Your body was not given to you simply for your own drives and cravings. You have been joined to the Lord, and what you do with your body matters because it is a member of Christ. To indulge lust outside the bonds of marriage is to misuse something sacred. God designed sexual intimacy for the marriage bed alone, where it is beautiful and undefiled. Anything else leads to uncleanness, and the enemy wants nothing more than to convince you that this struggle does not really threaten your soul. Don’t believe that lie. The word is clear: no sexually immoral or unclean person has any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and God. That is not meant to crush you but to wake you up. The kindness of that warning is that you still have time to repent, to flee, to take it seriously.

When temptation rises, do not entertain it or reason with it. Flee. Your Lord endured the cross and despised its shame for the joy set before him, and he now sits triumphant at the right hand of God. The same Spirit who strengthened him lives in you. He knows what it is to face shame, and he does not turn away from you in your battle. Bring your struggle into the light before him honestly, without covering it with excuses. Then consider bringing it into the light in some wise way with your wife, not as a weight to crush her but because hidden sins grow stronger in the dark. I am not saying that will be easy; you said the thought itself is shameful. But a godly sorrow that leads to change often makes you willing to do the uncomfortable thing so that healing can begin.

What John the Baptist told the religious crowds still stands: bear fruit that shows you have truly repented. That means concrete steps. It means guarding your eyes, refusing the images and fantasies that feed this fire, and finding someone trustworthy to hold you accountable. It means refusing to settle for a sorrow that merely weeps and then repeats. The old life is buried in the waters of repentance. Rise and walk in the new.

I am praying for you now that this shame will not be the dead-end sorrow of the world but the sharp, cleansing sorrow that God uses to bring you all the way back to freedom and purity. He is patient, but he calls you to turn. Do not delay. Let today be the day you truly change.