Marriage

My best friend in 7th grade had a brother with muscular dystrophy. He was confined to a wheelchair, got moved in and out of the bathtub and bed by his father, and had a pretty girlfriend. At first, I wondered why a teen girl would want to carry her boyfriend’s books while he wheeled his way to class. Obviously, I was the shallow one. Once I got to know him, I realized he...

 

Actually, I do convey to lower interest spouses that they should have sex with their higher interest mates. I wholeheartedly believe that sex is good for a marriage, a gift from God that expresses and fosters intimacy.

But I have received numerous messages over the years—primarily from men but not entirely—complaining that Christian bloggers, authors...

 

Many contend that regular sex in marriage keeps a spouse from cheating. Is that true?

Can regular sex prevent an affair?


Some have gone so far as to say that regular sex “affair-proofs” a marriage. I don’t buy that.

We are responsible for ourselves. Day by day, we each decide to fulfill our vows or break them. Our spouse’s behavior can make that decision...

 

While some singles should not be reading this blog, plenty do and find at Hot, Holy & Humorous more authentic, biblical, and specific advice than they’ve previously experienced in Christian circles. It’s nice to see so many singles attempting to prepare their hearts and minds for their future marriages. Here are three such singles’ questions about sex in marriage and my replies...

 

Why don’t you want sex? Or why doesn’t your spouse want sex?

Many marriages struggle with that question, and the short answer is that there are good reasons why someone might not desire sex in their marriage. While your experience is individual, here are seven common reasons why a spouse doesn’t want sex.

1. You Don’t Understand Your Sexuality


You’re rarely...

 

My parents had a terrible marriage.

This is not news, since their divorce is public record. But recently, I’ve been contemplating once again the example I grew up with. Let’s just say they didn’t set me up well to address issues in my own marriage.

You can probably relate. Some of you had functional families (yes, they exist!), with flaws of course. Some of you had...

 

Dear Lord,

My heart is heavy for those who have lost a spouse. I could not imagine losing my best friend and lover, yet these husbands and wives know that pain all too well. I pray that your loving kindness would comfort them. I pray that your love would fill their hearts. Reveal to them the purpose of their spouse’s death or the good that can come from their loss. Help them to regain strength and confidence. If any of them have pulled away from you in anger I pray that you would...

 

Dear Lord,

We pray for those who are tired, weary, exhausted, and we ask that you give them rest. May you sustain them, provide for all their needs and comfort them. We pray that you would give them strength and fill their hearts with hope. Help them to endure. Help them to have faith. For those who are specifically weary in marriage, may you lighten their burdens. Carry them, Lord, refresh them and revive their relationships. May husbands seek to do good to their wives and may they...

 

Dear Lord,

Thank you for this day! Please give us strength as we try to do the things we know we should. Send your Holy Spirit to motivate us into action. If any of us are down, please pick us up! For the enemy comes to kill, steal and destroy… Protect us from his schemes!

In Jesus Name AMEN!

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Dear Lord,

Thank you for my life. Thank you for my understanding of you that continues to grow. Thank you for giving me the opportunity to be a wife. I pray that you would refine me, Lord. Transform my heart and make me as you created me to be. Equip me to fulfill your will and help me to treat my husband good. I pray patience and perseverance are ingrained in my character, as well as compassion. Refine my perspectives, my attitude, and my actions. I desire to be refined by your Holy...