We hear the deep ache in your heart, and we want you to know that your struggles are seen—not just by us, but by the Lord Jesus Christ, who loves you with an everlasting love. You are not forgotten, nor are you defined by the challenges of high-functioning autism, the cruelty of discrimination, or the loneliness of unmet desires. The Lord has a purpose for you, and He does not make mistakes in how He creates His children. You are fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14), and your value is not tied to a job, a relationship, or the approval of others. It is anchored in Christ alone, who gave His life so that you might have life abundantly (John 10:10).
First, let us address the pain of feeling like an outcast or the "ugly duckling." The world may measure worth by productivity, social ease, or romantic success, but God’s kingdom operates differently. He often chooses what the world considers weak to shame the strong (1 Corinthians 1:27). Your struggles do not disqualify you from His love or His plan—they may very well be the vessel through which He displays His strength. Consider Moses, who struggled with speech (Exodus 4:10), or Paul, who endured a "thorn in the flesh" (2 Corinthians 12:7). God did not remove their challenges but used them for His glory. You do not need to be "cured" to be whole in Christ. What you *do* need is to surrender your heart to Him daily, trusting that He will equip you for the work He has prepared for you (Ephesians 2:10).
Regarding employment, we understand the frustration of facing discrimination. It is unjust, and it grieves the heart of God to see His children treated unfairly. However, we encourage you to keep seeking opportunities while also asking the Lord to open doors no man can shut (Revelation 3:8). Have you considered vocations or environments where your unique strengths—such as attention to detail, deep focus, or analytical thinking—are valued? Sometimes, the Lord leads us into unexpected fields where our differences become assets. We also urge you to seek godly counsel, perhaps through a career mentor or a Christian support group for neurodiverse individuals. Proverbs 15:22 reminds us that "plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers, they succeed."
As for the longing for a girlfriend, we want to speak truth in love. The desire for companionship is God-given (Genesis 2:18), but we must pursue it in a way that honors Him. The Bible is clear that marriage is a covenant between one man and one woman (Matthew 19:4-6), and relationships should be built on a foundation of shared faith in Christ (2 Corinthians 6:14). We encourage you to reframe this season not as a lack but as an opportunity to grow in your relationship with the Lord. Seek to be the kind of man a godly woman would want to marry—one who loves Jesus, serves others, and walks in integrity. Pursue *courtship* with the goal of marriage, not just a relationship for the sake of companionship. And remember, singleness is not a curse but a gift that allows you to serve the Lord with undivided devotion (1 Corinthians 7:32-35). If fornication or lust has been a struggle in this area, we urge you to repent and flee from sexual immorality (1 Corinthians 6:18), as it dishonors God and harms your soul.
You mentioned wanting to help other autistic individuals but feeling unsuccessful. We commend your heart for service! The Lord may be preparing you even now for a ministry you cannot yet see. Start small: offer encouragement online, share your story, or volunteer in spaces where your voice can be heard. Even if the impact seems minor, obedience in small things prepares us for greater ones (Luke 16:10). And pray—ask the Lord to show you how to use your experiences to glorify Him.
Finally, we must address something beautiful in your request: you closed with "In Jesus Name." This is *exactly* how we are to approach the Father (John 14:13-14). There is no other name by which we are saved (Acts 4:12), and it is only through Christ that we have access to the throne of grace (Hebrews 4:16). Your faith in calling on His name is a testament to your trust in Him—hold fast to that!
Now, let us pray for you:
Heavenly Father, we lift up our brother to You, knowing that You see his heart and every tear he has shed. Lord, he feels overlooked, rejected, and weary from the battle. We ask that You would wrap him in Your peace, reminding him that he is *yours*—chosen, loved, and precious in Your sight. Give him supernatural strength to face discrimination with grace and to trust You for provision. Open doors of employment that align with his gifts, and let him find favor in the eyes of those in authority.
Father, we pray for his heart’s desire for companionship. Guard him from bitterness or idolatry in this area. If it is Your will, prepare a godly wife for him, but even now, satisfy him with Your love. Help him to steward his singleness well, growing in holiness and service.
Lord, use his story to encourage others who feel "less than." Give him wisdom and opportunities to minister to those who share his struggles. Let him see that his life has purpose, even in the waiting.
We rebuke the lies of the enemy that tell him he is worthless or beyond Your care. By the power of Your Word, we declare that he is fearfully and wonderfully made, redeemed by the blood of Jesus, and called for Your purposes. Fill him with Your Spirit, that he may walk in confidence and hope.
In the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Savior and Redeemer, we pray. Amen.
Brother, we leave you with this: "Commit your way to Yahweh. Trust also in him, and he will do this: he will bring out your righteousness as the light, and your justice as the noonday" (Psalm 37:5-6). Keep seeking Him, and do not lose heart. He is working, even when you cannot see it. Stand firm in Christ!
