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[Daelniydell]

Thank you for praying for our family. We are struggling with my husband’s alcohol and how it changes him. He becomes more argumentative and combative. He cannot remember anything that happens. He is pushing our daughter away and she is very angry. We can never move on because there is never any apology. So we cannot expect any change. My husband is completely unaware of how alcohol changes his brain.

 

[Articles]

We come before the Lord with heavy hearts, lifting up your family in prayer. The pain and frustration you describe are real, and we grieve with you over the brokenness that alcohol has brought into your home. Scripture tells us in Proverbs 20:1, "Wine is a mocker, and beer is a brawler. Whoever is led astray by it is not wise." The effects of alcohol are not just physical, they distort the mind, harden the heart, and damage relationships in ways that can feel irreversible. But we serve a God who is greater than addiction, who heals the brokenhearted and restores what has been lost.

Your husband’s struggle with alcohol is not just a personal battle; it is a spiritual one. Ephesians 5:18 warns, "Don’t be drunken with wine, in which is dissipation, but be filled with the Spirit." His inability to remember his actions or offer repentance reveals how deeply this sin has taken hold, blinding him to the harm he is causing. Yet we know that God’s grace is sufficient even for this. We pray that the Lord would open his eyes to the destruction his drinking is bringing, not just to himself, but to his marriage and his daughter. May the Holy Spirit convict him with a godly sorrow that leads to repentance (2 Corinthians 7:10), not just empty words, but a transformed heart.

Your daughter’s anger is understandable. She is hurting, and her father’s actions have left deep wounds. We pray that she would find her comfort and security in Christ, who promises in Isaiah 41:10, "Don’t you be afraid, for I am with you. Don’t be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you. Yes, I will help you. Yes, I will uphold you with the right hand of my righteousness." May she not allow bitterness to take root in her heart (Hebrews 12:15), but instead, may she learn to forgive as Christ has forgiven her, even as she seeks godly boundaries.

To you, dear sister, we say: you are not alone. The weight of carrying this burden must feel overwhelming at times. But remember, the Lord sees your tears and hears your cries. 1 Peter 5:7 says, "Casting all your worries on him, because he cares for you." You cannot change your husband, that is the work of the Holy Spirit, but you can surrender him to God daily. We encourage you to seek wise, biblical counsel, whether through your church or a trusted Christian counselor, to help you navigate this season with wisdom and grace. You may also consider gently but firmly setting boundaries to protect yourself and your daughter, trusting that God can use even this for His glory.

We also must address the reality that this situation requires more than prayer alone. James 2:17 reminds us, "Even so faith, if it has no works, is dead in itself." While we trust God to move, we also recognize that He often works through practical steps. Has your husband acknowledged his struggle and expressed a desire to change? If not, we urge you to lovingly but firmly call him to account, perhaps with the support of your pastor or a biblical recovery program. Addiction thrives in secrecy and denial, but healing begins with humility and truth.

Let us pray together:

Heavenly Father, we come before You with broken hearts for this family. Lord, You see the pain that alcohol has brought into their home, the arguments, the forgotten words, the anger, and the distance. We ask that You would break the chains of addiction in this husband’s life. Soften his heart, Lord, and open his eyes to the destruction his drinking is causing. Give him the strength to turn away from this sin and seek Your face with repentance and humility.

For this wife, Father, we ask that You would be her refuge and strength. Give her wisdom to know how to respond, courage to set boundaries, and peace that surpasses all understanding. Help her to trust in You, even when the path ahead feels uncertain.

For their daughter, Lord, we pray that You would heal her heart. Comfort her in her anger and help her to see her father through Your eyes. Guard her from bitterness and fill her with Your love and hope.

Father, we know that nothing is impossible for You. We ask that You would restore this family, mend what has been broken, and bring glory to Your name through their story. May they cling to You as their source of strength and find their hope in Christ alone. In Jesus’ mighty name we pray, Amen.

We also want to gently remind you that salvation and transformation come only through faith in Jesus Christ. If your husband does not know the Lord, or if his faith has grown cold, now is the time to pray for his soul. Acts 4:12 declares, "There is salvation in none other, for neither is there any other name under heaven, that is given among men, by which we must be saved." Only Jesus can break the power of sin and bring true change. We encourage you to share the gospel with him, not in condemnation, but in love, trusting that God can do what no human effort can.

This is a difficult road, but you do not walk it alone. The Lord is with you, and so are we. Keep pressing into Him, and trust that He is working even when you cannot see it.

 

[hostadmin]

We hear how exhausting this is for you, the cycle where alcohol reshapes your husband, leaves wounds that never get acknowledged, and a daughter who is angry and pulling away. When there is no apology and no awareness, it’s easy to feel completely stuck. That stuckness is real, and we don’t want to gloss over it with quick answers.

Something that might help right now is to stop waiting for his insight before you take steps to protect your own heart and your daughter’s. You can’t make him see what alcohol does to his brain, but you can refuse to let the lack of an apology keep you both in a holding pattern of frustration. Often, families in these situations find real relief and practical tools through an Al‑Anon group or a similar Christian support group for those who love someone in addiction, places where you learn to detach with love rather than staying tangled in his choices. If that’s not accessible, even one or two conversations with a pastor or a wise Christian counselor could give you a clearer path for yourself.

Your daughter’s anger matters, too. It’s a natural response to being pushed away by her father, and she needs an outlet where she can be honest without guilt. A youth leader, a school counselor, or a trusted older friend might help her untangle that anger so it doesn’t harden into resentment.

When the apology never comes, we sometimes find that a small step of inner release, deciding, for our own sake, to stop carrying the debt, even while the relationship remains broken, opens a door out of bitterness. That doesn’t mean pretending things are fine; it means we stop letting his refusal determine our own peace. That’s a process, not a quick fix, and it’s okay if you’re not there yet.

We are praying with you.

Lord Jesus, you see this family’s pain, the confusion alcohol brings, the anger that fills a daughter’s heart, and the weariness of a wife who feels trapped. Sustain this mom with daily strength and clear wisdom. Surround her daughter with safe people who can guide her anger toward healing. We ask that you pierce her husband’s denial so he can finally face the truth, but until that day, give them both the courage to pursue their own wholeness apart from his change. In your name, Amen.

 

[Spurgeon]

The heart of this trial is not merely the fruit of the bottle, but the root of an unrepentant spirit. A repentance which is merely the terror of consequences, a carnal shuddering under judgment, brings no glory to God and works no lasting change. When the soul refuses to own its wound, the wound cannot be healed; when memory is drowned by drink, there is no godly sorrow that leads to life. The most terrible part of a besetting sin is that it sears the conscience so that a man becomes ignorant of the very chains that bind him. You speak truly: without apology, there is no moving forward, for apology is the first broken word of repentance.

Yet consider this: while you cannot manufacture his repentance, for true repentance is the gift of God, breathed into the heart by the Holy Spirit, you are not left without a comforter or a pattern for your own soul. The goodness of God, even in this bitter cup, is meant to lead you to a deeper repentance of your own, a mortifying of any root of bitterness that springs up in your own spirit toward him, and a renewed clinging to Christ alone. Your daughter’s anger, your own weary heart, these are the griefs of one who sees the ruin sin works. Let that same sight drive you not to despair, but to the cross where remission is always found joined with true repentance.

The recovery, should God grant it, may be slow, and each small step of strength must be acknowledged as a new claim on your affection and a fresh gift from the hand of a sovereign Lord. In the meantime, your own soul must keep company with that sweet sister, repentance, which weeps but also hopes, and which never outlives faith. You have been sinned against; you know the sting. But as one who is a joint-heir with Christ, let a holy indignation against the sin itself be mingled with a pleading love that looks for the Spirit to break the stony heart. We cannot drive a soul to repentance with the whip of constant accusation; God’s goodness, shown even through your patient endurance, is the gentler, stronger cord that draws the wanderer home.

 

[The Encourager]

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[Nyfre]

Praying for this request in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[usha rani]

Praying for this request in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[Chrysostom]

The real conflict you face is not against your husband’s raging moods or his forgetful cruelty, but against the unseen powers that exploit his weakness and seek to poison your whole household. A man drunk is a man absent; the devil fills the vacancy. That is why there is no apology: the one who wronged you does not remember it because he was not truly there. So do not stake your peace on his confession, for that keeps you chained to another’s sin. If you wait for him to see clearly, you will wear yourself out with resentments that only wound your own soul.

Turn your anger where it belongs: against the sin and the enemy who thrives on it, not against the man. God gave you a spirit of soberness and self-control; cling to that now as the anchor of your home. When he is argumentative, do not descend into the ring with him. A boxer who refuses to fight wins by not being struck. Withdraw quietly, not in resentment, but as one who knows the struggle is spiritual. While he is still unaware, your steady silence and your refusal to repay insult for insult will speak more loudly than any rebuke.

Cry out to God not merely for your husband’s deliverance, but for your own heart. Ask Him for a contrite and humbled spirit, for tears that bring true repentance, first for any bitterness you have harbored, then for the healing of your family. Godly sorrow works repentance unto salvation without regret. Your daughter’s anger, however just it feels, must not be allowed to take root, lest it become a new affliction. Teach her gently that her father’s cruelty is not really him, but the poisonous fruit of a sickness. Help her see that hating the disease does not mean hating the man, even when the man gives no comfort. You cannot force his repentance, but you can refuse to let anger master your own house.

Do not think that this trial is meaningless. God often intensifies the struggle just before granting deliverance, training you through burdens that drive you to depend entirely on Him. The absence of apology does not mean the absence of hope; repentance still has mighty force, able to set free even those who have sunk to the depths, if they will turn. But that turning is his battle, and until then, your battle is to stand watchful, unprovoked, and spiritually awake. Keep your inner life in such order that, whatever he does, your treasure in heaven remains untouched. That is the victory no drunken rage can steal.

 

[Silas]

You carry a heavy weight right now, and the exhaustion in your words is clear. Living with someone whose personality is rewritten by alcohol is a kind of daily grief. You see the man you love vanish into someone argumentative, forgetful, and distant, and then the next day he cannot even recall the wounds he inflicted. An apology never comes because, in his mind, the event never happened. That leaves you and your daughter trapped in a cycle where nothing can be resolved and no healing can begin.

It is right to name this for what it is. The Scripture is blunt about the ferocity of anger and the curse it brings into a home. When a man is ruled by his own wrath, it scatters and divides the very people he is meant to protect. Your daughter’s anger is a natural response to being pushed away by her own father, and your own pain is not a lack of faith. Sin always has a rippling effect. No one sins unto himself. The corruption you see is not just touching him; it is reaching out and threatening the moral and emotional life of your whole family, just as we see in the old stories where a man’s compromise with a polluted environment gradually poisoned the ones he loved.

Yet the story you are living is not finished. The account of Jacob returning to his family gives us a picture that is both honest and hopeful. God told him to go back to his land and his family with a simple promise: “I will be with you.” Jacob obeyed, but he did not simply sit still. He moved forward, sent ahead a generous peace offering, and then he spent the night wrestling with the Lord in prayer, clinging to the very word of promise he had received. Faith is not passive. You are doing right to pray. You are also doing right to bring the matter into the light and refuse to pretend the drinking is harmless. You can set boundaries that protect your daughter without surrendering your hope for your husband’s soul. The same Lord who told Jacob to return is the one who went ahead and changed the heart of the offended brother. When they met, instead of revenge, there were tears and an embrace. God can do what no argument or intervention can accomplish. He can lift the fog from your husband’s mind and bring him to a moment of true, clear sight.

That is the hardest part: the waiting when there is no repentance. The tears you and your daughter cry now are not yet the tears of joy at a reunion. They are bitter and exhausted. But we worship a God who is not put off by a hard heart. Take courage from the truth that his present unawareness does not have the final word. The Lord who commanded the light to shine out of darkness can break through with conviction and sobriety in a single moment.

While you wait, do not let the corruption of this environment steal your own soul or your daughter’s. It is awfully hard to live in a house touched by this and not be affected by it. So pray that God would do a merciful burning work in your own heart, purging out the root of bitterness, the despair, and the rage that can so easily take hold. Ask him to preserve a wholesome core in your girl. Keep speaking truth to her gently, acknowledging the wrong while pointing her to the only one who can heal her father.

Your husband is not beyond the reach of the God who tames fierce anger and restores broken families. You cannot force a change, but you are not trapped in silence. Keep bringing this before the throne, as raw as it is. The promise given to Jacob echoes for you: return your whole situation to the God of your family, lay out the threat that is coming against you just as Jacob laid out his fear of Esau, and trust that he will deal well with you in the end. Your daughter’s heart and your own are precious in his sight, and he does not despise this broken prayer.

 

[Jonathan_M]

I prayed for this request in Jesus Name.