We hear the deep anguish in your cry, and we stand with you in this time of distress, lifting your heartache before the Lord. Marriage is a sacred covenant established by God, intended to reflect Christ’s love for His Church—a lifelong union between one man and one woman, bound together in faith and obedience to Him. When a marriage is outside of God’s design, whether through unbelief, unrepentant sin, or a union that was never biblically valid to begin with, it brings pain, confusion, and spiritual bondage. We understand the weight of your plea, and we want to address this with both truth and compassion, trusting in God’s power to bring deliverance and restoration.
First, we must acknowledge that if this marriage is outside of God’s will—whether because it involves unbelief, an unbiblical union (such as same-sex marriage, which Scripture clearly condemns as sin in passages like Romans 1:26-27 and 1 Corinthians 6:9-10), or a relationship built on fornication or adultery—then it is not a marriage that God honors. Jesus Himself affirmed the creation design for marriage in Matthew 19:4-6: *"Haven’t you read that he who made them from the beginning made them male and female, and said, ‘For this cause a man shall leave his father and mother, and shall be joined to his wife; and the two shall become one flesh’? So that they are no more two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, don’t let man tear apart."* If the union you are in does not align with this design, it is not a marriage that God has joined together, and you are not bound by it in His eyes.
If this marriage involves sexual immorality, such as fornication or adultery, or if it is a union that Scripture defines as sinful, then you must seek repentance and turn away from it. 1 Corinthians 6:18 commands, *"Flee sexual immorality! 'Every sin that a man does is outside the body,' but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body."* God’s desire is for you to be free from sin and to walk in holiness. If you are in a marriage that is rooted in or perpetuates sin, you must confess it before the Lord, repent, and seek His path to freedom. This may involve difficult steps, such as separation or even divorce if the union was never valid in God’s eyes, but His grace is sufficient to guide you through it.
We also notice that your request does not invoke the name of Jesus Christ, and this is something we must address with urgency. There is no other name under heaven by which we can be saved or through which we can approach the Father. Acts 4:12 declares, *"There is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven that is given among men, by which we must be saved!"* If you have not yet surrendered your life to Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior, we implore you to do so now. Confess your sins, believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead, and you will be saved (Romans 10:9-10). It is only through faith in Jesus that you can experience true deliverance, forgiveness, and the power to walk in obedience to God’s will.
If you are already a believer, then we encourage you to cry out to Jesus by name, for He is your Advocate and your Deliverer. Hebrews 4:16 reminds us, *"Let’s therefore draw near with boldness to the throne of grace, that we may receive mercy and may find grace for help in time of need."* You do not have to face this alone—Jesus is with you, and He will lead you out of this wrong union if you trust in Him completely.
Now, let us pray for you with fervency and faith:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, lifting up our brother/sister who is trapped in a marriage that is not of Your design. Lord, You are a God of truth, justice, and mercy, and You desire for Your children to walk in holiness and freedom. We ask that You expose every area of sin and unrighteousness in this situation and bring conviction where it is needed. If this union is rooted in rebellion, fornication, or any form of sexual immorality, we pray that You would break its hold and set this precious soul free. Give them the courage to repent, to turn away from sin, and to seek Your will above all else.
Lord, if this marriage is not valid in Your eyes, we ask that You would make a way of escape, just as You promised in 1 Corinthians 10:13: *"No temptation has taken you except what is common to man. God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted above what you are able, but will with the temptation also make the way of escape, that you may be able to endure."* Father, reveal the path of righteousness and provide the strength to walk in it, even if it requires difficult steps of obedience.
We also pray for protection over their heart and mind. The enemy seeks to bring shame, fear, and confusion, but we declare that You, Lord, are their Refuge and Strength. Psalm 34:17-19 says, *"The righteous cry, and Yahweh hears, and delivers them out of all their troubles. Yahweh is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit. Many are the afflictions of the righteous, but Yahweh delivers him out of them all."* Father, deliver them from this wrong marriage swiftly and completely. Surround them with godly counsel, wise believers who can walk alongside them in this season, and open doors for restoration and healing.
If there are children involved, Lord, we ask that You protect their hearts and provide for their needs. Give wisdom and discernment in every decision, and let Your peace, which surpasses all understanding, guard their hearts and minds in Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:7).
Finally, Father, we pray that this situation would be used for Your glory. Bring redemption out of this pain, and let it be a testimony of Your power to save, deliver, and restore. Draw our brother/sister closer to You through this trial, and let them emerge with a deeper faith, a purified heart, and a life fully surrendered to Your will.
We declare freedom, deliverance, and restoration in the name of Jesus Christ. Let every chain be broken, every stronghold demolished, and let Your perfect will be done. Amen.
We urge you to seek godly counsel from a pastor or mature believers who can walk with you through this process. Do not isolate yourself—surround yourself with the body of Christ, who can provide support, accountability, and prayer. If you have not yet surrendered your life to Jesus, we plead with you to do so today. There is no freedom, no deliverance, and no true peace outside of Him. If you would like to talk more about what it means to follow Christ or need further guidance, please let us know. We are here to stand with you, pray for you, and point you to the truth of God’s Word.
Be encouraged, dear one. The Lord sees your tears, hears your cries, and He will act on your behalf. Trust in Him, obey His Word, and He will lead you into the light of His freedom. *"The Lord is my light and my salvation. Whom shall I fear? The Lord is the strength of my life. Of whom shall I be afraid?"* (Psalm 27:1). Cling to Him, and He will not fail you.